What is it about older men.

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    Mar 26, 2008 6:22 PM GMT
    I dont know about anyone else.But, for me I find older men very sttractive.Some think that its the sucurity of not haveing a father figure being younger.And that its replacing that figure with being attracted to older men.Now come on I know the difference between being with an older man in his say late 30s who is attractive and fit.To a man of his late 30s and looks a little older and not so fit.I am attracted to the physic of an older man in general.There are men out there that happen to be older but happen to have the luck of having good genes and looking younger then they really are.

    As for me I am attracted to the way they act and are mature.The way they show compasion,their outgoing,they actually want to be loved and have oals.Yes it could also be that more then likely they wont mess around on you like someone younger would.But there are older men who have one interest also(sex) like a younger man would.

    So when someone also tells me that I like older men because they make me stand out RRRRRGGGHHH!Wrong because I have had boyfrinds that are older and are absolutley stunning.

    Point blank I just find them more attractive.

    P.S They work it better.LOL
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Mar 26, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    WOW WOW WOW.

    You are to be blessed by all of us older guys!

    I am sure when YOU become older you will be a fine person with great perspective and experience you got from being around more mature guys.

    Best to you!


    --- Ron
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 26, 2008 7:30 PM GMT
    I LOOOOOVVVVVEEEE older men!!! just look at the membership here on RJ, you're all so delicious!

    Yum Yum Yum

    As much as we hate to generalize, I will agree with Emman. I'm attracted to older men because of their maturity, thoughtfulness, outlook, etc. Personality wise, the list is endless.

    I also like their 'look'. They have this mature masculinity that's hard to put into words, I just know it when I see it...maybe it's that touch of salt-and-pepper, or the creases around their eyes when they smile. I don't know, but it just makes me weak in the knees.

    And no, it has nothing to do with an absent father. I used to spend my entire summer vacation travelling with my father, it's not like I was neglected or anything.
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    Mar 26, 2008 7:33 PM GMT
    awww shucks, guys....thanks! .... icon_redface.gif










    ....It's nice to know that when I get older, I will still be loved ... icon_lol.gif
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 26, 2008 7:34 PM GMT
    Mmmm...speak of the devil! icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 26, 2008 7:43 PM GMT
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    Mar 26, 2008 7:50 PM GMT
    Well I am glad I am taken otherwise I would be beating all you young whipper-snappers off with a stick (only kidding).

    My partner likes "manly" men, so when he was in his mid-20's he liked guys in their early to mid 30's, no twinks for him. It was the physical characteristics (hairiness) as well as the maturity.

    I have always preferred guys around my own age, in my 30's I liked guys in their late 20's to late 30's. If I was single now I would look in the mid to late 30's to early 50's range. I would only make an exception for someone younger if I thought they were ready to settle down. Guys in their mid to late 20's often still want to party twice every weekend at a bar.
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    Mar 26, 2008 7:54 PM GMT
    We know what we want.
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    Mar 26, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    hmmm...let's see...

    I'm in my late 30's.
    I'm fit.
    I'm attractive.
    I'm compassionate.
    I'm outgoing.
    I don't cheat.
    I'm mature...most of the time.

    So, Emman25...how YOU doin'?

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    Mar 26, 2008 8:19 PM GMT
    I just think. "Why are older hot attractive men being put on the sidelines when the ones that should (cheaters younger or older)are not? I just don't want for these men that i refer to too think that all young men are all the same.There are some younger guys out there that really want and find older men sweet, kind, hot, mature, loyal, honest, and tenderhearted .Over time, the age of desirability for gay men seems to get younger and younger. The age discrimination and lack of attention older or mature gay men receive is basically unfair and ridiculous....but then hey it gives me a bigger chance to reel one in huh.And in no way am I saying that they are charity cases because If I could I would give a little love to all of them. A kiss to all you gorgeous older men out there.MMMMUUUAAAHHH.



    Thanx for responding everyone.

    Im doing good Joescorpio.Thanx.
  • vindog

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    Mar 26, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    Emman25...I hear ya.


    I'm 32, my favorite age range on a personal and sexual level is 35-45. I'm not about to turn someone away JUST do to this, but a fit guy with some grey showing on the sides or some stray hairs throughout the head drives me NUTZ.

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    Mar 26, 2008 10:00 PM GMT
    atlnvmasc saidEmman25...I hear ya.


    I'm 32, my favorite age range on a personal and sexual level is 35-45. I'm not about to turn someone away JUST do to this, but a fit guy with some grey showing on the sides or some stray hairs throughout the head drives me NUTZ.



    Never felt better, stronger, trimmer, sexier and confident...I love being my age. Us older guys have skills that would make your eyes roll inside your head
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    Mar 26, 2008 10:05 PM GMT
    Most of the guys I have been with have been older than me. I dont know what it is. From there bodies, their salt and pepper hair to the way they carry themselves. My new crush is Brett Favre. He is not old but older and sexy.
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    Mar 26, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    Do you think your interests will advance as you age? I have a sneaking suspicion you like guys older, but as you approach THAT age, your love objects will not also incrementally age.

    I'm all about intellectualizing attraction, but I suspect your interest range is sort of set, and you've qualified it by describing attributes that are positive qualities.

    I'm initially flattered to think a younger guy would find me attractive, but my cynical side believes I'll out-age that "sweet spot".

    Any thoughts?
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    Mar 26, 2008 11:42 PM GMT
    As a kid. i to liked older men! But Now I am old. I am able to see the attractiveness, and some maturity of a 25 year old. Something I was not able to see at the same age. i was always the kind of guys that virgins, would want to have their first experience with. Yet I wanted experience, and maturity. So I always knocked them back.

    I was dawn home, in the bush some time ago. sitting in the local pub. When one of my mates mentioned my age. I was the oldest by about 10 years. The barman almost died, as One was the same age as his papa. Yet I looked nothing the same. I was young looking, took pride in oneself, yada, yada, yada.

    This must have something to do, with being able to have 25 year old, still cruse one. But we are into what we are into. One of my men, is 50, and the other is about to turn 40. But would I date a 25 year old; hmmmmmm, no.
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    Mar 26, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    Why can't I meet guys like you where I live??? You're very kind.
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    Mar 26, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    KissingPro said Us older guys have skills that would make your eyes roll inside your head

    Just like the wheels on a slot machine.

    Proof that practice makes perfect.

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    Mar 27, 2008 12:09 AM GMT
    I promised myself I wouldn't join in any "older" or "younger" thread, cause I think physical age (like height and weight) is one of the most misleading and meaningless statistics, yet one of the most slavishly followed.

    But I rarely follow rules, especially my own so...

    In my 20's I was attracted only to older women (I was more straight-leaning then), mostly because I found the women my age pretty empty-headed. I couldn't have a serious conversation with them and their goals seemed so superficial and short-term (go to a hot party, date a hot guy, be pretty).

    After I switched teams, I basically took a freakin long time to get serious about relationships (long story), and when I did, I was in my mid 40's already. While I tried to date guys my own age, I could never get interested. Why? They all seemed "settled." Settled with their homes. Jobs. Friends. Daily routine. They had all the pieces of the puzzle of their lives carefully put together, with just the boyfriend piece missing. I would have been that piece. Then the puzzle was finished for them.

    I couldn't have been more turned off.

    I ended up with a great boyfriend who was 20 years younger than me, to my surprise. We're no longer together, but we still love each other very much, and since then it seems I've only had successful flings/dates with the 20-something crowd. Part of me is nervous about this -- but I find it's a pretty small part. I do believe mostly in the age of a person's soul, not their body. And it's a person's soul I fall in love with.

    I think the same is true for the 20 somethings. They are falling for old souls. But more than one younger guy has said that an old soul contained in a younger-looking body is a real turn-on. I think the same is true for me. I'm just running into more old souls in 20-something bodies than I am in 40-somethings. All the 40-somethings just seem to want me to fill that last spot in their perfectly constructed lives. Bleech. I prefer the endlessly messy pile of puzzle pieces kind of life that is more characteristic of younger guys (and me, as well).

    So, bless all you young guys for keeping me company in my "gray haired" years icon_smile.gif

    K
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    Mar 27, 2008 12:17 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidDo you think your interests will advance as you age? I have a sneaking suspicion you like guys older, but as you approach THAT age, your love objects will not also incrementally age.

    I'm all about intellectualizing attraction, but I suspect your interest range is sort of set, and you've qualified it by describing attributes that are positive qualities.

    I'm initially flattered to think a younger guy would find me attractive, but my cynical side believes I'll out-age that "sweet spot".

    Any thoughts?
    Absotlutley!I want to thank you for responding first of all.And I have a comment also.I am very attracted to older men, yes.But also let me just say that Im not going to rule out the younger guys or guys my age.But just me being myself I tend to...or prefer to be with an older man if it came down to being in a serious relationship.

    As far as that "sweet spot" goes.Let me set an example for you.Say just for giggles and laughs, me and you were together.And Im talking about partners,lovers whatever you wanna call it.And we were together for 3 years.Yes you are older than me and yes with time we will get older.BUT...the way I see it is why would I wanna be with you for only three years and then change my mind and want someone else.If I have already spent three years with you why not go for two more if not ten.Why stop there.No matter the age.Even if we tend to get older I would rather get older and mature with my partner.I believe love grows a long the way not only that but stronger and thats not going for everyone, just the way I see it.The older I get the older my partner should be I tend to think if Im 26 in age, be with someone 27 or older.So yes maybe it would change a little.

    Don't worry about your cynical side.You got me.(for giggles and laughs)
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    Mar 27, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    iguanaSF said While I tried to date guys my own age, I could never get interested. Why? They all seemed "settled." Settled with their homes. Jobs. Friends. Daily routine. They had all the pieces of the puzzle of their lives carefully put together, with just the boyfriend piece missing. I would have been that piece. Then the puzzle was finished for them.

    I couldn't have been more turned off.


    Bosh. Not all of us have stopped loving life.
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    Mar 27, 2008 12:45 AM GMT
    Personally I would rather be with an inshape older male than a younger guy myself. Big plus if he has grey or salt and pepper hair.
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    Mar 27, 2008 1:50 AM GMT
    I've always been attracted to guys that were about ten to fifteen years older than me, which seens kinda weird being an old guy my self now. That hasn't changed too much. I will occasionally find myself going for a dip in the thentysomething age pool but that's mostly where the in shape guys are in my neck of the woods. I ran a quick search on the 40 to 60 age group and rifled through it with a mind toward setting up a camping trip, here in Idaho, this coming fall. It turned out to be pretty revealing to me. Sorta like a sexual attraction Roschak (sp?) ink blot test. Turns out I clicked on A LOT of bald guys. Go figure.

    (ever notice all the emoticons are bald?)


  • TallSoCal

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    Mar 27, 2008 1:54 AM GMT
    I actually talk about this on my page. Haha. Older guys (to me) are a plus. I haven't really figured out why, but I'm not complaining. Haha. They're there for you if they're not working a lot, and are less likely to cheat that younger guys. There is a sense of security with them, and again (to me), they just seem more romantic and caring.
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    Mar 27, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
    Older men are just hot. There is the maturity "most" have. The stability, knowledge, and experience of course. To top it all off.......hell I don't really know. I just see an older guy and my first thought is YUM. Its like asking why do we breath?
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    Mar 27, 2008 1:59 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio said
    I'm initially flattered to think a younger guy would find me attractive, but my cynical side believes I'll out-age that "sweet spot".


    This point has been brought to my attention before. I have noticed the age range of guys I find attractive is steadily becoming younger. However that doesn't replace the lack of maturity I continue to find. Thinking into the future, when I am in my 30's, 40's, 50's, as it is with my taste today, men those ages will still be what floats my boat.