What makes someone a REAL man and not just a RealJock?

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    Jan 17, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    Besides the physical, what makes someone a real man? In my opinion, it is the ability to honor one's word and commit oneself in the long-term to something worthwhile. I'd love to hear everyone else's ideas and/or experiences...
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    Having a dick.
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidHaving a dick.


    Lmfao..icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    a REAL man?...I never met one yet. I thought i did...but i was wrong. Cowards and queens have the talent to hide themselves behind masculine, mature masks. I am only 20 but I've been disappointed enough to lose faith in men.

    I'm done. There's no real men out there...

    Selfishness rules this world.
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    Jan 17, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    Someone who's as good as his word.
  • Jessie_Lee

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    Jan 18, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    One word.
    RELIABLE

    And I can rehash on what other people said:

    paulflexesHaving a dick.

    So have a dick makes a paranoid, bitchy queen a REAL man?

    FriendsrbetterA REAL man is (among other things)
    Honest to a fault
    Has high moral standards
    Committed to family, friends, loved ones...and especially to himself.
    Admits AND learns from his mistakes.
    Compassion for his fellow man, especially to those less fortunate.
    Understands that he must FIRST be a man before he can ask anyone else to accept him as such.
    His profile should say much more about himself than who/what he is looking for. Be all YOU can be before asking someone else to.

    So are REAL man would tell someone that their outfit makes them look fatter?
    High moral standards? Cowards can have high moral standards, still doesn't make them a REAL man.
    Hmmm, family-oriented, good luck trying to getting with a "REAL man" whose family doesn't like you.
    Admits and learns from mistakes, I guess that can go under being reliable.
    Compassion, you just described Mother Teresa, no offense.
    Someone who FIRST has to be a man before asking others to accept him? Does this mean druggies don't deserve to have someone care about them and encourage them to go to rehab?
    Profiles, hmmm, I'm sure there are introverted REAL men who don't want to advertise themselves like the queens.

    No offense to Friendsrbetter, you do have some really good points. I just think that reliability is the KEY ingredient to a being REAL man, everything else helps supplement it. I mean, would your rather be with a pathological liar who happens to be a reliable person, or an honest person who you can't depend on.
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    *Culturally subjective*
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Lol it pretty much depends on the concept of your ideal man.. so we all have different ideals and well.. the list could be very long.. as long as we are pleased to that someone we're with, then that would make him our perfect man icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    Practice what you preach, most guys talk a good game but can't back nothing up.
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHaving a dick.

    ...up your ass.
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    Jan 18, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    He have to be : Honest
    Trustworthy
    Respectful
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    Jan 18, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    No Offense, my ass!!!
    Did you REALLY find it necessary to take everything I said and twist it around to YOUR way of thinking??
    Why don't you just come up with your OWN ORIGINAL ideas...and while you're at it... GFY, asshole!!


    I'm amazed you were even able to understand that. icon_eek.gif

    I still have no idea what he was trying to say.
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    Jan 18, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHaving a dick.


    Some really butch lesbians would like to have a word with you. . .
  • TexasBoeuf

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    Jan 18, 2011 6:19 AM GMT
    The ability to post to a forum.
  • sensible

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    Jan 18, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    I thought we are all unique individuals.. how can we generalize ourselves into "a" real man?? icon_confused.gif
    The question itself is flawed!
  • kolkii

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    Jan 18, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    If you admit to liking Interpol.
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    Jan 18, 2011 6:31 AM GMT
    UberBane saidPractice what you preach, most guys talk a good game but can't back nothing up.


    Thank you so much! icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 18, 2011 8:47 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidOH thank god...I thought this was gonna be another tired thread on why "pure homosexuals" are genetically superior to "bi gays" (who made the mistake of sleeping with a woman somewhere along the way).

    Carry on...forget I said anything.


    Funny I have used the term Pure Homosexual, wait I created it, I have never said anything about being superior! But.......I have pointed out the diffrence. Bi guys get their own banner of bi, as well use straight and gay. Well let them have them and us pure homosexuals the real gays have a banner of our own. As it has been pointed out here by others bi is not straight. But....they are not gay either. Nothing Superior about it but there is definitely a diffrence; go ask the wives and children of them.icon_wink.gif Means we are not held accountable for the sins of the bi's either; Not that I am saying being a bi is a wholly a bad thing, it's just not gay, we are not the same.

    Possums, if you have done the deed with a women, not my fault it excludes you from membership, or anyone else.icon_idea.gif
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    Jan 18, 2011 8:53 AM GMT
    The ability to walk into CVS at midnight to purchase some dried fruit, masking tape, and Vaseline... It's a long story... and a long night.
  • Jessie_Lee

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    Jan 18, 2011 9:25 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidNo Offense, my ass!!!
    Did you REALLY find it necessary to take everything I said and twist it around to YOUR way of thinking??
    Why don't you just come up with your OWN ORIGINAL ideas...and while you're at it... GFY, asshole!!

    I apologize, I didn't mean to sound harsh or twist anyone's words, and I didn't want to offend anyone (at least not intentionally).

    All those qualities you've describe are good qualities to look for in someone. The quality that I believe is the most essential to look for in a relationship, especially long-term, is someone who can support/help you when you need them, and that's reliability. I'm a realist, so I believe that no one is perfect and you can't expect people to conform to your ideals and accept them for who they are.

    I'm pretty sure that when someone believes a guy is considered a "REAL" man, then they believe that the guy is someone friends can lean on for support.

    Anyway, yes, I'm an asshole, I'm not gonna deny it. As for the "GFY" part, sorry, I don't own a dildo.

    Oh, and please don't bold everything, it makes it look like you're yelling over the forums. Thank you.
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    Jan 18, 2011 9:41 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHaving a dick.

    LOL, I totally agree with this! Anything else that makes a man is subjective and really only used in ego battles it seems.
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    Jan 18, 2011 10:00 AM GMT
    All possible answers will be subjective and those that answer will therefore probably quarrel with one another, as many will consider their current subjective definitions to be the one true definition of a "real man." Much of this problem stems from your use of the word "real," which can defined as that which is true/truthful or that which is desireable.

    For me, I care less about the "real man" and more about the men I am attracted to for whatever reason. And in being attracted to some men and not others, I learn to acknowledge that other guys also are attracted to some men and not others, may (and probably do) have different criteria than I do for both, and that I may fall into either category for them.

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    Looking for or trying to define objective criteria for a "real man" is as socially fruitful as looking for or trying to define objective criteria for a "real banana."
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    Jan 18, 2011 10:18 AM GMT
    Other than the "having a dick" comment, aren't all these comments about being a "real" person, man or woman?
  • Jessie_Lee

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    Jan 18, 2011 10:58 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidOther than the "having a dick" comment, aren't all these comments about being a "real" person, man or woman?

    Does it matter if you're straight or gay guy looking for a meaningful, possibly long-term relationship? Or friendship?
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    Jan 18, 2011 11:09 AM GMT
    A1EX said
    Friendsrbetter said
    No Offense, my ass!!!
    Did you REALLY find it necessary to take everything I said and twist it around to YOUR way of thinking??
    Why don't you just come up with your OWN ORIGINAL ideas...and while you're at it... GFY, asshole!!


    I'm amazed you were even able to understand that. icon_eek.gif

    I still have no idea what he was trying to say.


    I know, right?! I think he was trying to say that he is uber-jaded.