rudeness......

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    Jan 08, 2011 10:59 AM GMT

    I don't know if this something that occurs only on this site or within the gay community or just with people in general but I’ve discovered a pretty disturbing trend on RJ. In almost all cases if I receive a message from someone I will send them a response. Obviously some of the more outlandish/hypersexual messages sometimes get ignored but generally I can find something to say back to them. I have made some great friends here, some really hot, some not so much. But a lot of my less attractive friends complain that when they message guys the just don't respond. I have even experienced that myself a couple of times. If someone sends you a message, that is complimentary/respectful, you at least owe them some sort of acknowledgement for trying to reach out to you. Even if you politely decline whatever connection the try to establish, it’s better than treating them like they don’t even exist-that’s grimy and if you do that you are a dusty person. If someone takes the time out to try to get to know you, but you don’t feel the same, grow some balls and just tell them that. Because some of what people do on here is just bad manners.
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    Jan 08, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    OH MY GOD PEOPLE ON RJ ARE RUDE?icon_eek.gif inb4pplflamingn00b

    Not on a similar note if I move to NYC can I touch your face? It's so pretty. No seriously it is. Are you Blatino?
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    Jan 08, 2011 11:36 AM GMT
    You seem like you wash you're hands after you use the bathroom so yes, you can touch my face icon_cool.gif. I am not blatino haha.
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    Jan 08, 2011 11:43 AM GMT
    I wash my hands all the time but then I touch my dick a lot too.icon_eek.gif Just cuz it's always there.

    Are you Puerto Rican then? Perhaps Dominican?
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    Jan 08, 2011 11:55 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidI wash my hands all the time but then I touch my dick a lot too.icon_eek.gif Just cuz it's always there.

    Are you Puerto Rican then? Perhaps Dominican?


    haha, your getting colder, try again icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 11:56 AM GMT
    dekiruman said
    JAKEBENSON saidI wash my hands all the time but then I touch my dick a lot too.icon_eek.gif Just cuz it's always there.

    Are you Puerto Rican then? Perhaps Dominican?


    haha, your getting colder, try again icon_wink.gif


    African-Italian?icon_confused.gif...not wait...Filipino?
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    Jan 08, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    dekiruman said
    I don't know if this something that occurs only on this site or within the gay community or just with people in general but I’ve discovered a pretty disturbing trend on RJ. In almost all cases if I receive a message from someone I will send them a response. Obviously some of the more outlandish/hypersexual messages sometimes get ignored but generally I can find something to say back to them. I have made some great friends here, some really hot, some not so much. But a lot of my less attractive friends complain that when they message guys the just don't respond. I have even experienced that myself a couple of times. If someone sends you a message, that is complimentary/respectful, you at least owe them some sort of acknowledgement for trying to reach out to you. Even if you politely decline whatever connection the try to establish, it’s better than treating them like they don’t even exist-that’s grimy and if you do that you are a dusty person. If someone takes the time out to try to get to know you, but you don’t feel the same, grow some balls and just tell them that. Because some of what people do on here is just bad manners.

    Oh, STFU!

    We need a separate forum for this whiny bullshit!

    Oh, and nice going, dissing your less attractive friends. What an egotistical bastard you are!

  • jgymnast733

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    Jan 08, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    If someone takes the time to send me a msg i will always respond...As for those who ignore msg's all i can say is..Some people were brought up and some people were dragged up....Its a msg people not marriage...icon_idea.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    Man i always answer the message i get from any guy here older or jounger,slim or musled,fem or not fem any guy derves to get a answer.But yes you have rude guys here but its all over the world not just here,and i love when i send a guy message and he looks at my profile but not read my message
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    Jan 08, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    I find myself getter ruder as time goes on, i.e. ignoring messages. I don't like it, but the answer is not to spend more energy replying to every message, it's to spend less time online. I don't offer enough information for someone to know that they want to be my best friend even though they don't live in my city... and they most likely have even less info in their own profiles... Not that they even try to relate themselves to my stated interests.

    That said, the rudeness goes both ways. If I do reply to be nice and I'm not interested in the person, I get flamed out eventually anyway when I try to break it to them. I think less negative energy is being projected when the response to an unwanted message is silence.
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    Jan 08, 2011 7:19 PM GMT
    It's a leafiest thing here. The other day I had one of em wish me dead send me e-mails full of hate, just because I as a pure homosexual one of the real gays don't see things his way. So he was to wish one dead, and the room went silent, yet if say south beach was to of said such a thing, they all would of been screaming like wet cats. it's called double standards, and the leafiest here keep it alive and well. Yet they see themselves as compassionate, and progressiveicon_lol.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    True_blue_aussie saidIt's a leafiest thing here. The other day I had one of em wish me dead send me e-mails full of hate, just because I as a pure homosexual one of the real gays don't see things his way. So he was to wish one dead, and the room went silent, yet if say south beach was to of said such a thing, they all would of been screaming like wet cats. it's called double standards, and the leafiest here keep it alive and well. Yet they see themselves as compassionate, and progressiveicon_lol.gif


    I didn't tell you to "die."

    I was using the German article, "die." It means "the."

    BTW...Pure Homosexual=Pure Bullshit.

    Get help. Aren't there shrinks down there in Upside-Down Land?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
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    True_blue_aussie saidIt's a leafiest thing here. The other day I had one of em wish me dead send me e-mails full of hate, just because I as a pure homosexual one of the real gays don't see things his way. So he was to wish one dead, and the room went silent, yet if say south beach was to of said such a thing, they all would of been screaming like wet cats. it's called double standards, and the leafiest here keep it alive and well. Yet they see themselves as compassionate, and progressiveicon_lol.gif


    I didn't tell you to "die."

    I was using the German article, "die." It means "the."

    BTW...Pure Homosexual=Pure Bullshit.

    Get help. Aren't there shrinks down there in Upside-Down Land?icon_rolleyes.gif


    See the hate see the issues, see the anger.

    Yes I am a pure homosexual one of the real gays. I have never put my dick in a women, as a pure homosexual would never do such a thing, and thats what makes us gay and not bi, and just as a bi person is not straight, they are not gay either. So yes one is a pure homosexual one of the real gays. Any issues you may behold about that are yours, and you are the one in need of help and anger management. You are the one who thinks it's OK to make death treats to people you hate just because they have a diffrent political agenda than you do, and many of the wolves who belong to your pack.
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    Jan 08, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    it's a leftist thing here. The other day I had one of them here wish one dead, and send hatful e=mails because of their issues of anger and hate. yet the room went silent from the left here. yet if one of the conservative members here was to do the same thing to one of the leftist here, they would of been screaming like wet cats at the injustice of it all, but when the shoe is on the other foot they say nothing. It's called double standards, and a few other things.

  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Jan 08, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    No community of people is perfect.

    Just accept the cordial responses you get graciously, ignore the posts you don't like, and don't worry about the people who fail to respond because they just lost their job, they are caring for a family member, or they are just unsocialized asses.

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    Jan 08, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Caslon17000 said
    dekiruman said
    I don't know if this something that occurs only on this site or within the gay community or just with people in general but I’ve discovered a pretty disturbing trend on RJ. In almost all cases if I receive a message from someone I will send them a response. Obviously some of the more outlandish/hypersexual messages sometimes get ignored but generally I can find something to say back to them. I have made some great friends here, some really hot, some not so much. But a lot of my less attractive friends complain that when they message guys the just don't respond. I have even experienced that myself a couple of times. If someone sends you a message, that is complimentary/respectful, you at least owe them some sort of acknowledgement for trying to reach out to you. Even if you politely decline whatever connection the try to establish, it’s better than treating them like they don’t even exist-that’s grimy and if you do that you are a dusty person. If someone takes the time out to try to get to know you, but you don’t feel the same, grow some balls and just tell them that. Because some of what people do on here is just bad manners.

    Oh, STFU!

    We need a separate forum for this whiny bullshit!

    Oh, and nice going, dissing your less attractive friends. What an egotistical bastard you are!



    Please explain to me how expressing concern for my friends and the way people are treating them becomes a diss...........If you don't like my post, don't read it then. If you do choose to read it, at least do yourself the honor of understanding what the other party is actually trying to get across. You basically attacked me for no reason
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    Jan 08, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    Yes theres alot of it.. I just write off the rude ones and go about my business with people who have manners
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    I never answer messages. Nobody wants to hear my shitty opinion anyway. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    Hahahahaha. If you care that some random guy from the internet doesn't return a message regardless of how much thought you may have put into it, then I really pity your sad life.

    Said with lots of love <33
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    They are unsolicited messages. You haven't asked someone to write to you so it's not rude to ignore them.

    Do you respond to junk mail that is posted through your letter box? No, of course you don't. Why? Because you have not asked for it and more likely than not it is of no interest to you. So why should you respond to unsolicited emails? I only respond to messages from guys if there is something interesting in the email or there's something about the sender that interests me. Otherwise I'm just wasting my time and energy in writing a response.
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    And the best thing of all is when you read in a guys profile looking for chat friends send me a message.And when you send him one no answer well you could fell free to write if you are hot and you want to be my friend write me
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:31 PM GMT


    It goes back to us men being superficial in a way.
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    Vladimir01 saidAnd the best thing of all is when you read in a guys profile looking for chat friends send me a message.And when you send him one no answer well you could fell free to write if you are hot and you want to be my friend write me


    true
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:55 PM GMT
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    Oh, STFU!


    I remember saying STFU to this old guy who made a thread years ago here and I got ganged up on for using an acronym that had the word "fuck" in it.
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    Jan 08, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
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    I don't know if this something that occurs only on this site or within the gay community or just with people in general but I’ve discovered a pretty disturbing trend on RJ. In almost all cases if I receive a message from someone I will send them a response. Obviously some of the more outlandish/hypersexual messages sometimes get ignored but generally I can find something to say back to them. I have made some great friends here, some really hot, some not so much. But a lot of my less attractive friends complain that when they message guys the just don't respond. I have even experienced that myself a couple of times. If someone sends you a message, that is complimentary/respectful, you at least owe them some sort of acknowledgement for trying to reach out to you. Even if you politely decline whatever connection the try to establish, it’s better than treating them like they don’t even exist-that’s grimy and if you do that you are a dusty person. If someone takes the time out to try to get to know you, but you don’t feel the same, grow some balls and just tell them that. Because some of what people do on here is just bad manners.

    Oh, STFU!

    We need a separate forum for this whiny bullshit!

    Oh, and nice going, dissing your less attractive friends. What an egotistical bastard you are!



    Please explain to me how expressing concern for my friends and the way people are treating them becomes a diss...........If you don't like my post, don't read it then. If you do choose to read it, at least do yourself the honor of understanding what the other party is actually trying to get across. You basically attacked me for no reason


    RJ is not your website that you can cater to and with your friends. You can't fine-tune it like facebook. RJ is full of strangers most of which are take the seriousness of it to varying degrees. Some people take it literally. Others are jaded and flame everyone. Still others are so bitter and jaded they're actually nice again. Personally, I'm being nice to you because I've already flamed n00bs for making the exact same thread you just made every month.

    The more your make haughty posts like "if you don't like it don't reply," the more replies you'll get to your disliking. Like the real world, you'll see things you disagree with. Deal with it. And if you don't like it take your own advice: if you don't like it don't read it.