Have you ever accidentally said, "I love you"?

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    Mar 27, 2008 5:52 PM GMT
    I have been seeing this guy for two months and it became exclusive in the last month. We're taking it very slowly and it's been going well. I walked him to the subway this morning and as I was hugging him I said, "Love you" and didn't even realize I said it till I walked away. I hadn't had my coffee yet (at least that's my excuse) and I didn't want to say it to him at that time. I was hoping it would be more special when we said it to each other. Now I'm wondering if I should bring it up or just pretend it never happened. I'm not even sure if he heard me because he was in a hurry to catch the train.

    Has this ever happened to any of you? How did you handle it? I feel like I'm in an episode of a sitcom.
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    Mar 27, 2008 6:38 PM GMT
    Well, it sorta happened to me, and it became a "dealbreaker," in that the other guy kinda eased away from me until he stopped seeing me. Har! icon_smile.gif

    Hopefully you won't have a similar fate. But since you two have been exclusive for some time, maybe things will turn out smoother for you.

    All the best!
  • swimbikerun

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    Mar 27, 2008 7:10 PM GMT
    Although eight weeks seems a very short time to get to really know somebody enough to fall in love with, if you've really examined your feelings then you should let him know how you feel.
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    Mar 27, 2008 7:16 PM GMT
    not accidentally, no...i said it on purpose..but it took me a long time to say it....i summed up the courage to say it..and he told me I love you too..it was great...i miss him :'(
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    Mar 27, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
    swimbikerun saidAlthough eight weeks seems a very short time to get to really know somebody enough to fall in love with, if you've really examined your feelings then you should let him know how you feel.


    I'm not at the point yet where I would be able to say "I love you" and I feel it's too soon to say it. It just slipped out, I think, because I was tired - it was like some kind of automatic thing.
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    Mar 27, 2008 7:39 PM GMT
    The first time I did it was with my first official boyfriend. I think I hedged it by saying "I think I am falling in love with you." Within 3 months it was over on my initiation.

    The second time I said it was after only dating the guy for a few weeks. We are still together over 10 years later. If I had not said it that night we would have likely broken up then and there.
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    Mar 27, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
    My problem is I didn't mean it - it was an accident. I'm just hoping it doesn't deter us from forming what has the potential to be a good relationship - but two months is extremely early. That's why I'm hoping he didn't hear it! We're still just getting to know each other and for me that takes a while.
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    Mar 27, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    I can understand your concern, some guys take those words and run with them thus destroying what could potentially be a great relationship. Like you I discovered after dating for awhile that it takes me a long time to honestly say the words "I love you." The reason why I said them so quickly to my partner was due to the fact that we had known each other for 15 months before actually dating. That helped.
  • swimbikerun

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    Mar 27, 2008 9:08 PM GMT
    hmmm...from your postings you seem conflicted or a least a little unsure. Again though, not trying to put words in your mouth, what harm is there in discussing your feelings?
    Any relationship worth having won't be "destroyed" but letting someone you care for know how you feel.
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    Mar 27, 2008 9:24 PM GMT
    Avoid the "L" word unless you really mean it - using it prematurely will screw things up royally.

    If you hear yourself say, "I love...." just change the ending to come out something like, "I love.....what you're doing to me right now....it feels so great"
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    Mar 27, 2008 10:46 PM GMT
    definitely have. totally.

    you can't take it back, at that point, even if you just view him as a friend. in his mind, you're dating. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 28, 2008 1:08 AM GMT
    Yes.

    It just slipped out. I said, "I love you, Marty."

    Then he licked my face, and I gave him a biscuit. Then we went out to play Frisbee on the lawn.
  • GQjock

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    Mar 28, 2008 6:11 AM GMT
    lol...good one jp icon_wink.gif

    if it just slipped out...that means that you're comfortable with the feeling
    so own it...
    I wouldn't bring it up but I'd be watchful concerning HIS response
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    Mar 28, 2008 6:26 AM GMT
    l never say that unless l really mean it and to the "ONE" only! Here in Turkey they use it a lot after the first chat they will look at you and say it?
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    Mar 28, 2008 6:53 AM GMT
    Yes.
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    Mar 28, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    Listen lissenup, I LOVE you!!! HeeHee!!

    We've already discussed this one, I just wanted to say that "I love you" and I'm glad you posted it on here! BTW, has "E" said anything in regards to it????
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    Mar 28, 2008 4:09 PM GMT
    Nope. Every time I've said it, it was with the full intention behind it. I don't say anything I don't mean.
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    Mar 28, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    I broke up with this guy after eight months of going out. We had been using the cursed L-word for while in our relationship.

    Well, after breaking up he wanted me to visit. During that visit we talked about our relationship and in the middle of it I uttered the cursed L-word. Not on purpose. Oh no. I said it as a matter of habit, kind of like how you say 'I love you' when you talk on the phone with your mother. I felt so bad for my error I didn't have the heart to tell him it was a mistake.

    We got back together. The same stuff that broke us up the first time broke us up a second time two weeks later. I was so relieved.
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    Mar 28, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidListen lissenup, I LOVE you!!! HeeHee!!

    We've already discussed this one, I just wanted to say that "I love you" and I'm glad you posted it on here! BTW, has "E" said anything in regards to it????


    LOL "I love you" too!

    No, E hasn't said anything but we haven't seen each other since. I'm a little ticked at him right now b/c he changed the time on me for something we were supposed to do together tonight so now I can't go - plus he invited a friend. Ugh. And I think he's a little ticked with me that I can't make it tonight either.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Mar 28, 2008 8:16 PM GMT
    um ... actually no, but one guy I was dating did and he freaked out.

    So, I coyly smiled and I agreed w/ him.
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    Mar 28, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    lissenup saidI have been seeing this guy for two months and it became exclusive in the last month. We're taking it very slowly and it's been going well. I walked him to the subway this morning and as I was hugging him I said, "Love you" and didn't even realize I said it till I walked away. I hadn't had my coffee yet (at least that's my excuse) and I didn't want to say it to him at that time. I was hoping it would be more special when we said it to each other. Now I'm wondering if I should bring it up or just pretend it never happened. I'm not even sure if he heard me because he was in a hurry to catch the train.

    Has this ever happened to any of you? How did you handle it? I feel like I'm in an episode of a sitcom.


    The last guy I was in a relationship and were only together for about 3 months before we started using pet names for eachother. After that, we just started to realize how much we liked eachother and it sort just slipped out. I remember saying it, and than appaulogizing for being so abrupt... but he stopped me, and said he loved me. Than out of nowhere, we just were Us.
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    Mar 28, 2008 8:36 PM GMT
    Fortunately, it has never slipped out of me. Then again, I haven't dated many men who have merited such an utterance from me.
  • jarhead5536

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    Mar 28, 2008 8:43 PM GMT
    With my husband and I, neither of us is sure who said it first. Our love was so organic and mutually recognized that both of us were saying it before we even realized it was happening.

    Sickening, aren't we? Eat your hearts out...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 28, 2008 9:13 PM GMT
    I'm lucky enough to have never said those words to anyone except my family but that's a given.
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    Mar 28, 2008 9:17 PM GMT
    Yeah, if you aren't confident in the "I love you" return that could be a pretty big matzah ball hanging out there.

    I said it once to someone I had been seeing for a few months when he called me at 6 AM, thinking I was awake. I said "I love you" still half-asleep. when I got back to bed, my awake mind realized what I had said and I jolted awake, wondering whether to call him back and just let it slide. I let it slide and pretended it never happened.