He is so SEXY but I fucking HATE him

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    Jan 07, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    The purpose of this thread is to find out what thoughts you condition yourself to think over and over while you exercise in order to reach your limits.

    I find that whatever it is: cardio or weights, I pay less attention to technique and more to the emotions in my mind. I let the rock music roll and I try to imagine a really sexy muscly man, but pretend that he is an absolute arsehole so that I think to myself "im gonna teach you a lesson you good-looking jerk... I will become stronger and more muscly than you". Mind you, this is nobody in particular, I make him up in my head every time.

    I first discovered this when I realised I got a more intense feeling of working out from masturbating rather than just thinking about exercise. And in terms of motivation, I tend to respond better to things when I am angry.

    So, fellow poofs, what works for you?
  • tongun18

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    Jan 07, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    I do something similar. I don't make someone up but when doing something that's physically demanding I do tend to focus on things that really piss me off. I find the anger helps me dig my heals in and push just a little bit harder. And sometimes, as an added bonus, if I'm focusing on a personal issue that's bothering me it usually helps me get rid of excessive anger/frustration which helps me approach the problem a bit more level headed and rationally.
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    Jan 07, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    I just think about one of the many times I was teased as a kid for being fat. It gets my blood boiling and I turn into an animal. rawr!
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    Jan 07, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    I play rock music on my iphone icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 07, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    I have no motivation. I just workout because there's nothing else to do around here.
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    Lately ive been doing this:
    I look at the weights as the problems, issues ive been having in my life.
    So as i get stronger i pile on more weight; in my head these are the issues i need to lift off me.
    What doesnt break me makes me Stronger. Right?
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    I must be messed up icon_sad.gif

    I listen to my music that has a great beat to it. A mix of David Guetta, some daft punk, and random shit. But whenever I lift, I take a moment to clear my mind and fall into the beat of the music. Almost like everyone disappears, and it's just the bar and me.

    Last time I channeled anger to workout, I was at the gym for 2 hours... at 3 AM. I couldn't stop It was pure adrenaline fueled by hate and disgust, I ended up on the treadmill for an hour after until my brother found me close to 5 AM and made me stop (bad coming out story to my uncle- but I digress). I hated that feeling and avoid getting angry at the gym. But it must be because I pretty much broke down that one night.
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    There was actually an article in Men's Health Magazine that covered a similar topic. I think they were quoting a study that showed men are more likely to work out harder if they were working out next to a scrawnier guy than if they were working out next to a muscular guy. The idea is mentally you will push yourself harder because you know you can beat the "competition" if you were matched up to the scrawny guy. If you are "competing" against a muscular guy, your brain essentially "gives up" and concedes defeat. Thus, you have no additional motivation to work out harder. Thought it was an interesting point, but I guess it ultimately depends on the individual. I'm sure a lot of people would be more motivated if they were working out around stronger and more fit guys.
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    tongun18 saidI do something similar. I don't make someone up but when doing something that's physically demanding I do tend to focus on things that really piss me off. I find the anger helps me dig my heals in and push just a little bit harder. And sometimes, as an added bonus, if I'm focusing on a personal issue that's bothering me it usually helps me get rid of excessive anger/frustration which helps me approach the problem a bit more level headed and rationally.


    I do that as well while lifting. It's very therapeutic.
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Weights - several thought processes:
    1 "Look at that muscle dude benching next to me. I want to be able to lift as heavy as he is lifting.
    2 "Nothing else exists but me and this loaded barbell (allows me to concentrate).
    3 "I lifted 300 last week, I have to do 310 this week, no excuses!"

    Cardio:
    1 "Go away fat!"
    2 "Abs are impossible but worth a shot."
    3 "I am actually having a good time in this machine."
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    no... usually have a mental soundtrack going. (The tempo auto-adjusts that way.) And remember that it beats sitting at the desk talking to customers.
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    Jan 13, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    That's... um... fucked up.
    Seriously dude, that doesn't sound at all healthy. icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 13, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    A good upbeat and powerful playlist normally motivates me. Sometimes a personal sound track can really push you mentally.
    But what really helps me push harder is giving myself a goal and telling myself "I can go further...you've done it before. Do it again."

    Sometimes it works. But I try to just make it fun without taking it too seriously, I don't want the gym to become my dwelling place.


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    Jan 13, 2011 5:21 AM GMT
    Somerandom saidI try to imagine a really sexy muscly man, but pretend that he is an absolute arsehole so that I think to myself "im gonna teach you a lesson you good-looking jerk... I will become stronger and more muscly than you".


    I do the same thing. Usually it's a straight guy I find hot though.
  • samasaurusrex

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    Jan 13, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    I generally like to remind myself that I'm at the gym on my own free will. That usually seems to work. I then think about what I would be doing if I wasn't at the gym... Nothing. Which leads to mental correlation with couch potatos, then to fat people, and all the sudden I've got the motivation to do that last set of walking lunges, planks, etc etc. I just remind myself that yeah it sucks now, but in 10 minutes I'll be done and in 10 weeks I'll appreciate the dedication.
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidIt is interesting to read these response. The thing I am noticing is that people seem to need to push themselves to do something that they seem to not really like doing in the first place. I guess that is why I cannot relate to the whole competing/tear someone else down/mental functioning. I tell people to their face, "If I were the last person on the planet I would still workout because I really enjoy it and it keeps me physically active and in shape.

    I mean honestly. Ask you self this, "When was the last time you needed to conjure some emotion so that you could endure something that you really liked doing?" Probably never because the joy of doing it was simply enough to do it in the first place. And if you no longer like or grow bored with it you simply let it go and find something else to do.


    I do agree with a lot of points you brought out in your post. I actually really enjoy working out, it's really therapeutic in many ways. "Pushing pass your limits" or "pushing harder" for me personally means progression or the will to progress.
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:01 AM GMT
    I constantly troll with my eyes and sometimes I score me some sexual intercourse. But it's rare. The chase is more motivating in and of itself and for my workout than the catch.
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    Somerandom said

    So, fellow poofs, what works for you?


    LOL "fellow poofs"... LOL

    When I am emotional, I cannot work out.

    What fuels me during my workout is the desire to be in the best condition I can possibly accomplish and to be better than I was the last time I worked out.
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    I find there are times where I will switch off the music and concentrate on the technique rather than be visualizing something to push me. Even this morning I was doing deadlifts and the first thing I did was turn off my iPod. Think about the technique, the weight and the reps I want to achieve. I also concentrate on what muscles I'm trying to work on and take it from there.

    If I'm gong for higher reps (such as side raises for the shoulders) then I'll think more about distracting myself from the burn with music.
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidIt is interesting to read these response. The thing I am noticing is that people seem to need to push themselves to do something that they seem to not really like doing in the first place. I guess that is why I cannot relate to the whole competing/tear someone else down/mental functioning. I tell people to their face, "If I were the last person on the planet I would still workout because I really enjoy it and it keeps me physically active and in shape.

    I mean honestly. Ask you self this, "When was the last time you needed to conjure some emotion so that you could endure something that you really liked doing?" Probably never because the joy of doing it was simply enough to do it in the first place. And if you no longer like or grow bored with it you simply let it go and find something else to do.


    After reading my last post I feel I should qualify, it's not a constant for me. I don't do that every time I work out. It's not something required to get me to work out. It's just something done once in a while to psyche myself up, perhaps squeeze out just a bit more testosterone and adrenaline to help push through a previous limit say.

    I agree, I love working out. The way I feel during and after is reason enough for me to continue doing it. It's something I intend on doing in one form or another for the rest of my life.
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    Jan 13, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
    neosyllogy saidThat's... um... fucked up.
    Seriously dude, that doesn't sound at all healthy. icon_eek.gif



    This. I just concentrate on holding correct form, engaging the core, making space in the body despite the weight and keeping smooth and even. it´s very zen icon_cool.gif

    Between sets I also shake my ass to the disco music icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 13, 2011 8:21 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    neosyllogy saidThat's... um... fucked up.
    Seriously dude, that doesn't sound at all healthy. icon_eek.gif


    I have to agree with "Modern Logician." Unfortunately, a lot of men do this. Putting so much emotion into what you do can be exhausting and eventually leads to inconsistent results. If I direct anger or competition at a person who is more muscular than me (or even if it is imagined) it will simply deplete me down the road.

    And as far as my motivation:

    Whenever I saw a guy with an amazing body I simply asked myself, "What do I have to do in order to look like that?" So I either watch what he does in the gym or embark on my own search for how to get bigger shoulders, calves, etc., or if we become friendly I ask what his diet is like.

    Other than that, I pop a 200mg caffeine pill and as long as I eat enough I am good to go. Luckily I get really amazing pumps all the time and the feeling and the look of my pumps in the gym help me push forward.


    Do you ever use this?

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    or does the caffeine pill work better?
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    Jan 13, 2011 8:23 AM GMT
    My playlist never fails me...............
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    Jan 13, 2011 10:12 AM GMT
    Nope i don't use anything. 100 % natural. I alway think about getting stronger to be strong enough to protect all my love one. I want to be strong so i can survive oversea.
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    Jan 13, 2011 1:35 PM GMT
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