Please give me advice on what to do

  • twilight2010

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    Jan 13, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    I have a boyfrien who i been with for 5 years now we had sex quite often sometimes twice a week. Now we not having sex , if im lucky we have it once a month. Every time i try to touch him romance him and try to start sex he brushes me off. Now what really concerns me is this. The other day i tried to have sex with him early in the morning then he told me he is not in the mood. I went out and when i came back i found him wanking while reading a porn magazine.

    Every time i want to have sex, he only sucks me off he does not let me suck him and i dont know what to do here.

    Advice Please
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    Jan 13, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    why are you asking this group? you should be directing your post to your bf...that is where you will find the answer.icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 13, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    ^Yes, you should just confront him directly about this since it's bothering you. Hopefully it will be something easily fixable, but I find this situation is often a sign of more serious problems in a relationship.

    There's clearly an elephant in the bedroom and you need to address it.
  • twilight2010

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    Jan 13, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    Hi Guys

    I did confront him on this and he said he is tired.

    But like i said this is how it is

    He says no to sex with me, then he goes and jerks off to magazines

    Everytime i try initiate sex, well he brushes me off.

    As i have asked him about this thing and i am seriously thinking of asking him to open our relationship because i need sex, sex is important it is a healthy part of a relationship. I dont want an open relationship but where else must i get sex from.

    It must be on his terms when he is in the mood only, when i try its a no
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    Jan 13, 2011 7:08 PM GMT
    Ask him to compromise. A relationship is a two-way street and not all about him. Tell him that you need sex, and even if he's tired, he needs to sometimes work through it and give it to you. Not every time you're horny -- just sometimes. Maybe schedule one or two nights a week that are your sex nights -- no matter what, you have sex on that night, no excuses. That way he can prepare himself mentally in advance and get into a sexual routine that may break him out of his funk.

    If you don't want an open relationship, don't ask for one. And don't give your guy an ultimatum -- few relationships can withstand ultimatums.
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    Jan 13, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    Other than the sex, has there been anything else in his/your life or the relationship that changed? Jobs? Weight?
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    Jan 13, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    Vancouverite2004 saidOther than the sex, has there been anything else in his/your life or the relationship that changed? Jobs? Weight?



    This is a little odd. You talked to him about wanting sex and how you keep finding him wacking off to porn and he says he's wacking off to porn because he'd tired?

    Why do I think I'm being had here?

    -Doug
  • twilight2010

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    Jan 13, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    Vancouverite2004 saidOther than the sex, has there been anything else in his/your life or the relationship that changed? Jobs? Weight?


    he did change jobs but before he changed it as problems like i just told you anout no sex. so its not that
  • twilight2010

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    Jan 17, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for some of you even private mes me about this, thanks for all your feedback, If any of you have anything else to advise me on regarding this thing please do. I need as much help on this issue as possible.

    Thanks guys
    Don