On being bottom and meaningless sex...

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    Mar 27, 2008 6:26 AM GMT
    Last night out of alcohol-induced horniness, depression and desperation, I asked a pizza delivery boy to fuck me. He did so with much gusto: fire exit, unzipped, condom on, rammed, came, left. No kissing, no talking (he's Egyptian, I think).
    During the actual fucking, I had an epiphany: maybe gay bottoms like me (my first anal sex was at age 9 by a teenager, btw), engage in such, so as to psychologically justify that the act which took place in my childhood is something that I did crave back then, which in turn feels right, fine, acceptable, guilt-free from then to present.
    What are your thoughts?
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    Mar 27, 2008 7:22 AM GMT
    I think Woody Allen once said: “Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as far as meaningless experiences go its pretty damn good.”

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    Mar 27, 2008 2:14 PM GMT
    Maybe some do. But I'm pretty sure the psychological reasoning behind one's preference of position during sex has a lot more to it than just one or several experiences during childhood--admittedly, those might have a strong influence, but I doubt in most cases it would be so pronounced as to be something that would influence your entire sexual perspective during the rest of your developement.

    Than again, many child molesters became such because they were molested as children, so who's to say it isn't true?
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    Mar 27, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
    i havent had sex in a while just because im sick of meaningless sex and i think im searching for something more meaningful. But honestly, i would not just let the pizza guy fuck me, or any guy i dont know for that sort. if i wanna sleep with a person, i have to at least hang out with them a few times and get to know them first
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    Mar 27, 2008 4:25 PM GMT
    A child who has only been exposed to vanilla ice cream will believe it is the best thing in the world because it is the only good thing in the world...up until he is exposed to chocolate.

    You may still be hooked on to that vanilla and the joy it gave you, at least when the chocolate (love/happiness) is not available.

    [Of course, this analogy only applies in a perfect utopia where all human beings recognize that chocolate is way better than vanilla.
    Unfortunately some are not convinced *shivers*]





    I'm no authoritye in the subject, I'm just hungry.

    ::cue Walk Like an Egyptian::

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    Mar 27, 2008 4:34 PM GMT
    I think it is dangerous to over analyze behaviour, and this is coming from a guy who slaved through four years of psychology!

    Zimatar even without the sex you had at 9 you would likely have become a bottom. That is the position that brings you a lot of sexual pleasure, nothing wrong with that as far as I can tell. A lot of guys enjoy having the prostate massaged. I have nothing against being a bottom, except my body does not want to cooperate. I am too much of an uptight WASP to enjoy it.

    I would be careful though about engaging in a lot of casual sex because you are depressed. Like alcohol, it feels good at the time, but it can depress you more later. I always found I enjoyed casual sex the most when I was in a relaxed and happy mood, not when I was depressed or lonely.
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    Mar 27, 2008 7:49 PM GMT
    onmyway saidA child who has only been exposed to vanilla ice cream will believe it is the best thing in the world because it is the only good thing in the world...up until he is exposed to chocolate.

    You may still be hooked on to that vanilla and the joy it gave you, at least when the chocolate (love/happiness) is not available.

    [Of course, this analogy only applies in a perfect utopia where all human beings recognize that chocolate is way better than vanilla.
    Unfortunately some are not convinced *shivers*]











    lol. I'm the type of guy that gives someone chocolate and vanilla swirl. But, in my experience, not too many people want or like this mixed flavor or ice cream.
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    Mar 29, 2008 2:32 AM GMT
    zimatar saidLast night out of alcohol-induced horniness, depression and desperation, I asked a pizza delivery boy to fuck me. He did so with much gusto: fire exit, unzipped, condom on, rammed, came, left. No kissing, no talking (he's Egyptian, I think).

    I've always said,
    You've got to watch out for those Egyptian pizza delivery boys.

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    Mar 29, 2008 6:48 AM GMT
    Somehow I don't understand why are some men fascinated with being a bottom.

    To tell the truth, I don't feel anything. No prostrate massage, no electrifying sensation, nothing. To me, it's just a big dick stretching my ass (ouch!!) and then going in and out of it.

    The only arousing thing is that me being gay and there is a dick moving in and out of my body. That very thought makes me sexually happy enough to allow that to continue to happen.

    Apart from that, frankly, I don't feel very much about being a bottom. On the other hand, being a top makes a very happy man, so somehow someone has to sacrifice. :p
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    Mar 29, 2008 7:01 PM GMT
    Wow! A Pizza delivery guy, thanks for the tip.
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    Mar 31, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
    If everyday is my birthday, then WHEN is my special day? icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    Titanite saidSomehow I don't understand why are some men fascinated with being a bottom.

    To tell the truth, I don't feel anything. No prostrate massage, no electrifying sensation, nothing. To me, it's just a big dick stretching my ass (ouch!!) and then going in and out of it.


    It depends on the person, even just physically. I'm a complete bottom. I've tried topping and I honestly don't derive much plesure from it. Bottoming is different. My best friend is a complete top though and he says the same thing. I can definitely feel that "electrifying sensation," but he says he feels nothing.

    But hey, to each their own. Besides, what fun would it be if we were all tops or all bottoms? :p
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    Apr 01, 2008 11:45 AM GMT
    zimatar saidLast night out of alcohol-induced horniness, depression and desperation, I asked a pizza delivery boy to fuck me. He did so with much gusto: fire exit, unzipped, condom on, rammed, came, left. No kissing, no talking (he's Egyptian, I think).
    During the actual fucking, I had an epiphany: maybe gay bottoms like me (my first anal sex was at age 9 by a teenager, btw), engage in such, so as to psychologically justify that the act which took place in my childhood is something that I did crave back then, which in turn feels right, fine, acceptable, guilt-free from then to present.
    What are your thoughts?



    epiphany. LOL