I'm so in the closet, i've reached narnia!

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    Jan 20, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I've always wanted to meet up with a guy, but im way to shy and nervous of being seen, any advice, besides the obvious "get over it".
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    Jan 20, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    over it you must get. icon_razz.gif
    can't say much unless I know more about you. Your family with you? Or friends?
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    Time changes everything. You say this at 18...you won't say this at 25 icon_smile.gif
    Your experiences in life will force change- you just have to be ready for it.
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    Play dress-up with all the pretty fur coats
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    You are young. Don't rush it. Dream about it have some fantasies and wait for the right person, but if you really want the experience, head on over to Craigslist.
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    Hey I was there till 22, but today after 4 years finally am coming out to everybody I care about and it feels great. So give yourself time and it will workout on its own.
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
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  • CarbGoggles

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    Jan 21, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    I am a huge fan of beards. If you want to come out, come out to a woman. Beards will protect their homo. They do it because we are hot, we won't try to hook up w/ them, and we're just as good as a girlfriend only we are less likely to steal her man versus and actual female friend. Just make sure if you meet a girl, she can be trusted. I'd rather be enemies w/ a gay than a straight chick who knows your dirt.
  • kietkat

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    Jan 21, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Lol nice thread title!!
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Soyfan saidtumblr_l2w8pneV891qzbn8yo1_500.jpg


    hahaha, yes
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    As far as 'afraid of being seen' I don't want to seem cold, but in my experience most of your friends and family already 'know' or suspect. ...and want you to find love
    Most women have gaydar too bud. face it you need the release.. go get em
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    Jan 21, 2011 1:54 AM GMT
    Dont rush things, believe me, wait for the right guy to come... Im still in the closet but am at a point that i dont care anymore by whom am i seen, but still im afraid of my family getting to know this.. someday they will know this. I think i just put myself first now more than before.. i used to be shy and i didn't hang out with some gay people, but now i do and i dont care.. what really makes the difference is being you. Im in this process, but I've taken it easily and just waiting and ready for whatever happens. This is my life and I live it the way I want, I don't need the approval of others to be or say what i feel or with whom I should be.

    Take it easy, you have more than enough time ;)
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    Jan 21, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidPlay dress-up with all the pretty fur coats


    Marry me.
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    Jan 21, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    Take your time, OP. Everyone comes out when they're good and ready. If you're not ready just surf porn, wank off and stay relaxed. It'll come soon enough.
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    Jan 21, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    LMFAO - love the title
  • TheIStrat

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    Jan 21, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    Grindr. Try it
  • Beeftastic

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    Jan 21, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    Sydney is a BIG GAY CITY, so you are in luck. You should go hang out in the gay areas a bit, and don't be afraid to talk to guys. If you get spotted there by someone who knows you, the likelihood is that they will be either gay or very sympathetic to gay issues, so you will be in luck.
  • TxTallRob

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    Jan 21, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    haha great title!!! I was the exact same way up until about a month ago, this site will really help you feel more comfortable, and the guys on here are a big help. Im still on the road to coming out to everyone but its getting easier!! You'll be fine
  • needleninja

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    Jan 21, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    build some self esteem in yourself is what i recommend doing, in fact you could probibly ask a friend who you trust to help you out with this.
  • vintovka

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    Jan 21, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    I would disagree with the "wait for the right guy" advice. Coming out is about you accepting you and then being accepted by the important people in your life. Lots of guys have sex with other men their whole lives and never come out, so coming out isn't really about sex it's about identity.

    My coming out advice would be this

    1. Identify likely allies in your current circle of friends and family and come out to them first

    2. Acquire new friends who fit in a network of accepting friends and contacts

    3. Come out to the "hard cases" last

    4. Educate yourself about what your family is likely to experience when you come out to them and be prepared to help them with resources to understand what it's all about

    5. Have sex when you feel comfortable with it, When you're ready to settle down your friends, family and coworkers may know nice eligible men, but they can't help you if you never tell them which team you're playing for.
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    Jan 21, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    manica92 saidHey guys, I've always wanted to meet up with a guy, but im way to shy and nervous of being seen, any advice, besides the obvious "get over it".
    Man, closeted guys are such pussies...just like straight guys...always afraid of what other people might think.
    "Out" gays are REAL men cause we don't give a fuck anymore.
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  • NerdLifter

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    Jan 21, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
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  • rebelbeard

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    Jan 21, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    Ahhh to be 18 again....oh wait, no thanks lol! JK!

    You are young and it seems kind of scary coming out or meeting guys when you are not out. One day you will have a moment of clarity and realize you just don't really care and you would rather be yourself. It will happen.

    Tell the White Witch I said what up!
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    Jan 21, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    Really now? Well good luck, you have a long road ahead..... :i
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    Jan 21, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Really Mate?? You are afraid of coming out in Sydney? That's one of our capitols?