How can i be a good top?

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    Jan 21, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    Do you guys have any tips or tricks on how to fuck a bottom nicely to make him feel good? im new to this kinda so any help would be great :/ thanks guys!!!!!!!!
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    Jan 21, 2011 3:57 AM GMT
    Pj77718 saidHow can i be a good top?
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    1/ Dont go soft - or else it will be like putting playdough in a moneybox. Stay hard, aight buddy? Keep feeling him up and listen to him moan, and dont forget, that when you top, you are in control.

    2/ He will feel more in the mood/attracted to you if you lock eye contact and keep a good hold of him. Let him feel like your toy. like you are using him for your own pleasure. That is the role of the bottom. Dont let him forget that. And if it feels good, make it known through how you breathe, dont keep your mouth shut like you are just picking daisies or something, at least look like you are loving it.

    3/ Keep a steady rhythm... I found this hard at first when guys would push back into me and we never got the same rhythm... so if that happens, grab him and pull him towards you at YOUR pace (remember 1/)

    Right, I could write more, but I dont want to come off as a try-hard topping expert, these are just three things that work for me.
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    Jan 22, 2011 8:29 AM GMT
    Somerandom said1/ Dont go soft - or else it will be like putting playdough in a moneybox. Stay hard, aight buddy? Keep feeling him up and listen to him moan, and dont forget, that when you top, you are in control.

    2/ He will feel more in the mood/attracted to you if you lock eye contact and keep a good hold of him. Let him feel like your toy. like you are using him for your own pleasure. That is the role of the bottom. Dont let him forget that. And if it feels good, make it known through how you breathe, dont keep your mouth shut like you are just picking daisies or something, at least look like you are loving it.

    3/ Keep a steady rhythm... I found this hard at first when guys would push back into me and we never got the same rhythm... so if that happens, grab him and pull him towards you at YOUR pace (remember 1/)

    Right, I could write more, but I dont want to come off as a try-hard topping expert, these are just three things that work for me.

    Is it bad that this turned me on O.O icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 22, 2011 9:37 AM GMT
    turned me on too *woop woop*
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    Jan 22, 2011 1:00 PM GMT
    Take control.

    When you are topping, keep rythym but occassionally vary it throughout.

    Know different positions and how some allow for deeper penetration, whilst some are better for tightness, some are better for prostate stimulation, some allow easier flow of body movement.... Switch it up and find what works best.

    Have intervals. Sometimes stopping after a good ploughing for some more foreplay, drink of water, fetching a toy or another arousing device etc can make the second/third rounds hot as hell. Edging.

    Stimulate the bottoms whilst fucking, e.g., kiss,wank, lick, pinch, eye contact, verbal...Whatver floats both your boats

    Show him who is boss, be firm, in more ways than one.

    (also, google is your friend)

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    Jan 22, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
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    navi_saiyan said
    Somerandom said...a bunch of hot stuff...

    Is it bad that this turned me on O.O icon_redface.gif

    No...you're 25 and SR is 24.

    I think it's probably bad that it turned me on, though. (facepalms self)

    funny that you said somerandom said a bunch of hot stuff hahah, but hey you can be turned on too, it's not like you're dead...are you O.O am I talking to a ghost now O.O.

    I guess I can add that for each bottom its different since they might not like it the way you're doing it so can say variation is good haha.
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    Mar 02, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    fuck like a make love not like a sex baby
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    Mar 02, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    As a top, you need to do a bunch of things.

    1) Take control when the bottom wants you to take control. As in, don't assume your bottom wants to get taken control of the whole time. If you have discussed with your bottom before sex about who should be taking control and the bottom says that he wants you to be in control the whole time then go for it. However, if you did not talk with your bottom before hand, then you need to be aware of his mood during certain phases. I know with my bf, he likes to be in control during some phases when he is bottoming.

    2) React to the expressions and emotions the bottom is giving you. If you find your bottom moaning when you are in a certain position then you know they are enjoying that position, if their dick is erect then you know you are hitting the spot. You really need to experiment with this and eventually, you will find out that your bottom prefers certain positions over other ones.

    3) Communicate your satisfaction with moans and kisses! Moan when you feel pleasure and kiss your bottom frequently. It will make the bottom enjoy bottoming even more.

    When my bf is on his stomach and his ass is up in the air I get on top and fuck him good and then grab his hands and hold them down. Then I slowly kiss his neck and eventually reach his mouth and we start to tongue. It gets really intense and there tends to be a lot of moaning during that phase.
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    Mar 02, 2011 9:01 AM GMT
    Somerandomlike you are using him for your own pleasure. That is the role of the bottom.


    No. The role of the bottom is to receive pleasure (stimulating the prostate) as well as to be used for pleasure (top inserting his dick into the hole) just as the role of the top is to give pleasure (stimulating the bottom's prostrate) as well as to receive pleasure (top inserting his dick into the hole).

    You make it seem like the bottom is the bitch indirectly. That is very bad advice.


    _SAGE_Show him who is boss, be firm, in more ways than one.


    This should not be a general word of advice on how to be a good top.

    You are assuming all bottoms like to feel that their top is in charge. My bf proves this to be wrong. He doesn't like to be taken control of in bed the whole time. When he bottoms he likes to determine the pace. That does not mean I am a bad top or he is a bad bottom. Don't give this man the wrong message.


    If your bottom likes to be taken control of then do it. If not, don't.

    Don't assume roles...worst thing to do.
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    Mar 02, 2011 9:13 AM GMT
    Definitely vary the speed and depth of your thrusts. One technique I like to do is to go all the way in, then pull out really really slowly, an inch at a time until just the head is still inside, then pump forward several quick shallow thrusts then finish off with another really deep, grinding thrust. You'll really enjoy that too!

    Also, as others have said, switch up positions! Different guys are going to like different things and a lot depends on the angle and size of your dick when hard, if you don't want them to cum too soon then don't start with a position that heavily stimulates their prostate.

    Again, already been said but don't just fuck a guy like you are pumping an inanimate object - stimulate them all over, touch their dick, their balls, their nipples, run your hands up and down their body, kiss/lick/bite their neck and earlobes - go to town! If you can't quite get the hang of doing some of these things while still thrusting then just rest inside him for a minute while you do, no harm in that.

    Another thing that I've found drives bottoms wild is when you're all (or most) of the way in, squeeze your PC muscles so your dick does a bit of a flex/swell - I have strong PC muscles as I train them up daily and this goes down well - you can just slide in and pulse away while you enjoy their body, or you can thrust, pulse, pull out, thrust, pulse, pull out to drive them wild.

    Aside from all that, being a good top is reliant on you being able to read your bottom - their body language, signals and vocals, so you know what they are enjoying and when it is uncomfortable/painful for them. Unfortunately this is just down to practice! Not all bottoms will enjoy you grabbing their thighs and jackhammering their assholes into oblivion.

    Also, practical advice - make sure you have decent lube and condom to hand so you are ready to rock and roll when the time comes. And if you're not used to putting a condom on yourself, practice! It should only take a few seconds from packet to penetration.


    Have fun!!
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    Mar 02, 2011 9:15 AM GMT
    mohammed250 saidIf your bottom likes to be taken control of then do it. If not, don't.

    Don't assume roles...worst thing to do.


    I agree with you on this - I didn't agree with somerandom implying that the bottom is just a piece of meat to be used - fine if that's what they want, but not all bottoms are like that.
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    Mar 02, 2011 9:21 AM GMT
    Pure saidDefinitely vary the speed and depth of your thrusts. One technique I like to do is to go all the way in, then pull out really really slowly, an inch at a time until just the head is still inside, then pump forward several quick shallow thrusts then finish off with another really deep, grinding thrust. You'll really enjoy that too!

    Also, as others have said, switch up positions! Different guys are going to like different things and a lot depends on the angle and size of your dick when hard, if you don't want them to cum too soon then don't start with a position that heavily stimulates their prostate.

    Again, already been said but don't just fuck a guy like you are pumping an inanimate object - stimulate them all over, touch their dick, their balls, their nipples, run your hands up and down their body, kiss/lick/bite their neck and earlobes - go to town! If you can't quite get the hang of doing some of these things while still thrusting then just rest inside him for a minute while you do, no harm in that.

    Another thing that I've found drives bottoms wild is when you're all (or most) of the way in, squeeze your PC muscles so your dick does a bit of a flex/swell - I have strong PC muscles as I train them up daily and this goes down well - you can just slide in and pulse away while you enjoy their body, or you can thrust, pulse, pull out, thrust, pulse, pull out to drive them wild.

    Aside from all that, being a good top is reliant on you being able to read your bottom - their body language, signals and vocals, so you know what they are enjoying and when it is uncomfortable/painful for them. Unfortunately this is just down to practice! Not all bottoms will enjoy you grabbing their thighs and jackhammering their assholes into oblivion.

    Also, practical advice - make sure you have decent lube and condom to hand so you are ready to rock and roll when the time comes. And if you're not used to putting a condom on yourself, practice! It should only take a few seconds from packet to penetration.


    Have fun!!


    Best advice here by far.

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    Mar 02, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    I am kinda kinky and dom so I like doing kinky stuff to the bot. I get into forced manplay and I've found that many open-minded bots like that, but you have to know what you're doing--it's not for beginners. One particularly hot bot kept whispering in my ear "why are you doing this to me?" while I was taking him, and that turned me on so much, which in turn turned him on even more. Be verbal and creative--it works.
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    Mar 03, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    Somerandom saidLet him feel like your toy. like you are using him for your own pleasure. That is the role of the bottom. Dont let him forget that.


    That sounds more like master and slave role-playing to me....
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    Mar 03, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
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    Somerandom saidLet him feel like your toy. like you are using him for your own pleasure. That is the role of the bottom. Dont let him forget that.


    That sounds more like master and slave role-playing to me....



    I agree with you...that is exactly what it is. Which is why I corrected somerandom about that. Not everyone likes that type of roleplaying in sex so he shouldn't say it as a general statement.