Working out next to someone buff

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    Jan 18, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    I can't STAND IT!!! I hate it so much, more than you realize! They're in the rec center at anytime of day, the douchebags who work out wearing practically nothing covering their torso, intending to show themselves off. (They wear it for comfort? PUH-LEASE!!!) When I see guys like that, I begin to truly hate myself, everything I am! They make it look so easy and good to them, and it just does me the opposite. I lose the will, I feel inferior, and for me to continue to make any progress at all, I have to push and struggle and suffer for it! They make me feel stupid like I don't even know what I'm doing!!!

    Normally, shit like this doesn't get to me, but today just put me in a really bad mood. I was doing laundry today in my quad building, and so because my workout clothes were in the wash, I didn't want to work out in a way that would make me sweat too much in my normal clothes. So I opted to walk around Eugene, which I did. Went about 4.5 miles, about the same distance I was walking/running back home in Portland.

    I needed to make an entry in my food journal, because I hadn't been doing that for the last two weeks. My log went as followed:

    -2 glasses of low sodium V8
    -1 red delicious apple, slices dipped in Jiff smooth peanut butter
    -1 Yoplait fat-free orange creme yogurt, and...
    -2, yes, 2!!! chicken-turkey-cheddar sandwiches on whole wheat bread, broiled (I don't have a toaster oven, so I broil them, which is an acceptable substitute for the time being)

    I got so angry when I realized I had eaten two of those sandwiches in the same day. It takes away from what should be various foods throughout the day, and it is likely too much sodium!!! I got angrier still when I weighed myself. I was around 180 with clothes on, which really pissed me off too! It had been awhile since I had topped 180 like that!

    An important thing to know about me: I'm a very, VERY harsh self-critic. I can't even believe it, but these words came out of my actual mouth today:
    "If you're exhausted, you're not TRYING HARD ENOUGH! If you pass out, I will call you lazy! If you die, I will rate your progress as 'satisfactory'."

    Sorry, I turned this post into more of a vent topic. I guess the question still stands: does it motivate you to work out when you see buff guys?
  • Jessie_Lee

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    Jan 18, 2011 10:02 AM GMT
    Personally, I don't pay too much attention to them, I just do my own thing. Some guys are merely genetically gifted, some are pushing themselves hard for a particular sport, some are doing it because they feel like their body isn't good enough (Adonis Complex). I don't dwell too much on guys who are buffer than me because I don't know their background. It's possible that some of them played sports throughout high school and college, and continued working out after. Some could have swimming, rock-climbing, boxing, etc. hobbies and started working out later after they dropped a particular hobby. Some could be juicing.

    Besides, I have met guys who used to be really buff but ended up fat when they stopped working out. Good way to motivate yourself to keep working out, lol.
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    Jan 18, 2011 10:27 AM GMT
    I personally don't really mind.
    Once I've got my music on I try to ignore most things other than what I'm doing at that point in time.
    Also it depends on whether I find him hot or not. If he's hot then it's just a little extra eye candy for my day which is always a plus.

    I do get where you're coming from though with hating them for making it look easy. But I had to make myself get over it as it's not worth holding onto.
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    Jan 18, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    Be proud that you are there working on yourself. Most people were at the drive thru at McDonald's deciding on a Big Mac or a Quarter Pounder with cheese. You don't even know whats going on in their life, they might look good but might be in a horrible situation or in some sort of misery, no one's perfect. Never look at someone else in envy, you are just as good, if not better, for all you know. Look in the mirror and love what you see.
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    I use to be really shy at the gym because I really did not look 'buffed' at all and started at the bottom the weight category. I must have looked like twinky bink to them....Of course I pushed onwards and at present things are going along just fine!! I've just started the mid weight category and well pushing it from there.....

    Hang in there mate, your hard work will pay off!!
  • rnch

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    Jan 18, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    Jessie_Lee saidPersonally, I don't pay too much attention to them...


    if i looked like you do; i wouldn't pay any attention to them either!

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  • helios01

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    Jan 18, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    rnch said
    Jessie_Lee saidPersonally, I don't pay too much attention to them...


    if i looked like you do; i wouldn't pay any attention to them either!

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    i agree with him cowboy.... but i know how u feel. when i went i would eat double the calories i just worked out lol
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    I can think of far worse situations than working out next to someone with a gorgeous body. And I'd make a distinction between that and working out next to a douchebag who drops weights, talks to loud, and peacocks around like some sort of short dick compensator.
  • massbuildah

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    Jan 18, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    Dude, they didn't always look like that tho! Sure there are those genetic freaks to which this comes easy, but most everyone has to push themselves and work for it. Those buff guys ALL started somewhere. And I can speak for guys like you when I say I know how hard it can be to not be able to envision progress.

    You should know tho...the majority of those guys aren't looking down at you thinking negatively because you may not be at their level. Most likely they look at you and see someone who is just trying to imporve themselves.

    When I was just starting out and was embarrased by them, I just kept my eye on them, I watched what they did to get that big and stay that big.Hell i STILL keep my eyes on the bigger guys! Keep pushing yourself, once you see that one even tiny ounce of progress your whole point of view will change. Push yourself even more and eventually you will be that buff guy that beginners look up to.

    Before you go to the gym, make a plan. Try to visualize what you are going to do there. What you want to accomplish. Put on your iPod if you have one and just go with your plan. This definitely makes it easier to concentrate. If you need to, write it down and keep it on the floor with you and refer to it constantly. I love seeing guys who track their workouts on paper, it only makes them look more committed, and truly, that commitment is what pushes us all to improve.

    Also, there are so many resources online and in books/magazines for diet and excersize. Look into it and get some additional information/advice and that will do wonders for your mental focus as well.



    Good luck bro, and forget about the buff guys, soon eneugh you'll be one of them.
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    I think working out with a guy that is buff more than me it would be great i think it would help me work even harder
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    Jan 18, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidTo answer the question: Yes it motivates me to see amazing men in the gym to push me. In fact, I rarely objectify a man sexually for having a great body. It more often than not simply motivates me to want to do better in the gym.

    I totally agree. It motivates me. I don't like to think that I am a failure. I see guys like that in the gym and I really just sit back, and push 2 to 3 extra reps. Harder, Push harder... YOU can do IT.
  • noshirt4me

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    Jan 18, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    ive been both skinny and fat and have worked out hard for these results for years, no way am i gonna cover up. if u dont like it look away
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    Jan 18, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
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    Oh, I thought the topic was "Working out next to someone IN the buff."
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    My bad. But must admit that I've done it before.
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    Well well now, look at who is just above me! Didn't know you hung out here. Nice to see you, man!
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  • Midas426

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    Jan 18, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    I see the buff guys as extra eye candy I can discreetly admire from a distance and motivate me to not only go to the gym but work out harder.
  • thait3n

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    Jan 18, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    I see it as a combination of motivation and eye candy ;).
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    Jan 18, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    No, when this happens I just storm out of the gym, go home and cry. I just go all out and cry my heart out. WHY IS LIFE SOOOO UNFAIR?!?!? WHY?!?!?!? I HATE YOU ALL!?!?

    Really, just do your workout and leave. I am not motivated when i see these guys. What motivates me is to see if I got stronger since the last time I was at the gym. Just pretend they aren't there and focus on working out. Thats what I do. Look at massbuildah, he is one of those guys and it sounds like he doesn't care.
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    Jan 18, 2011 4:53 PM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidthe douchebags who work out wearing practically nothing covering their torso, intending to show themselves off. (They wear it for comfort? PUH-LEASE!!!)


    Yes, I wear tank tops for comfort.
    Yes, it's motivating to see others in gym wear working hard.
    Yes, I like to be able to see myself and what I'm doing.
    I'm not interested in anybody watching or seeing me.
    Tank tops and shorts are made for exercise.
    I'm sure there are showoffs, but they'd be showing off anyway.

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    Jan 18, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    Poor original poster....

    A Geico video works best...

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    Jan 18, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    As long as you spend your life being comparative (i.e. "Where do I stand in relation to X person or X accomplishment?") leaving the house will always be a challenge for you, whether you're going to the gym or the grocery store.
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    Jan 18, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    Yeah I would get a bit annoyed too if I'm honest. However I've never been to a gym before so I don't know what it would feel like.

    I guess try to just focus on yourself and forget about the others? icon_smile.gif
  • massbuildah

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    Jan 18, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidNo, when this happens I just storm out of the gym, go home and cry. I just go all out and cry my heart out. WHY IS LIFE SOOOO UNFAIR?!?!? WHY?!?!?!? I HATE YOU ALL!?!?

    Really, just do your workout and leave. I am not motivated when i see these guys. What motivates me is to see if I got stronger since the last time I was at the gym. Just pretend they aren't there and focus on working out. Thats what I do. Look at massbuildah, he is one of those guys and it sounds like he doesn't care.



    You said boss, exactly right! Don't cry, just work. Focus on your own results. Thanks for the props Av, you rock!
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    Jan 18, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    NakedBudd saidicon_redface.gif
    Oh, I thought the topic was "Working out next to someone IN the buff."
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    My bad. But must admit that I've done it before.
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    Jan 18, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    massbuildah saidDude, they didn't always look like that tho! Sure there are those genetic freaks to which this comes easy, but most everyone has to push themselves and work for it. Those buff guys ALL started somewhere. And I can speak for guys like you when I say I know how hard it can be to not be able to envision progress.

    You should know tho...the majority of those guys aren't looking down at you thinking negatively because you may not be at their level. Most likely they look at you and see someone who is just trying to imporve themselves.

    When I was just starting out and was embarrased by them, I just kept my eye on them, I watched what they did to get that big and stay that big.Hell i STILL keep my eyes on the bigger guys! Keep pushing yourself, once you see that one even tiny ounce of progress your whole point of view will change. Push yourself even more and eventually you will be that buff guy that beginners look up to.

    Before you go to the gym, make a plan. Try to visualize what you are going to do there. What you want to accomplish. Put on your iPod if you have one and just go with your plan. This definitely makes it easier to concentrate. If you need to, write it down and keep it on the floor with you and refer to it constantly. I love seeing guys who track their workouts on paper, it only makes them look more committed, and truly, that commitment is what pushes us all to improve.

    Also, there are so many resources online and in books/magazines for diet and excersize. Look into it and get some additional information/advice and that will do wonders for your mental focus as well.



    Good luck bro, and forget about the buff guys, soon eneugh you'll be one of them.


    Great answer

    Stop with the defeatist attitude and excuse making. Change your mindset and throw wishful thinking away. Anyone short of a person with certain disabilities can reshape themselves if they truly want to.
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    Jan 18, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    LMFAO. Invite some of your chubbier/wimpier friends to work out next to you. Then you'll be the buff-looking one.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 18, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Well I'm one of those dudes who works out with an altered T Shirt, shorts, love it all, very comfortable working out that way. Some there are more buff, many less so.

    I would hate to think I'm making others such as yourself uncomfortable in the gym. I'm a critic of myself, but man, you really go overboard. I'm never uncomfortable about working out next to anybody really.. each person is different and have their own styles. I'm so focused on what I need to complete, I'm usually not focused on anybody else particularly...