makavelli saidWhat gets me is the haughtiness each side shows on this debate.
I only had sex a few times a year in my 20s. I felt way too vulnerable to set foot in a sex club. I was plenty horny but I felt guilty about sex for the sole reason of getting my rocks off. Now I'm at peace and I embrace my entire self. As a man I feel it is normal that I should have a hedonistic and a romantic side. Some guys search so desperately for romance they try to repress the hedonistic urges and fell guilty when it erupts. That was me in my 20s. Others can't handle the emotions of anything that is not superficial and so they focus only on getting their rocks off. Your ideal match brings out both your romantic and hedonistic side.
I can't imagine how tough it is to be in 20 something in an age of all this impersonal technology. It is like manic, frenetic speed dating, and bed hopping. People have told me how guys at parties and bars just sit and play with their gadgets and never talk to the people sitting beside them. The man in the gadget has to be better than the live person sitting beside them.
I wondered why the young men here were all so judgmental and sanctimonious about promiscuity. But I'm getting a better understanding of the real problem. In my generation if you wanted to get your rocks off you picked someone up at a bar or went to a sex club. With bars or sex clubs you set aside a few hours and that is it. When you go home alone you're done for the night. You might feel you wasted your time but tough luck. Now you just play with your gadgets. The problem with that is you can be doing that shit 24/7. With manhunt, GPS software, and cam sex why bother going out in the real world and actually getting to know someone? So what you young guys are craving is a deeper more meaningful connection than the guy in the gadget can't give you. That goes for both the whores and the prudes.
Oh and about us old guys. Our hormones don't run our world as they may have at the peak of our sexual drive. Sure we still love sex but the well adjusted among us know that having a strong emotional connection is an aphrodisiac that no ED drug can replace.