bottoming advice?

  • northernblood

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    Jan 12, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    I like to do it when it feels good, but it usually hurts more than feels good. I know that there is a bottom bitch out there that has some advice or preparation technic. any ideas?
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    Jan 13, 2011 10:36 AM GMT
    where I learned about sex and such came from a website
    loversguide.com
    I checked out the gay section and well learned a lot from it, bottoming, topping, health stuff, relationship stuff, etc. Figured might as well post this here just in case someone else wanted to learn about it.

    Sorry for promoting the site, but well there's not much you can do when you're tired haha.
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    Jan 14, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    Start with lots and lots and lots of foreplay....... tons of kissing.

    Rimming doesnt particularly do it for me, but also, get him to just rub the head of his cock up and down your hole for ages first, like maybe 5 or 10 minutes, until you feel like you want it in just a tad further..... or even just kiss him while he keeps it there, not going in, but just touching, until it feels like it really shouldnt be anywhere else. You will get used to the feeling of it there and the desire to want more will come.
  • rnch

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    Jan 14, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    don't believe ANYTHING animus or draper will post on this thread!
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    Jan 15, 2011 10:12 AM GMT
    rnch saiddon't believe ANYTHING animus or draper will post on this thread!


    That makes it simple. Do exactly what other guys tell you what to do regarding bottoming.
  • northernblood

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    Jan 15, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    Somerandom saidStart with lots and lots and lots of foreplay....... tons of kissing.

    Rimming doesnt particularly do it for me, but also, get him to just rub the head of his cock up and down your hole for ages first, like maybe 5 or 10 minutes, until you feel like you want it in just a tad further..... or even just kiss him while he keeps it there, not going in, but just touching, until it feels like it really shouldnt be anywhere else. You will get used to the feeling of it there and the desire to want more will come.

    good advice! I have noticed the few good tops I had did exactly that, while the lame tops were super anxious. It seems like its more dependent on how good the top is, than how prepared my ass is icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    northernblood saidI like to do it when it feels good, but it usually hurts more than feels good. I know that there is a bottom bitch out there that has some advice or preparation technic. any ideas?


    In all seriousness, if it hurts to do and you're still doing it, you've entered into a particularly damaging dynamic. On the one hand, you're sacrificing your pleasure and accepting pain so that your partner, the top, can experience direct pleasure. And from your partners perspective, he's willing to have you withstand even pain and discomfort so that he can get himself off. That's the abusive truth about it.

    Love isn't built of working ill and harm on the person you love. It's about protecting that person from harm and ill in a union that is mutually satisfying.









  • rnch

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    Jan 15, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    Animus said
    rnch saiddon't believe ANYTHING animus or draper will post on this thread!


    That makes it simple. Do exactly what other guys tell you what to do regarding bottoming.


    so pleased that you finally agree that "we" are correct and "you" are wrong.
  • northernblood

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    Jan 15, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    Animus said
    northernblood saidI like to do it when it feels good, but it usually hurts more than feels good. I know that there is a bottom bitch out there that has some advice or preparation technic. any ideas?


    In all seriousness, if it hurts to do and you're still doing it, you've entered into a particularly damaging dynamic. On the one hand, you're sacrificing your pleasure and accepting pain so that your partner, the top, can experience direct pleasure. And from your partners perspective, he's willing to have you withstand even pain and discomfort so that he can get himself off. That's the abusive truth about it.

    Love isn't built of working ill and harm on the person you love. It's about protecting that person from harm and ill in a union that is mutually satisfying.


    I still get off even if it hurts a little. and so does my top. A little pain is FAR from the abuse your talking about. I am not sure what "damaging dynamic" your talking about either, but I am not over here getting fisted or double penetration. When I am in the bottom mood, I think a dominant more aggressive guy is many times more fun than some pansy who keeps asking "are you all right?". I also only hook up with guys who have a decent amount of respect, so they will stop when I need them to. There is no "abusive truth" to two hot studs getting off how they like to icon_biggrin.gif

    ps. Your logic is amputated (one handed)
  • rnch

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    Jan 15, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]northernblood said...ps. Your logic is amputated (one handed)[/quote]


    i'm guessing so is aminus's sex life! icon_lol.gif
  • northernblood

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    Jan 15, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    rnch said[quote][cite]northernblood said...ps. Your logic is amputated (one handed)



    i'm guessing so is am's sex life! icon_lol.gif[/quote]
    HA!!!!
  • rnch

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    Jan 15, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Draper said...This topic has been covered ad nauseam, and you'll find many responses from bottom bitches and some various other bitches. [/quote]

    like draper

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  • northernblood

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    Jan 15, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    Draper said
    northernblood saidI like to do it when it feels good, but it usually hurts more than feels good. I know that there is a bottom bitch out there that has some advice or preparation technic. any ideas?


    northernblood, you've been working in the sex industry since you were barely legal and you come here asking RJ members, specifically a "bottom bitch", for sex advice? icon_lol.gif

    Your "friends" in the industry or your doctor may be more helpful. Or how about your parents?

    Regardless, you've gotten a lot of hits on your profile and that's what's most important.icon_wink.gif

    And in case you didn't know, there's a search function you can use in the forums and find whatever you want; it works rather well. This topic has been covered ad nauseam, and you'll find many responses from bottom bitches and some various other bitches.

    I honestly don't have many friends in the industry because MOST of them are insane icon_biggrin.gif and I asked the question because it was an honest question, and a problem I have been having lately. as far as a "bottom bitch" comment, just a joke, some people may have got it. I was mainly looking for a good idea or two, which I got from the few people who gave me an honest response.

    I should really have asked you advice on this matter, since you obviously have something jammed FAR up your ass! icon_biggrin.gif
  • rnch

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    Jan 15, 2011 8:04 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]northernblood said...I should really have asked you advice on this matter, since you obviously have something jammed FAR up your ass! icon_biggrin.gif
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