How do you meet a guy in a bar?

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    Jan 10, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    So, your in a gay bar, and your drinking drinks and having a blast. you see someone you like. what do you do?
  • mybud

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    Jan 10, 2011 1:08 PM GMT
    Look intently at the intended...make a fist hold it up against your left cheek move it back and forth while pressing your tongue against the wall of your right cheek...IM me and tell me how that works for ya...BUD
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    Jan 10, 2011 1:51 PM GMT
    Get somebody else in the bar (bar staff) to help with an introduction or push a friend over there to tell the guy that you are interested? Failing that you'll just have to go over and say howdy. I'm kinda shy myself so I'd probably just stare longingly at the guy all night long...
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    Jan 10, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    I look for the drunkest or most tweaked out drama queen in there.....












    and stay as far away from him as I can get.
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    Jan 10, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    Look at you with your very first post...

    If you're going to a gay bar, bring friends... maybe they can be your wingman.
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    At a bar, I don't really care if I make a fool of myself, especially if I've had a couple drinks. So I don't have a problem just going up to someone and either starting a conversation or asking them to dance or something. Usually when I go out, it's to bars or clubs away from where I live since there aren't those types of places around my place, so I really don't care what people think of my since I'm probably not going to see them again.

    You just have to go up to them and either ask them if they'd like a drink, like to dance, or just introduce yourself for starters. The worst that can happen is that you get rejected... if you do, grab your friends and move on.
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    Jan 10, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    maverik saidGet somebody else in the bar (bar staff) to help with an introduction or push a friend over there to tell the guy that you are interested? Failing that you'll just have to go over and say howdy. I'm kinda shy myself so I'd probably just stare longingly at the guy all night long...


    To think I thought I was the only one that did that, and to this day it still has not worked. Guess I need to change it up a bit. Of course that is easier said then done.
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    Jan 10, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    Most of the time, I just make eye contact with him and smile. And that's it. icon_redface.gif
    I'm way too shy when it comes to introductions, with a guy that I find attractive. Most of the time, I'm with a few friends, and one or two of them try to convince me to go say hello, but they usually end up bringing the guy over. After that, depending on how tipsy I am, I either choke due to shyness, or I can carry on a conversation.
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    Jan 10, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidI look for the drunkest or most tweaked out drama queen in there.....

    and stay as far away from him as I can get.


    I'm the opposite. The drunk ones come right up and kiss me. The sober ones just look at me but can't be bothered to come over and pinch my bottom, which is downright unsociable.

    Normally I try to strike up a conversation. If they fancy me it works, if they don't it's usually quite an unpleasant experience.
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    Jan 10, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    I was lighting my cigarette on a candle, had smoke in my eye and began rubbing my face, and the guy next to me just stared at me and burst out in laughter... and that was the beginning of our conversation lol
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    Jan 10, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    i jsut slip myself a ruffey and see where the night takes me
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    Jan 10, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    mybud saidLook intently at the intended...make a fist hold it up against your left cheek move it back and forth while pressing your tongue against the wall of your right cheek...IM me and tell me how that works for ya...BUD


    That usually works around last call.
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    Jan 10, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    JReal saidHow do you meet a guy in a bar?
    I walk in.
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    Jan 10, 2011 6:43 PM GMT
    I have actually never hit on a guy at a gay bar. Last time I went, there was a very cute guy, but he was talking to other guys all night so I didn't bother. Then later in the night when I was by the bar he came up to me and asked if I "liked to party" and after a while I realized he meant a sex party with him, 3 other guys, and a fat girl. I laughed and said "no thanks." Made me sad cause he was cute icon_sad.gif

    But I never really go to gay bars. I can count the times on one hand.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 10, 2011 6:57 PM GMT
    I rarely go to gay bars also, but when I do, if someone makes eye contact with you, most likely they are at least somewhat interested, but there are also some guys who will be interested in you, but will try not to be obvious and look at you, its kinda hard to seek them out, its kind of a skill
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    Jan 10, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    Walk up and say hello.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 10, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    I dont want to come off as negative or anything but, the bar isnt where you meet guys for keeps. Its good for a night or two, or to meet friends.

    The best advice I can give you otherwise is dont come on to him when your drunk. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Start a conversation off with common interests you might share with him icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 10, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    1) Walk up
    2) say hi
    3) introduce yourself

    if you're feeling intimidated, approach someone next to him and ask for a cigarette and then include him in your greetings.

    I never go out, a few times a year... and really dislike gay bars, but it's not hard.
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    Jan 10, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    A little butt fucking should break the ice.
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    Jan 10, 2011 11:00 PM GMT
    walk, talk,get drunk(him or you), crash his or ur place, buttseck, win

    there :l
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    Jan 10, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    SexyN3rd said1) Walk up
    2) say hi
    3) introduce yourself



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    Jan 10, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    mybud saidLook intently at the intended...make a fist hold it up against your left cheek move it back and forth while pressing your tongue against the wall of your right cheek...IM me and tell me how that works for ya...BUD

    LMAO!!!! that's funny. i didn't realize what it was until i did it. you're nasty ...i like it. haha
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    Jan 10, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    JReal saidSo, your in a gay bar, and your drinking drinks and having a blast. you see someone you like. what do you do?

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    Jan 11, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidA little butt fucking should break the ice.
    That may be a little too forward.
    You should at least have the common courtesy to shoot some precum in his face to get his attention first.
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    Jan 11, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    I went to one last week... most of the guys in there were sitting in different corners, silently working their iphones and crackberries. I guess you have to figure out which service they're logged in to, and hit them up on-line, to get them to look up.
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    Jan 11, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    This question seems a bit rudimentary, but based on dates I've been on I don't really think you are the only guy who doesn't know how to start a conversation in person...so there is a good chance you're both in the same situation!