Ever been discouraged by a guys hotlist?

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    Jan 15, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    I have to admit that there have been times where I was going to message a guy but looked at his hotlist and decided not to. Its not usually because I don't think that all of the people are vastly more attractive than me so much as I question whether or not I fit into the persons tastes. Does this ever happen to anyone else? icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    I think of my 'hotlist' as my "Fantasy (Foot)Ballers League" icon_twisted.gif
    or 'GILF'....guys I'd like to 'fornicate' with! icon_biggrin.gif

    IRL....not gonna happen. Nice to imagine, but so in the fantasy realm.

    So...don't be discouraged, son. If you like someone, message them and take it from there!
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    Jan 15, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    I can totally relate to the OP...
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jan 15, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    The only way I am discouraged by hotlists is if I'm incredibly flattered to be added to someone's hotlist only to find out that I'm 1 of 2000 RJ members. Then I feel stupid. They clearly add everyone.
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    Jan 15, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    I never know what to do when someone hotlists you without an accompanying message. Do you thank them? Do you hotlist them back? Same goes for buddy lists.
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    Jan 15, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    I dont get how someone can have 500+ people on their hotlist. To me, it is kind of like anything with legs, something between it and a bulge on a couple body parts and ...icon_eek.gif

    icon_lol.gif truly a case of "OOooo shiny"

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    not to sound jaded but i bet he is high maintenance like a ferrari icon_mad.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    YoungjockMN saidI dont get how someone can have 500+ people on their hotlist. To me, it is kind of like anything with legs, something between it and a bulge on a couple body parts and ...icon_eek.gif

    icon_lol.gif truly a case of "OOooo shiny"

    6a00e54fb7301c8834013488bdc429970c-pi

    not to sound jaded but i bet he is high maintenance like a ferrari icon_mad.gif


    roflmgfao..................................I LOVE this post.............................icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    dekiruman saidI have to admit that there have been times where I was going to message a guy but looked at his hotlist and decided not to. Its not usually because I don't think that all of the people are vastly more attractive than me so much as I question whether or not I fit into the persons tastes. Does this ever happen to anyone else? icon_neutral.gif


    No I don't really feel that. Usually if I'm attracted to a hot guy, I automatically perceive him to be a bit of a dick unless he proves otherwise icon_razz.gif

    But usually if the guy has like 300 people on his hotlist -- either because he hotlisted 300 or he did so out of courtesy to the 300 guys -- I get turned off. Personally I'm just more wary of a guy who's adored by many.
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    YoungjockMN saidI dont get how someone can have 500+ people on their hotlist. To me, it is kind of like anything with legs, something between it and a bulge on a couple body parts and ...icon_eek.gif

    icon_lol.gif truly a case of "OOooo shiny"

    6a00e54fb7301c8834013488bdc429970c-pi

    not to sound jaded but i bet he is high maintenance like a ferrari icon_mad.gif


    I like!
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:26 PM GMT

    Yeah the wind in the sail gets deflated rapidly when I see the shear number of good looking gay men.





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    Jan 15, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    YoungjockMN saidI dont get how someone can have 500+ people on their hotlist. To me, it is kind of like anything with legs, something between it and a bulge on a couple body parts and ...icon_eek.gif

    icon_lol.gif truly a case of "OOooo shiny"

    6a00e54fb7301c8834013488bdc429970c-pi

    not to sound jaded but i bet he is high maintenance like a ferrari icon_mad.gif


    With a guy like this... who cares???
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    YoungjockMN saidI dont get how someone can have 500+ people on their hotlist. To me, it is kind of like anything with legs, something between it and a bulge on a couple body parts and ...icon_eek.gif

    icon_lol.gif truly a case of "OOooo shiny"

    6a00e54fb7301c8834013488bdc429970c-pi

    not to sound jaded but i bet he is high maintenance like a ferrari icon_mad.gif


    You should know I like the Ferrari and looking for one now.

    Hmmmmmm maybe I should take this one out for a test drive icon_cool.gif

    Just don't expect a report back somethings you have to do for yourself icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 5:57 PM GMT
    Well...in my case..i know they are hot...but i really dont care since they will never aproach to me in real live, i am shure. Anyways, people Hot list me...without a comment...sooo....i dunno what too say. maybe i hot list him too? i dont know...but if i hot list someone, i shure leave a comment...

    I want someone who loves me by who i am and how i look, both sides. and Same for me. I Apply it myself.
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
    Anyone can have a great body but not everyone has a great personality.
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    Uhm you should not be.. The people that Im closest with on here, dont hotlist me, nor I them... we buddy list
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
    Different people use their hot list for different reasons. I tend to hot list someone that has a fantastic body that inspires me to work harder. If they are also attractive that's just icing on the cake.

    I know that on the rare occasion that I get hot listed I make sure to thank the person...it's flattering. It really does suck when you put someone on yours and you don't get a thank you. Seems kind of rude.
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Great...now I feel terrible. I haven't been thanking people at all except one recently.
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    Now I feel bad that you feel bad. Now worries...it's just my opinion. =) Maybe it's because I'm shocked by being added to one and get so excited that I have to thank them. =)
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    I don't have a hotlist. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
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    Vancouverite2004 saidGreat...now I feel terrible. I haven't been thanking people at all except one recently.

    Okay, you can thank me now, you hottie. icon_smile.gif


    Just did! Wow..that was easy! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    When I see a guy's hotlist I know I don't compare, get intimidated and don't bother messaging. This is the precise reason why I don't have a hotlist...and there are tons of incredibly crazy hot guys on here!!!!
  • fitartistsf

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    Jan 15, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    All the time... so when I get the occassional hotlisting, I thank the guy very much, I consider it an honor to be placed amongst some of the hotttest guys on RJ, even though I know I'm not...
    My hot list is as already stated, more of an inspiration to do better, AND also as stated a bookmarking so I may sometime respond more closely to that guy, if we communicate further, and if that happens he moves to my Buddy list.
    My hotlist is also to let the guy know I am complementing him, telling him I find him extremely attractive, or loved his written profile, albeit, in a silent way, because maybe I haven't the time to post a message telling him so...
    But also, I do very much get intimidated into maybe not communicating with the guy, because I start feeling inferior and that he may not think I am up to his standards...
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    No icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    vetteset said
    YoungjockMN said
    not to sound jaded but i bet he is high maintenance like a ferrari icon_mad.gif


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    hahaha, well, I try.

    I think the hotlist function is available so that the guy your hot listing knows you find him attractive.
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    Jan 15, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    Christian201 saidWell...in my case..i know they are hot...but i really dont care since they will never aproach to me in real live, i am shure. Anyways, people Hot list me...without a comment...sooo....i dunno what too say. maybe i hot list him too? i dont know...but if i hot list someone, i shure leave a comment...

    I want someone who loves me by who i am and how i look, both sides. and Same for me. I Apply it myself.

    Hey, welcome again. Unless someone hotlists many, I think a simple reply is appropriate like this - "Thanks for the hotlist. Really appreciate it." Not at all necessary to add to your hot list, unless they meet your own definition of what it means to be on your hot list.