I just got called "CON SEANERY"

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    Jan 15, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    This 19 year old called me Sean Connery, until I let him know I didn't want to date him. Why are we gays so hateful when told by someone dating is out of the question?. I mean really, saying no is not an attack, or a put down, its just a "no". This guy went a lot further than this comment too, I tried to be nice about it, but it didn't work.

    Does it always have to be this way ? Are we as a group more often of low self esteem ? Is that whats behind not being able to accept "no" ?
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    Jan 15, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    A rejection is an immediate ego blow, for pretty much anyone. You can't pick up the temperance and aplomb off the street needed to accept rejection with grace and diplomacy.
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    Jan 15, 2011 12:59 AM GMT
    realifedad, most gays will insults you after you reject them because it's an inferior defense mechanism. They find fault in you in order to justify you finding fault in them. So this way they don't attribute any fault to themselves, but rationalize that the source was faulty. It's not really logical. It just makes them feel better.
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    Jan 15, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    Guys are funny like that. I should have died a hundred times or more, thanks to the number of death wishes Ive received after simply saying no thanks.

    Thing is, all it does is reinforce why you werent interested in the first place....
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    Jan 15, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    [quote]OP[cite]/cite]I just got called "CON SEANERY" [/quote]

    What does that mean? I don't get the insult out of it? It doesn't even make any sense.
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    Jan 15, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    nenslow said[quote]OP[cite]/cite]I just got called "CON SEANERY"


    What does that mean? I don't get the insult out of it? It doesn't even make any sense. [/quote]

    Im betting the OP probably wrote the little bastard a quick email with a compliment, and he responded back something bitchy like, "get lost, con seanery," as he somewhat favors Sean Connery (which is absolutely not a bad thing).

    Youre right, its a lame 'insult' and completely unnecessary.
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    Jan 15, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    You always need to keep it in the back of your head if a guy gets defensive after a rejection it's more about them than yourself....Low self esteem.?..Ya....Should all gay man be painted by a broad brush? No.....You develop a thick skin...and move on....BUD