Loss of self confidence

  • trl_

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    Jan 19, 2011 9:43 AM GMT
    I never thought of myself as unhealthy, but after coming back from study abroad and losing a lot of weight while there, and not working out regularly for about 6-7 months now I feel completely inept about even trying anymore!

    Has anyone else had a period like this?
    How did you pull yourself through it?
  • Bunjamon

    Posts: 3161

    Jan 19, 2011 12:43 PM GMT
    You just have to pull yourself out of this funk and get back on the horse! Find someone who can help motivate you.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Jan 19, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
    fizzle saidI never thought of myself as unhealthy, but after coming back from study abroad and losing a lot of weight while there, and not working out regularly for about 6-7 months now I feel completely inept about even trying anymore!

    Has anyone else had a period like this?
    How did you pull yourself through it?


    Oh, my love...I had eight years of it. It was complicated by emotional things, and self-judgement and loathing on an epic scale. And after eight years (which should have been eight days or weeks at best) I finally grabbed a rope just as my head went under. And if I can do it, you can.

    You have value. You have worth and beauty and strength you don't even KNOW about yet. And, you have time. Time to simply step back into the gym and do a light, simple circuit for a week. One day at a time, just one week. You don't have to go back after day five. But you will. But all you have to do is actually start. I know it sounds glib and cliche, but I promise you it works. You'll find that moment where it clicks, where the switch connects and the circuit closes and the light goes on that says "oh, right, this is what it feels like to be ME. To press on and go through this journey toward unleashing and feeding and growing and nurturing ME, the me that loves the reward day to day and the results of seeing effort pay off step by step. I'm not that guy over there, I'm myself, and this is MY body, my goal, my journey and NOBODY not even my darkest doubting self can prevent me from achieving that."

    I BELIEVE in you, "fizzle", and you wouldn't be here and asking if you didn't believe in yourself, buddy.
    xo
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16311

    Jan 19, 2011 12:57 PM GMT
    The only thing I can compare it to (and it isn't that much) is my illness last fall with my "staph like illness". I was seriously ill, no working out for about
    3.5 weeks and lost about 15 pounds. I'm so driven, however, I was on the road to "exercise recovery" before I knew what was happening. I won't forget those first few sets of pushups... I could hardly do 10 of them at once.

    But give me a couple of weeks... and on my way back. Today, I look
    very reasonable again.

    My suggestion to you... implement what you know, ask a number of questions and start slowly. Don't... don't decide you just shouldn't do it!

    NO "FIZZLING" OUT!!!
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    Jan 19, 2011 12:59 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]MuscleComeBack said[/cite]
    fizzle saidI never thought of myself as unhealthy, but after coming back from study abroad and losing a lot of weight while there, and not working out regularly for about 6-7 months now I feel completely inept about even trying anymore!

    Has anyone else had a period like this?
    How did you pull yourself through it?


    Oh, my love...I had eight years of it. It was complicated by emotional things, and self-judgement and loathing on an epic scale. And after eight years (which should have been eight days or weeks at best) I finally grabbed a rope just as my head went under. And if I can do it, you can.

    You have value. You have worth and beauty and strength you don't even KNOW about yet. And, you have time. Time to simply step back into the gym and do a light, simple circuit for a week. One day at a time, just one week. You don't have to go back after day five. But you will. But all you have to do is actually start. I know it sounds glib and cliche, but I promise you it works. You'll find that moment where it clicks, where the switch connects and the circuit closes and the light goes on that says "oh, right, this is what it feels like to be ME. To press on and go through this journey toward unleashing and feeding and growing and nurturing ME, the me that loves the reward day to day and the results of seeing effort pay off step by step. I'm not that guy over there, I'm myself, and this is MY body, my goal, my journey and NOBODY not even my darkest doubting self can prevent me from achieving that."

    I BELIEVE in you, "fizzle", and you wouldn't be here and asking if you didn't believe in yourself, buddy.
    xo[/quote



    Yes, this. icon_biggrin.gif.....Definitely this.
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    Jan 19, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidYou just have to pull yourself out of this funk and get back on the horse! Find someone who can help motivate you.


    Yep the friend is the key here. Help each other out!
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    Jan 19, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    Remember that you are just as worthy as any other guy on here or even in the entire world. That's all I have to offer.

    Good luck.
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    Jan 19, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    I had a period like this around my senior year in high school and the following summer, my issue had to deal with accepting that I am gay. I quit working out and eating healthy for about 6 months and then slowly I just started thinking that i'm only hurting myself, I starting biking because it was something I enjoyed and slowly got back in the swing of things. It helps to have a good group of friends and family for support no matter what your going through. Believe in yourself and what you're capable of.