Just ended my two relationship... Now what?

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    Jan 11, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    So I just ended my two year relationship with my boyfriend... I've just turned 18, he was 3 years older, and already owned his own house, So I pretty much moved in when I was 16. During those two years alot of stuff has happened, mainly due to his friends. They are probably the meanest foulest people you will ever meet even though he's one of the nicest, and did absoutely everything to break us up. However about a month ago they started talking again even thoguh the last fight between them and him was them constantly bitching about me behind my back and him not allowing it anymore, even though he caved in and they didnt even give an apology. , and I knew I may have won the past few battles. But they'd win the war. So I decided I wasn't strong enough for all of it again, and ended it last night.

    It all started because my bf was interested in another guy at the same time i was interested in him, however he played him round. And then came to me. But everyone cracked the majour shits because I "stole" him. Which was their technique at turning all my friends against me. Anyways, I knew only an ultimatum would work, and he couldnt decide. So I did for him.

    I'm not saying all this is his fault, we've been arguing for alot lately, and it felt more like a mutual agrreement, and i'm actually a really shit person, i left school at 16 and still dont have a full time job at 18. And he's a store manager with a house... And I've become quite overweight, where as he's naturally skinny. So we're not on the same level clearly. So yeah, now what? I just needed to vent, as its still circuling in my head. And im worried i made the wrong decision. Even thou it still feels right. I'm thinking about getting in shaoe again, trying to find a full time job. And finding my own place... Also i wanna go gay clubbing, but have to find someone first.
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    Jan 11, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    Enjoy an environment of peace, quiet and non-drama.
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    Jan 16, 2011 11:50 AM GMT
    Get yourself together. Finish your education; go back to school. Become Mr. Right, and the right man will come to you eventually. The most important thing is to get a good educational foundation and skill set so that you can become a productive member of society and contribute. You're way too young to throw it all away on another boy.
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    Jan 16, 2011 1:19 PM GMT
    Your thoughts are all over the place. Settle down and focus.

    Your and your ex are no longer coupled. Based on the information you've provided, I'm thinking it's a good move for the both of you.

    You think you're shit? You think highly of yourself, huh? To be fair, most 18 year-olds feel that way about themselves at one time or another, so you're not alone. You clearly need to spend some time with your Self before you go jumping back into the saddle. Find a job, find a place to live, and pursue an education. There's an entire lifetime ahead of you.
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    Jan 16, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    Actually they weren't the meanest people.... if they were really mean and nasty they would have called the authorities since you were a minor living with a man........

    I'd suggest you put your life in order, divorce the drama, get your GED (or equivilent), either work to improve your working position or plan to go to college..

    and find a gym.

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    Jan 16, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    I agree with Terra, go back to school. It is hard to think long term right now, but you need to set yourself up for long term success. A high school degree/GED will be a start. Also, consider getting back into shape for your own benefit. (Feel better, more energy, look better in the mirror) Nothing is more attractive than a guy who has his sh_t together. Good Luck! You have a long life ahead of you so make sure you set it up for a good one.