its been a bad night..

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    Jan 16, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    so i contemplated a few things im not proud of, its not due to any one thing, just a cluster of life events. Im officially off to join the military i've decided, this has always been a plan for me but tonight it dawned on me that i have nothing holding me anywhere icon_cry.gif lol. Kinda distant with my family, ya there are friends and such that i'd consider close, but theres no real obligations or anything set, i faced the fact that love isnt in the cards for my personality type, and above all, im bored and need to feel life for a bit, like, a big pinch or something, i just need to feel something. I know this comes off as mellow and all nirvana grunge, but i'm just being real with myself. Not sure what i need to hear about in the responses, if there are any, lol, maybe some other's similar experiences? Was gonna do the chat thing on here but it just didnt seem to go with what im feeling.
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    Jan 16, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    Wait about what is it...two months? Then when you join the military you can have bro sex without getting kicked out.

    Life after college sucks ass because there's no set agenda for you and for the first time you have to plan your life (which ironically school hardly seemed to have prepared you for).
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    Jan 16, 2011 7:15 AM GMT
    im in Canada, bro sex is allowed, lol, these days probably even in public, we're chill up here.

    I agree, after school is awful if you haven't a plan for more schooling, i would do more but its not what i want. I wanna get into criminal intelligence so the military will be a stepping stone and more education is just around the corner.

    Bring on more responses, i just need to read and soak in comforing words, but nothing too sappy or generic like "we're your new family" or "it gets better" lol.
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    Jan 16, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
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    Bring on more responses, i just need to read and soak in comforing words, but nothing too sappy or generic like "we're your new family" or "it gets better" lol.

    Welcome to the family, then... No, not the GLBT community, rather the (from your profile) "ill probably offend you in some way though with my comments on most topics...i lack the filter most were born with" family. I usually try to artificially filter what comes out, and am only really comfortable around other people who lack that "filter" as they are usually hard to offend... I don't need to work so hard at trying to consider every word and phrase that comes out.

    Anyhow, sign up for the minimum term; see if it is what you like. If not, you are young enough that it can be "an experience" and you can move on with life... If you do like it, early retirement is only a few years away (well, sooner than it would be with any other career.) It should give you some time to reflect on what you want out of life and some education / tools to help you provided you don't get caught up in the cheap alcohol and you retain you ability to think for yourself instead of "just following orders". Some people I know retain that ability, some do not...

    Good luck.
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    Jan 16, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    if you feel your spirit leading you to the military, then follow it, but never do things out of boredom. We are all somewhat in the same boat as far as finding the right guy. I see a lot of ferraris, but many are not for sale, or just an illusion.

    realize that life is what we make it and in order to attain goals, we need to walk toward them, grasp them and run. Keep a positive attitude in the face of adversity and you will succeed brother...........all my best............Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 16, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    I agree with what a lot of guys said about joining the military- don't do it just because you need a big pinch, do it because you really want to. Or at least, join under the most minimum obligations, in case you decide it's not for you.

    Why don't you try just packing up and moving to a different city? You'd be surprised how big a pinch, and how invigorating, it can be.
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    Jan 16, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    I slept on it all, and it was always something i wanted to do, its just that now i feel like its my life giving me the okay to go for it. So im looking forward to it!

    Advice on moving away to a new city - i like that idea, however it would just be postponing my future and building up debt that i just paid off. Life should be easier than it is, money governs everything so ill leave the city hopping up to my career. I do know that i have to get out of the city im in right now though, i associate it too much with school and temporarity...thats not a word.

    Thanks for the advice guys, sometimes all one needs is to sleep on things and have some gin. haha.
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    Jan 16, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    From the first post I was worried this was just a grasp at change and I'm not sure the military would be a wise choice for that given the situations you may find yourself in. However, if you have clear objectives of what you want to get out of this - like using it as a stepping stone to criminal intel along with a life change, new relationships, see the world, etc - then that makes more sense. If you haven't already, do some research on the criminal intel industry, and contact some of the employers in that field (local police force? OPP? RCMP?) and ask someone in HR there for an information interview to discuss your plans and find out if the military path is something they would see as an asset. They may have other ideas as well to consider that would also meet your objectives. Nothing wrong with joining the military - it's a very honourable choice - it's just a big committment you should go into with both eyes open.
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    Jan 16, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    It sounds to me like this is not a rash decision...and that you have thought it out for quite some time.
    I highly recommend military service to those who are just kinda lost and not sure of what they want to be when they "grow up"... Not only is it an opportunity to learn various aspects of a field you might find interesting, you will learn much about yourself.
    Boot camp alone will teach you discipline and respect...both for your commanding officers, but for yourself, as well!! The physical training is a great thing as well as learning how to work as a team. The latter, in it self, is a great tool later in life.
    Not sure what the minimum sign-up period is in Canada, but that might be a good choice until you know you are on the right track. You can always re-enlist later for a longer term of service. In this country, they give bonuses for re-enlistment.
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    Jan 16, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    Why turn your likfe over to the military to live for you? It sounds to me as though you are a bit undifined and the "big pinch" will not supply the motivation you need. Only YOU can come up with that. Think this one out carefully. Once you enlist there will not be time to do so.
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    Jan 16, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    At the age of 20, I found myself at a loose end, lacking direction and self-discipline and in the middle of an economic recession, so I decided to join up. I did not intend sticking around for more than a few years. Twenty-six years, ten postings and 4 operational tours later, I am still serving. I have just over a year of service left and I am now looking forward to leaving and living permanently in my own place.

    I have no regrets about joining the armed forces and would recommend it, provided you are content with living a nomadic lifestyle and do not mind being messed about now and then (which, of course, can happen in any career). There are a lot of fringe benefits, such as medical and dental care and free gym membership! Get yourself through initial training (which bears no relation to the real world) and you will be fine.

    Good luck in whatever you decide.

    P.S. You might want to try something a bit more upbeat for a thread title, like "A New Chapter in my Life: Joining the Armed Forces"
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 16, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're in somewhat of a rut, and when that happens it's good to sort of shake things up a bit, take some chances, step outside of your comfort zone and open yourself to new experiences and opportunites. Life is full of surprises if you're open to letting them happen. Good luck!!!
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    Jan 16, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    Dude go for it! you only live once icon_biggrin.gif