OMG....Someone please help I need to Vent!!!

  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 09, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    So, Here is my situation. I was Dating this guy for over 2 months. We were going out constantly. Then I noticed the last week or two he was giving me excuses after excuses not returning my txt messages. To make a long story short. I meet up with a friend that i been talking with long before i even met this guy. We meet up for dinner and start taking about what we did for New Years. All of a sudden he shows he a picture of his friend which was the guy I was dating, continues on to tell me that he already has a b/f for 10 months!!! and is with him now as we speak....I almost fell of the table and threw my food up!!....Dear god are there any decent gay men out there anymore?? I really need Support!!!

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  • jgymnast733

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    Jan 09, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    WOW, that sucks...
    Its not your fault, you didnt know he was HOE..but you should confront his ass about it...immediatly after sex ....icon_eek.gif
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 09, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    Oh Tust me I did!!!....I txted him the moment I got home About how the Fuck he could have a b/f and be having sex with me. I was still sitting on my L/R coutch with his friend....not even 10 minutes later the guys b/f calls him and then the guy I was seeing calls him asking where he was, He knew he got snagged big time!!!.....icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 09, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    Lot's of tinmen in the gay world and you need thick soles on your walking shoes....................................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 09, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    Yikes, things haven't changed much since I came out.

    Ugh! *hugs Mikey*

    -Doug
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 09, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    Thanks sweetie....I need all the hugs I can get!!....icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidSo, Here is my situation. I was Dating this guy for over 2 months. We were going out constantly. Then I noticed the last week or two he was giving me excuses after excuses not returning my txt messages. To make a long story short. I meet up with a friend that i been talking with long before i even met this guy. We meet up for dinner and start taking about what we did for New Years. All of a sudden he shows he a picture of his friend which was the guy I was dating, continues on to tell me that he already has a b/f for 10 months!!! and is with him now as we speak....I almost fell of the table and threw my food up!!....Dear god are there any decent gay men out there anymore?? I really need Support!!!

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    Hi Mikey! if I were in your shoes rather then spending so much energy on confusion, anger, betrayal, or even revenge I rather transfer all that energy into what lesson I learned out of this experience, and most importantly what did I learned about myself?

    So sweety once you come down and get all those negative feelings out of your system, don't forget to give some time off to yourself, and I garantee you will feel a whole lot better once you realized how well you handled this unpleasant situation!?



    Leandro ♥
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    well its better u found out know instead of dating him for 10 months and finding out he's been seeing someone else the passed 2 month
  • OutPhase

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    Jan 09, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    You have my condolence guy. Some people fall off the horse and hit the ground harder then others but your just have to shake it off and get back on there. I know how it feels like because I have been through the same. Everything is going to get better for you *HUG*
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit said... are there any decent gay men out there anymore??
    Considering this is the 2nd thread in two days about this same thing happening, I gotta say...No.
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    I was dating a guy before Christmas. He told friends of mine that he was going to W&M for law. I asked him on a date when he was finishing his juris doctorate. He didn't know the meaning of juris doctorate, and that was obviously a huge red flag.

    Homeslice disappeared right before new years. He said he had some medical issues on the 27th of December, and then I didn't hear from him.

    Well, I got a text yesterday from him. In the text he apologized for falling off the face of the Earth, and he explained he had some issues and didn't want to burden me with them.

    I would believe that if I hadn't found his FB profile with a recent picture of him sitting on a balcony of a hotel, dressed in a bathrobe, and drinking champagne. Oh... and on his FB profile, he is enrolled in community college (not W&M).
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    May I inquire as to where those of you with these stories are meeting these shady men? Realjock? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4adam? Grindr? craigslist? A bar? Your mutual friends? Work? School? The grocery store? Starbucks?

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    Jan 09, 2011 11:40 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidMay I inquire as to where those of you with these stories are meeting these shady men? Realjock? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4adam? Grindr? craigslist? A bar? Your mutual friends? Work? School? The grocery store? Starbucks?

    Library. Behind the fiction book shelf.
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidMay I inquire as to where those of you with these stories are meeting these shady men? Realjock? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4adam? Grindr? craigslist? A bar? Your mutual friends? Work? School? The grocery store? Starbucks?



    I met this one through friends.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 09, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    Wow...Thanks for all the advice fellas!!!!.....I see I am not alone in my frustration!!!......I have found no matter where I look they are all the same. whether gay.com, Adam, CL.....no difference....UGH!!!
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
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    RunintheCity saidMay I inquire as to where those of you with these stories are meeting these shady men? Realjock? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4adam? Grindr? craigslist? A bar? Your mutual friends? Work? School? The grocery store? Starbucks?

    Library. Behind the fiction book shelf.


    I work in a library, and a closed door study room is far more likely.
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    RunintheCity said
    paulflexes said
    RunintheCity saidMay I inquire as to where those of you with these stories are meeting these shady men? Realjock? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4adam? Grindr? craigslist? A bar? Your mutual friends? Work? School? The grocery store? Starbucks?

    Library. Behind the fiction book shelf.


    I work in a library, and a closed door study room is far more likely.
    I think I just decided to take my next vacation in Ohio. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    RunintheCity saidMay I inquire as to where those of you with these stories are meeting these shady men? Realjock? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4adam? Grindr? craigslist? A bar? Your mutual friends? Work? School? The grocery store? Starbucks?

    Library. Behind the fiction book shelf.


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    Wow, Mikey...I am sorry and totally shocked, but at least you found out...move on.
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    Jan 09, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    Monastery. Let us escape the evils of stupid men.
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    Jan 10, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    I think I just decided to take my next vacation in Ohio. icon_biggrin.gif

    Wait until spring. It's too cold for proper living here.

    Back to the topic...while I'd agree that the method of meeting people probably doesn't matter, I also wonder if the modern phenomenon of becoming quickly involved is part of this. These days, the old joke about lesbians moving in after the first date, seems to apply to almost everyone.
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    Jan 10, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    See we should do this.

    Take all the guys that have this problem - pool them together and send them out on dates in pairs (or threes, why not?)


    If everyone who can't find "A decent gay man" got together, wouldn't we stop having these problems?
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 10, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    yes...very tru....with the speed of the internet nowadays "We" tend to move way too quickly and way to easy to meet the next trick...lol
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    Jan 10, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    RunintheCity said
    paulflexes said
    I think I just decided to take my next vacation in Ohio. icon_biggrin.gif

    Wait until spring. It's too cold for proper living here.

    Back to the topic...while I'd agree that the method of meeting people probably doesn't matter, I also wonder if the modern phenomenon of becoming quickly involved is part of this. These days, the old joke about lesbians moving in after the first date, seems to apply to almost everyone.


    As per above, did either of you inquire if the other had a BF?

    The "need" to be coupled sometimes puts blinders on.
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    Jan 10, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
    Cobalt saidSee we should do this.

    Take all the guys that have this problem - pool them together and send them out on dates in pairs (or threes, why not?)


    If everyone who can't find "A decent gay man" got together, wouldn't we stop having these problems?


    I would be willing to take one that is single is all i ask....This is the second time this has happened to me!!....icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 10, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Mikeylikesit said
    Cobalt saidSee we should do this.

    Take all the guys that have this problem - pool them together and send them out on dates in pairs (or threes, why not?)


    If everyone who can't find "A decent gay man" got together, wouldn't we stop having these problems?


    I would be willing to take one that is single is all i ask....This is the second time this has happened to me!!....icon_twisted.gif


    I got to know the love of my life online - through Flickr.

    We were flickr friends for many months before we ever really talked seriously - sure we flirted a bit but I think we were both awfully shy. Got to know him very well before we even considered something deeper, and I think that really helped. Being able to learn about someone from a distance, and not necessarily always from direct contact, can be very good.

    Though now we have an issue with Long distance, but we visit every two-three months and it's not too bad icon_smile.gif I'm very happy and am OK with the distance, though it would be nice to live closer together icon_smile.gif

    We'll hit our two-year next week icon_smile.gif

    So if you're okay with taking advice from a 23 yr old, i'd say go slow, and get to know someone before you start to settle down for the LTR. I think we chatted 8 months before I finally worked up the courage to visit him - and it's probably what REALLY helped us get our relationship going on a strong foundation.

    Best of luck to you and everyone who's having this problem icon_smile.gif