what do you guys think about sleeping with a committed guy?

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    Jan 17, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    where committed = in relationship with another guy / girl, married to a guy / girl
    (let's assume that a committed relationship means monogamy)

    I usually find myself fighting my moral instincts if I really like the guy. What do you guys think?

    1. You cant get over the guy lying to his partner
    2. You feel like an accomplice in the crime
    3. You are religious and you think it's a moral sin
    4. You are not religious, but the guy is religious, and you cant overlook the obvious act of hypocrisy
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    Jan 17, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
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    Jan 17, 2011 8:45 PM GMT
    1, 2 {because you are} and add 5. You're not religious, he's not religious, but you can't overlook the obvious act of hypocrisy.
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    Do unto others what you want done to you...
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    If he's "with" someone else and sleeping with me, I wouldn't call that "committed" or "monogamous."
  • calibro

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    Jan 18, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    Advaya saidI usually find myself fighting my moral instincts if I really like the guy.


    i think that's all you need to know.
  • Caguy10

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    Jan 18, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    get out of it. if you know its wrong dont do it. regardless of your feelings is the hard part, but...the rest has already been said.
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    umm, lets see how many guys gave a straight answer. looks very close to 0!
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    I'd think that he's not committed. Full stop. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    BoulderingBum saidI'd think that he's not committed. Full stop. icon_rolleyes.gif


    yup
  • UnluckyTitan

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    Jan 18, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    They are the one cheating, not me. As long as I know it's NSA I'm OK with it. icon_twisted.gif
  • activeboy90

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    Jan 18, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    I think homewrecker, I understand its the cheaters wrong doing but I would have no part in hurting someone. When you see the people you love most get horribly deceived in the same situation (e.g. A parent, grandmother, your little sister), you can't do something like that to another
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    ya
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:47 AM GMT
    I don't think I could do it. I don't want to be a part of hurting and deceiving another individual like that. Cheating is just gross to me. Plus I am not into NSA sex which is what it would probably be so yeah.

    I think if a person is going to do this, they should first look the guy's boyfriend or girlfriend in the face and have a conversation to see if they change their mind. If not then, well, whatever, but just remember karma is a bitch!
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    Do it.
    Enjoy it.
    Record it.
    Watch it.
    Relive it.
    Regret it.
    Repress it.

    ...then come clean to the partner- after it resurfaces.
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    Committed guys are hot
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    UnluckyTitan saidThey are the one cheating, not me. As long as I know it's NSA I'm OK with it. icon_twisted.gif


    I agree.
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    Not a commitment if he does it. Fuck him if he does. Karma wont be good to his ass.

    You know sleeping with him will hurt his guy..possibly break his guy's heart....and yet you are still contemplating? What if you were him?

    .....says a lot about your character....
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    Advaya saidwhere committed = in relationship with another guy / girl, married to a guy / girl
    (let's assume that a committed relationship means monogamy)


    One more reason not to assume monogamy has to come along with commitment. Open relationships solve that problem.
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    Whether there is a religious element or not, it's still wrong in my opinion. Sometimes people are selfish and only think about themselves, and do not care what damage they bring to others. You should always put yourself in the other person's shoes, so it's a good idea to pause and ask...."If that was me, would I mind?"

    In any case, I'm a big believer in karma.
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    Sorry. I couldn't do it. I'm not gonna be someone's little secret nor will I waste my time with their insecurities. I've got too much self respect to lower myself just for a fun fling. I've got morals.

    To the guys who said they would that says a lot about how you view relationships and it might add on to the fact that a lot of you are single because it seems you'd be open to cheating if the opportunity presented itself. I'm just saying.
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    1. what the guy does with his partner is none of your business
    2. it's not a crime, so you can't be an accomplice - even in the spirit of what you wrote the "crime" is HIS lying and HIM breaking HIS word - you might be USED in the process but you're not an accomplice... If you're getting him drunk, coming on to him, and then helping to cover his trail then you're culpable.
    3. If you're religious...what?? cheating is a moral sin and gay sex isn't? which religion is that? LOL
    4. I don't see any hypocrisy in your situation. Only a guy breaking his word to his partner. You're thinking about fucking a liar... The thought that should probably be passing your mind is was he telling you the truth about his HIV status? venereal warts or herpes?

    I think the easy answer is: if it makes you feel bad then don't do it!
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    Voltaire said1. what the guy does with his partner is none of your business
    2. it's not a crime, so you can't be an accomplice - even in the spirit of what you wrote the "crime" is HIS lying and HIM breaking HIS word - you might be USED in the process but you're not an accomplice... If you're getting him drunk, coming on to him, and then helping to cover his trail then you're culpable.
    3. If you're religious...what?? cheating is a moral sin and gay sex isn't? which religion is that? LOL
    4. I don't see any hypocrisy in your situation. Only a guy breaking his word to his partner. You're thinking about fucking a liar... The thought that should probably be passing your mind is was he telling you the truth about his HIV status? venereal warts or herpes?

    I think the easy answer is: if it makes you feel bad then don't do it!


    1. It IS your business. If it's been established that the guy is a liar, he may be lying about anything else he has told you. Taking your example, he may be HIV positive and may very well be aware of it.
    2. Agreed, you may be "used" in the process by not telling you that he is committed to someone else and by not giving you an opportunity to make a calculated decision.
    3. and 4. That was more relevant to married guys. You vow monogamy to your spouse in most religions.
    If you talk about christianity for instance, there is no conclusive argument that proves it's stance on homosexuality (or that's what my understanding it).

    Thanks, you have great points. I am making a lot of assumptions while writing this. Of course there is hardly any major religion that approves of pre-marital sex; but it's usually accepted in today's society.
  • rioriz

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    Jan 18, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    I couldn't do it because it has been done to me multiple times and the truth always seems to come out sometime. I know how it feels to be the other guy and it is not that great of a feeling. So the answer is no I wouldn't
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    No qaulms with it. Im not the one in the relationship, so Im doing nothing wrong.

    Not that I see anything wrong with having relations outside a relationship anyway. My parents are open, and they've been together since they were 16. They'll likely never split up, since they have an arrangement that clearly works for them....