Sexually Confused?

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    Jan 11, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    Soooo, how did you guys know that you were gay? Why not straight? The only reason I'm asking this is because I am personally in a state of confusion. I get erections when I'm intimate with girls (i.e. - grinding, kissing, caressing, dancing, cuddling, etc), but when I have sex or get a blow job, I sometimes find myself getting bored. Could it be because they're unattractive?

    Also, if this makes a difference, I'm also a tad put off by directly touching a woman's vagina. It's mostly the smell and the stickiness. I mostly prefer to touch it with just my cock. Still, I do enjoy a nice pair of tits. I just love to Fondle them, caress them, and suck on them... icon_lol.gif

    At any rate, since everyone on this forum is pretty much a seasoned gay, I thought I'd ask for your guys' input. You think I sound like a gay in denial, or perhaps just a tad bisexual? I'm not trying to sound "insecure" by any means, but coming to terms with my sexuality is something that I currently struggle with. Thanks in advanced for your help!


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    Jan 11, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    well son, sit down by the fire and curl up with old blue, i'm about to tell you a story......

    first ya see, all girls thingys smell like dead fish,,,God was hung over when he did that....so that's normal, they ainta rotting away.

    secondly, your wanger don't know what it's grindin agin...so it has a lil ol mind of its own and does silly things.

    now if you get a stiffy when you think about nekked boys, then ya see, well yer a homo....and if ya get a stiffy when ya thinka girls, well then your a democrat...uh i'm mean...you're confused....eat more apple pie.


    bottom line brother, don't worry, go with the flow, if you like em both, eat em both, just don't overindulge...and don't overthink it....go where your heart and hardon lead. but be safe..........................................and the only seasoned homos on here are the ones that use pepper on their dicks...........Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 11, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    It's not an "either / or" question. You like what you like. And you never really know for sure until you try some of it. If some of it likes you back - bonus.

    Personally, I don't like putting my face in anybody's crotch, male or female, unless it's freshly bathed. Makes a huge difference.

    Other people roll different ways. Do what makes you happy.
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    Jan 11, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
    The question I've always heard for a guy to come to terms with being gay or bi is to decided whether or not the person wants to be with a guy.
    So ask yourself Do I want to be with a guy? irregardless if you've ever been with a guy that way. You can probably think of the same thing if you're wondering if you're bi or straight, but ask the reverse Do I want to be with a girl?
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    Jan 11, 2011 10:52 AM GMT
    What do you think about when you masturbate?
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    Jan 11, 2011 10:55 AM GMT
    Honestly, why does everyone think sexuality is as simple as black, white, and grey? That's such a boring outlook.
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    Jan 11, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidWhat do you think about when you masturbate?


    Sometimes women, but more often, men I guess? Though, to be completely honest, I really enjoying masturbating to both men and women simultaneously! icon_razz.gif Best of both worlds, I suppose!icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 11, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    ExcuseMyHyperbole saidHonestly, why does everyone think sexuality is as simple as black, white, and grey? That's such a boring outlook.


    It's probably because we're still waiting for you to wake us the fuck up.
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    Jan 11, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
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    ExcuseMyHyperbole saidHonestly, why does everyone think sexuality is as simple as black, white, and grey? That's such a boring outlook.


    It's probably because we're still waiting for you to wake us the fuck up.


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    Jan 11, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    Fuck whatthefuckever you wanna fucking fuck...as long as it's legal.
    And no dogs. They bite.
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    Jan 11, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    Don't get hung up on labels. Go with the flow and do what feels right for you.

    Just be honest with people about your intentions with them and respectful of their feelings.

    Ultimately, only you can answer whether you are gay, bi, or straight if you really feel the need to put a label on it before you are sure.

    In time it will become clear to you.



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    Jan 13, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    i thot i was bi, but as the years went by it became clear i liked the scent of a man more
    but i still get aroused with any type of grinding, touching etc
    however in my head i think about men, dream about sex with them and if i am true to myself , that is what works for me

    the time i really 'knew' tho was when i was really deeply kissed by a guy, it was like fireworks. it just felt like it was supposed too

    but in the meantime , while ur figuring it out, just have fun, it could take timeicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 13, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidFuck whatthefuckever you wanna fucking fuck...as long as it's legal.
    And no dogs. They bite.

    +1 Hahahaha.
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    Jan 13, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    As others have said, relax and don't try to label yourself. You are young, explore and have fun (be safe of course) and what makes you happy will become self evident.

    Now go have some fun.icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 13, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    I agree with a lot of the others. Do whatever the hell you want. But have an open mind. There IS a chance you are confused because you are close-minded about being a gay and almost wishing you aren't. But there is also a chance you just like to screw everything haha
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    Jan 13, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    I agree with PapaLeJeune. Far too many boxes in this world. I like a nice pair of legs on a guy. No interest in sex (for exactly the same reason you don't like vaginas), just lots of tactile play, Rugby-style. To straight people this makes me gay, to gay people I'm still in-the-closet or whatever the box is.
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    Jan 13, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    RJHarris91 said
    Bunjamon saidWhat do you think about when you masturbate?


    Sometimes women, but more often, men I guess? Though, to be completely honest, I really enjoying masturbating to both men and women simultaneously! icon_razz.gif Best of both worlds, I suppose!icon_razz.gif



    Young man, your just young and full o' cum, like I was, one time i was turned on by a guy, then another time it was a girl and I stressed over it like your doing. Having been through it, I'd say don't over think it, give yourself time and gradually your preference will take shape. Please don't stress yourself about it though, you'll just make yourself miserable. One more thing, don't make the mistake I did and get married knowing you have mixed desires, thinking doing so will change your feelings toward men, because it won't take those desires away and will end up tormenting you. Untill you figure where your most prominent desires are, stay single and enjoy life. Good luck to you.
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    You sound just like me. Or rather, I'm just like you, except I don't mind vagina. I'm pretty sure this makes you bi or bi curious.
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    RJHarris91 saidSoooo, how did you guys know that you were gay? Why not straight? The only reason I'm asking this is because I am personally in a state of confusion. I get erections when I'm intimate with girls (i.e. - grinding, kissing, caressing, dancing, cuddling, etc), but when I have sex or get a blow job, I sometimes find myself getting bored. Could it be because they're unattractive?

    Also, if this makes a difference, I'm also a tad put off by directly touching a woman's vagina. It's mostly the smell and the stickiness. I mostly prefer to touch it with just my cock. Still, I do enjoy a nice pair of tits. I just love to Fondle them, caress them, and suck on them... icon_lol.gif

    At any rate, since everyone on this forum is pretty much a seasoned gay, I thought I'd ask for your guys' input. You think I sound like a gay in denial, or perhaps just a tad bisexual? I'm not trying to sound "insecure" by any means, but coming to terms with my sexuality is something that I currently struggle with. Thanks in advanced for your help!


    -r0b!


    Well, nowhere in your post do you mention any attraction to men.

    -Doug

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    Jan 17, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
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    Bunjamon saidWhat do you think about when you masturbate?

    Sometimes women, but more often, men I guess? Though, to be completely honest, I really enjoying masturbating to both men and women simultaneously! icon_razz.gif Best of both worlds, I suppose!icon_razz.gif

    At 19 you could be in a late transition phase. This is common & normal. Young boys actually tend to display homosexual tendencies until they reach maturity, and then gradually shift to being completely heterosexual in the majority of cases. That shift can take years, doesn't happen overnight.

    The alternative is that you are indeed gay, or bisexual. You know, there are no wrong answers here -- you are what you are. If you're gay we'll welcome you and hope you find a nice guy; if you're straight we'll hope you find a wonderful girl; or if bi we hope you'll find one of each (oh damn, did I say that? icon_redface.gif )

    No, seriously (smacking my own face) your attraction to one sex or the other can still be in flux, even at 19. Don't panic, just step back, relax, and start over.

    Very shortly you will know, simply know. If you listen to your inner self, and not to others around you, you will know. It kinda reminds me of Luke Skywalker in the original Star Wars movie, where Obi Wan tells him to just let go, and let the Force guide him.

    Well, you have a Force, for gay or for straight, or in-between, right inside you. Let yourself go, and it will guide you.
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    OP: you don't mention you are into dudes anywhere in your post? Maybe you are straight and curious?
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    Relax, take it easy, and go with the flow, same as everybody else is saying. No point stressing too much or worrying about labels--best just worry about where your heart takes you and let your dick follow, if you ask me.
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    Yeah I agree with Fearthefall. Just because you're sometimes bored with women doesn't mean you're gay yet you're posting on here so you seem curious. You're only 18 so give it time, have fun, be safe and try to make as few mistakes along the way as you can. Ha ha.
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    LOL Android17 icon_lol.gif

    You're evil.