A new site I made, aimed at creating a place to share coming out stories. Hopefully its a help to some people. [Icameout.org]

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    Jan 12, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    Hey Guys,

    The last few days I have been working on a new site; a new project to create a place to share and discover coming out stories. I aim to provide a safe place to ask questions and receive advice on the process, and a place to discover that it often takes courage but the results are often worth the effort.

    If you would like to help out with this project the easiest and most beneficial thing to do is to share your story. The site was just started on 1/11/2011 so the site does not have many stories currently posted, growing our database and collection of stories will help us grow and be more beneficial to the community.

    The address is http://icameout.org

    Any feedback would be appreciated.

    Thanks again,
    Matt
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    Jan 13, 2011 1:54 AM GMT
    "So I came out to my oldest friend over the phone; it was kind of awkward, but not bad by any means. Later that night I got this message from him:
    "hey man i've been out eating and drinking with my mom and uncle but i've been thinking about you. really glad you are out and comfortable with yourself. when I said I don't care, I only meant I don't judge you. I care - your my oldest friend. may your penis be happy and gay!"
    Pretty awesome."

    Funniest response so far.
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    Gotten a few more response, and some good feedback ;)
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    Jan 13, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    Good job. I'm sure it will help people who aren't out yet.
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    Jan 14, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    nightswimming saidGood job. I'm sure it will help people who aren't out yet.


    Thanks, hope it does.
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    Jan 14, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    this is awesome! I think this will help a lot of people! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 12:35 AM GMT
    Olympian saidthis is awesome! I think this will help a lot of people! icon_biggrin.gif


    Thanks, I had the idea a few days ago and figured it was worth the effort.
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    Jan 16, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    I would sincerely like to thank everyone who has made a post on the site already, as every story comes in it reminds me of how different every situation is, and that this will definitely be a helpful resource.
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    Jan 16, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    Submitted my hysterical story a few days ago. sweetness.png

    Great job on creating this site, by the way. It's a great outlet for those who are seeking comfort and the courage to come out and understand themselves better.

    +9000
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    Jan 16, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    Pervert saidSubmitted my hysterical story a few days ago. sweetness.png

    Great job on creating this site, by the way. It's a great outlet for those who are seeking comfort and the courage to come out and understand themselves better.

    +9000


    Thanks good to hear, I am still making small improvements here and there. Trying to make it as easy to use as possible.
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    Jan 16, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Awesome site!
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    Jan 16, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    Submitted mine! It's a bit long and apparently the site does not like Mac's because all my apostrophes and whatnot were turned into symbols. Anywho, great site!
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    Jan 16, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    acoco15 saidSubmitted mine! It's a bit long and apparently the site does not like Mac's because all my apostrophes and whatnot were turned into symbols. Anywho, great site!


    I know i noticed that and tried to fix it as much as possible if its still got some stuff wrong you can just mail me here on rj what's wrong and I will fix it.
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    Jan 16, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    Great idea matty!
    I'd suggest you contact GLBT groups in your state, and offer to put their links on your site if they'll reciprocate. Once local groups are on board, try for larger groups in your region and maybe national organizations. You sound like you're genuinely trying to help the GLBT community, so the more people you reach, the better. If you're comfortable with the idea, you should contact gay/lesbian publications in your area, too. They might include your site in a "what's new" column, or even do a story about it.
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    Jan 16, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    timmytwister saidGreat idea matty!
    I'd suggest you contact GLBT groups in your state, and offer to put their links on your site if they'll reciprocate. Once local groups are on board, try for larger groups in your region and maybe national organizations. You sound like you're genuinely trying to help the GLBT community, so the more people you reach, the better. If you're comfortable with the idea, you should contact gay/lesbian publications in your area, too. They might include your site in a "what's new" column, or even do a story about it.


    Thanks for the suggestions, I will try to look into that.
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    Jan 16, 2011 7:05 PM GMT

    Matt: Huge kudos to you!! Not sure, but you just might be the first to have created a site like this!! And it needs to be noticed....FAST!!
    I agree with "timmytwister".... get the word out.
    Also, you might contact various college campuses that have school supported gay groups...this would be the perfect age to answer a lot of questions.
    MY story is so old, it would have to be written in Sanskrit...and I was such a dumb, naive young fuck.
    Somehow, when I was about 16 or 17, I got hold of a book called The City of Night. The story is about a young man who decided his career choice was to be that of a call-boy...and THIS is what I wanted to become. Although the term never really applied to me, I WAS kept very well by several wealthy men.
    Anyway...I'm getting off on a sordid tangent...and my intention was just to applaud your efforts and wish you the best of success!!!
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    Jan 16, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    I saw it! That's awesommmme. It makes me happy. I'll go back and post my story later. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 16, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    Matt: Huge kudos to you!! Not sure, but you just might be the first to have created a site like this!! And it needs to be noticed....FAST!!
    I agree with "timmytwister".... get the word out.
    Also, you might contact various college campuses that have school supported gay groups...this would be the perfect age to answer a lot of questions.
    MY story is so old, it would have to be written in Sanskrit...and I was such a dumb, naive young fuck.
    Somehow, when I was about 16 or 17, I got hold of a book called The City of Night. The story is about a young man who decided his career choice was to be that of a call-boy...and THIS is what I wanted to become. Although the term never really applied to me, I WAS kept very well by several wealthy men.
    Anyway...I'm getting off on a sordid tangent...and my intention was just to applaud your efforts and wish you the best of success!!!


    Thanks, I am continuing to work to make it easy and bug free. I am planning on trying to get it posted by other websites, or supported by organizations.

    Overall, I am very happy by the response it has gotten. Some of the stories posted have really touched my heart, and I am sure this will continue.
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    Jan 17, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    SexyN3rd saidI saw it! That's awesommmme. It makes me happy. I'll go back and post my story later. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    Thanks, and love the username, gotta love the nerds <3
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:23 AM GMT
    I just read and commented on a few of them. Definitely just what I needed to come across right now.

    Hopefully I will be able to post my own story sometime before I'm out of college! (I'm a freshman, so it might be a while. Lol)
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:27 AM GMT
    GOOD JOB!
    This is what we as a community need. Outlets for 'our story'

    As a 60 year old activist ..this brings tears to my eyes.. all that work was worth it
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    Jan 17, 2011 7:19 PM GMT
    MrYoung10 saidI just read and commented on a few of them. Definitely just what I needed to come across right now.

    Hopefully I will be able to post my own story sometime before I'm out of college! (I'm a freshman, so it might be a while. Lol)


    Thanks for the post, its great to know it was of help to someone.
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    Jan 17, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
    the topic is kinda boring.. but good move.

    Can you build a site to share "my boyfriend slept with one of my best friends" kind of stories? thanks a lot.
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    Jan 17, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    Bigsmiles saidGOOD JOB!
    This is what we as a community need. Outlets for 'our story'

    As a 60 year old activist ..this brings tears to my eyes.. all that work was worth it


    Thank you for this ;)
    iLikeDCthe topic is kinda boring.. but good move.

    Can you build a site to share "my boyfriend slept with one of my best friends" kind of stories? thanks a lot.


    I could probably use this software for that too, we shall see where it goes.


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    Jan 17, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Bigsmiles saidGOOD JOB!
    This is what we as a community need. Outlets for 'our story'

    As a 60 year old activist ..this brings tears to my eyes.. all that work was worth it.

    I've already contributed there (under this Art_Deco SN), as have Paulflexes using his RJ SN, too, and I suspect some others from here. I hope you'll add to the stories, as well.

    Actually when I once owned an online site for gay disabled men I devoted a section to this subject of how guys had come out. But it wasn't the principle focus of the site, which was helping gay men deal with disabilities, there being some significant challenges in getting help & treatment to that group of which many non-disabled are not aware.

    Still, I thought it helpful to have that coming-out information there. Especially as many of the men going there for information were still closeted, and coming out can in many ways be a component in their dealing with their handicaps.

    (I eventually let the site expire, however, when I myself became too ill for a time to continue it, virtually by myself. Even though its membership was never bigger than the size of RJ's online population for much of the day, and being nothing as complex as this site, it was surprisingly time consuming, and I derived no income from it. I hope Matt's up to the job, to keep a needed concept like this going)

    Nevertheless, I never tried to devote a whole site just to coming out, though I did give the idea a passing thought. Therefore I'm very glad to see Matt start this one. And so contribute there, guys. It's for a worthy cause. And a gay cause, to boot.