A worrisome profile I found

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    Jan 16, 2011 5:30 PM GMT
    Ok never posted up someone's profile before but this guy viewed me and I was quite concerned about his physical and emotional well being.

    http://www.realjock.com/Twiggums


    I'm a slim athletic guy and I use to slimmer before but I always was in the healthy zone of things....On the other hand this guy wants to lose more weight and that is really scary.

    To say its none of our business in this profile would be rather cruel.This is a fitness site after all and we as healthy men should point out and assist members who may need help. Berating this guy won't help a bit, I mean I know some of you may joke about his profile but the fact remains is that something should be done.

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    Jan 17, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    Wow this is potentially quite scary if the profile is real.

    I say IF, as the profile is somewhat suspect.

    However, maybe the forum isn't the best place to discuss/try to combat any possible problems with the particular person in case they feel they are being victimised/libeled..... (i'm sure this isn't your intention, but regardless.....Best to err on the side of caution here, imo)

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    Jan 17, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    I doubt it's real. Too much effort.
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    Jan 17, 2011 12:57 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidOk never posted up someone's profile before but this guy viewed me and I was quite concerned about his physical and emotional well being.

    http://www.realjock.com/Twiggums


    I'm a slim athletic guy and I use to slimmer before but I always was in the healthy zone of things....On the other hand this guy wants to lose more weight and that is really scary.

    To say its none of our business in this profile would be rather cruel.This is a fitness site after all and we as healthy men should point out and assist members who may need help. Berating this guy won't help a bit, I mean I know some of you may joke about his profile but the fact remains is that something should be done.



    It's nice to see someone with heart enough to post what you did, anyway.
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    Jan 17, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    It disturbs me too even if it might not be real. I honestly have no idea what to do. We don't know him personally and we can't talk to him. He may or may not even read the thread. What can you say in a quick email that might persuade him to seek help?
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    Jan 17, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    He is painfully thin. I don't know either what to suggest. Have you messaged him privately? Something like this is a deeply private decision. What would you say to him since you are an alien to him?
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Would someone PLEASE send him a sandwich and a protein shake! JEEZ! icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    I use to be that thin well I use to be 88-90 pounds and I looked anorexic. People always thought I was sick or felt bad for me and would always look at me weird. He could just be naturally skinny, a lot of asians are really naturally skinny. Also, since he is 6'2 it might be hard for him to gain weight and he might just be healthy. Most tall people I know are really really skinny and they are perfectly healthy.
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    A_1991 saidI use to be that thin well I use to be 88-90 pounds and I looked anorexic. People always thought I was sick or felt bad for me and would always look at me weird. He could just be naturally skinny, a lot of asians are really naturally skinny. Also, since he is 6'2 it might be hard for him to gain weight and he might just be healthy. Most tall people I know are really really skinny and they are perfectly healthy.


    Dude, read the profile. Fivealive is justifiably concerned.
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    BoulderingBum said
    A_1991 saidI use to be that thin well I use to be 88-90 pounds and I looked anorexic. People always thought I was sick or felt bad for me and would always look at me weird. He could just be naturally skinny, a lot of asians are really naturally skinny. Also, since he is 6'2 it might be hard for him to gain weight and he might just be healthy. Most tall people I know are really really skinny and they are perfectly healthy.


    Dude, read the profile. Fivealive is justifiably concerned.


    Okay never mind. I just read it! Okay this guy has a problem. He seems very insecure about his heritage and life icon_eek.gif! Maybe that is where his eating disorder comes from?
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    A_1991 saidI use to be that thin well I use to be 88-90 pounds and I looked anorexic. People always thought I was sick or felt bad for me and would always look at me weird. He could just be naturally skinny, a lot of asians are really naturally skinny. Also, since he is 6'2 it might be hard for him to gain weight and he might just be healthy. Most tall people I know are really really skinny and they are perfectly healthy.


    Sorry but I agree with the OP this is disturbing. I reached close to 6" 2' as a teenager and after growing a foot in one year. I was 145 at that time with an enormous appetite. I was also a competitive runner. I still managed to gain 10 lbs by the time I entered college and then another 5 lbs by the time I left. I wanted to gain weight while this kid is 135 and he wants to lose weight! I can only hope it is a fake profile.
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidLooks like the profile is deleted now. icon_eek.gif


    you guys scared him now hes gonna go hang himself
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    Well I did message him privately and he says that would see a therapist and would rather die than gain weight....He even said to me that I need to lose weight?!icon_eek.gif

    This is all before the page went missing.Even if was a fake, we all need to keep an err of caution on anyone's well being
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    Jan 17, 2011 6:01 AM GMT
    I'm smelling a rat in this entire drama....how convenient that this profile is gone now...hmmm....get better who ever you are "TWIGGUMS"....
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    Jan 17, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidI'm smelling a rat in this entire drama....how convenient that this profile is gone now...hmmm....get better who ever you are "TWIGGUMS"....


    looool I just noticed the profile name, i DON'T know how I missed that one!! I have a few suspicions as to who it might have been really icon_wink.gif

    There has been a recent bout of seemingly suspect new, less than a week old, profiles on the forum, troll like profiles, with under 5 posts, but a lot of drama to express......Keep your eyes peeled...Somebody/bodies are out looking for shits and giggles icon_twisted.gificon_eek.gificon_lol.gif

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    Jan 17, 2011 6:20 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidWell I did message him privately and he says that would see a therapist and would rather die than gain weight....He even said to me that I need to lose weight?!icon_eek.gif

    This is all before the page went missing.Even if was a fake, we all need to keep an err of caution on anyone's well being

    Well, even if this were some phony profile deal (and I did see it), there are such individuals who do need help, who have a wildly distorted and unrealistic view of themselves that we ourselves can't comprehend. We read of their tragic ends all the time, so we know they exist, despite our disbelief.

    So the lesson here is that if we run across one on this site, we should try to help, not harass. If he's a phony we'll find out soon enough. My experience is that online frauds always eventually slip up, one way or the other. Give them enough text and they'll hang themselves.

    In the meantime, I have little to lose by ordinarily giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, and going along with their story, unless it's patently false at the outset. Sometimes it can even be amusing to see where it leads.
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    Jan 17, 2011 6:53 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]REBELATHEART said>

    you guys scared him now hes gonna go hang himself[/quote]

    I don't think your quote is funny ......icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 17, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    For those who didn't see the profile, here's the Google cache of it:

    http://is.gd/iUVfsl
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    Jan 17, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    I figured the profile name sounded odd but still raised alarms for me
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    [cite]neffa said[/cite][cite]REBELATHEART said>

    you guys scared him now hes gonna go hang himself[/quote]

    I don't think your quote is funny ......icon_sad.gif[/quote]

    No, I don't think it's the slightest bit funny either....BUT, I also feel that the OP is a total DICK for posting his profile link into a forum thread!!
    Grow some balls, you little jerk, and handle your PRIVATE affairs in PRIVATE!!
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    Jan 17, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    bro, i contacted my ex regarding it. he recommended Sheena's Place. they have great groups for men in toronto

    http://www.sheenasplace.org/
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said[cite]neffa said[/cite][cite]REBELATHEART said>

    you guys scared him now hes gonna go hang himself


    I don't think your quote is funny ......icon_sad.gif[/quote]

    No, I don't think it's the slightest bit funny either....BUT, I also feel that the OP is a total DICK for posting his profile link into a forum thread!!
    Grow some balls, you little jerk, and handle your PRIVATE affairs in PRIVATE!!
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    Excuse me how am I a dick for posting for something which I felt was of genuine concern. If anything it helps to shed light on 'manorexia' and negative body image.
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    It does sound a little fishy, but if it was a correct profile and the guy indeed wants to lose weight, he probably should see a counselor or the like.

    The picture looks pretty twisted, if it's a joke, it's in bad taste and if true,
    I hope he gets help... you probably did the right thing to bring it up Fivealive.
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    Fivealive said
    Friendsrbetter said[cite]neffa said[/cite][cite]REBELATHEART said>

    you guys scared him now hes gonna go hang himself


    I don't think your quote is funny ......icon_sad.gif


    No, I don't think it's the slightest bit funny either....BUT, I also feel that the OP is a total DICK for posting his profile link into a forum thread!!
    Grow some balls, you little jerk, and handle your PRIVATE affairs in PRIVATE!!
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    Excuse me how am I a dick for posting for something which I felt was of genuine concern. If anything it helps to shed light on 'manorexia' and negative body image.[/quote]





    You could have brought up the general issue without singling out one particular member (who would have been somewhat unstable and a danger to himself if he WAS real) for the world to judge and throw their two cents in.

    If he would of volunteered the info in the forum himself then that is a different matter altogether. Fair game... He did not.


    Nobody is really doubting your good intentions, but they way you went about it, if he was a real person/profile, was kind of disrespectful and insensitive because it is singling somebody out for something which could be very dangerous as well as humiliating. We all mistakes though, so I for one am not judging you bud. Just learn from it, as we all do =]
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    Jan 17, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    Fivealive said
    Friendsrbetter said[cite]neffa said[/cite][cite]REBELATHEART said>
    you guys scared him now hes gonna go hang himself

    I don't think your quote is funny ......icon_sad.gif

    No, I don't think it's the slightest bit funny either....BUT, I also feel that the OP is a total DICK for posting his profile link into a forum thread!!
    Grow some balls, you little jerk, and handle your PRIVATE affairs in PRIVATE!!
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    Excuse me how am I a dick for posting for something which I felt was of genuine concern. If anything it helps to shed light on 'manorexia' and negative body image.[/quote]

    You are a DICK because you used his profile link!! You should have posed this a "genuine concern"...without "outing" him !!! You have NO right to do that!! If you have any credentials that make you qualified to help this individual, you should have done it in private!!! Making him a public spectacle is in the worst taste possible!!! And, you're still a DICK !!