If I ever see this *&%*& out in the club again, Ima tear him in half.

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    Jan 21, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    This dude did me so wrong. Was all smiles and kindness, and then completely just stopped caring, texting, or anything; after we had made special plans to go out that night. I thought maybe something had come up, so I was graceful about it and gave him lots of time. He just responded with constant silence, and lackadaisical facebook posts..showing me that he pretty much had just threw me to the wayside.

    Im gonna see him in the club again, I know it, and when I do, i'm gonna put him in his place. What a motherfucker.

    This thread requires no advice, just putting it out there. I hope he's prepared to have his bitch ass pushed into a wall. Some people need to learn that you can't do people like that. Karma is a bitch...and man it is gonna feel good.
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    Jan 21, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    You meant pushing him into a wall in the metaphorical sense, right?
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    Jan 21, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    Naw I meant pushing him into a wall. Getting up in his face. Throwing a drink in his face, shoving his face. Punching him. Whatever.


    Cops don't give a shit about a gay club, they will just throw me out. I can live with that. Its unfortunate that you can't deliver justice, to someone who deserves it, without the threat of legal action taken against you. Is the legal system here to deliver justice? or to make a profit?

    I'd really love to just punch his face out. One punch. It would feel so good. I would just walk away after that. And smile.
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    Jan 21, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    I didn't know you had this in you! So fierce! *rawr*
    Bring it to the bed instead!
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    Jan 21, 2011 5:17 PM GMT
    lol. I have alot inside me. Unfortunately this person didn't get to see any of it. His loss. Well..he'll get to see one side of me. You can't escape the laws of the universe. For every action there is a reaction.
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    Jan 21, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    I can understand you saying something to him but the physical abuse is unwarranted.

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    Jan 21, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    I hope you noticed my hidden message, save some of this for that ;)
    But not the violence. In fact, take that out on a fluffy teddy bear icon_smile.gif
    <3
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    Jan 21, 2011 5:23 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI can understand you saying something to him but the physical abuse is unwarranted.



    I agree don't go down to his level fighting is really vulgar, if you see him at a club act like you don't care flirt with others in his face, that will get him more
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    Jan 21, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    I appreciate all the responses.
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    Jan 21, 2011 6:05 PM GMT
    Sylas saidThis dude did me so wrong. Was all smiles and kindness, and then completely just stopped caring, texting, or anything; after we had made special plans to go out that night. I thought maybe something had come up, so I was graceful about it and gave him lots of time. He just responded with constant silence, and lackadaisical facebook posts..showing me that he pretty much had just threw me to the wayside.

    Im gonna see him in the club again, I know it, and when I do, i'm gonna put him in his place. What a motherfucker.


    Happened to me too back in Novemeber/December. I honestly can't disagree with you. I think people who ignore others with no rational reason should be chastised. I go for honesty over "trying not to break their heart by ignoring them until they get the hint." I hope you yell at him, scream in his face, maybe throw napkins at him, film it, put it up on YouTube. You'll feel stupid afterwards but at the same time you'll feel great for purging all your emotions out on him. He deserves those feelings thrown right back at him. icon_cool.gif

    Get up in this bitches face! DO IT!!!!!!!

    [edit after reading more of your posts]

    I can't advocate physical violence in this case. If he's not physically hurting you, there's no reason to physically hurt him. Maybe a little scare shove, but nothing that will make even a tiny Asian say "ow" is warranted in this case. Just go crazy on the guy verbally.
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    Jan 21, 2011 6:17 PM GMT
    All you're doing by reacting is showing him you care. Does he really deserve your time? Doesn't sound like he does...
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    Yvrtwink saidAll you're doing by reacting is showing him you care. Does he really deserve your time? Doesn't sound like he does...


    After the guy who broke my heart in December once I FINALLY probed him to tell me WHY he randomly decided to stop talking to me after he practically loved me for a month, I simply texted back to him, "I will never consider anything romantic with you again" and have never spoken to him since. In fact, since then I have never had the desire to hook up. 46 days without sex WOOT WOOT
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    Jan 21, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    Well, the thing is. I do care. I cared alot, and I DID want to show him that, that and he threw it in my face.

    Anyways, I think I've calmed down from my latest fury ( I can be prone to intense bouts of emotion) , he really is pretty much not worth the time of day. Thanks guys for talking some sense into me! I could have bruised my hand and thank God that didn't happen.

    Movin on Movin on!
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    Jan 21, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    Sylas saidThis dude did me so wrong. ... Karma is a bitch...
    You are right. Karma is a bitch. You previously posted issues you were having about gayness versus masculinity. I had seen a movie, Butch Factor, that I thought would be good for you to see. Sent you a very short message recommending the movie - nothing more, nothing inappropriate in the email. Didn't expect a long response, but maybe just a thanks. Nothing. Maybe reflects a attitude.
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    Jan 21, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    socialfitness,


    I Do remember getting this email a while ago. I think in one of the forum posts you had mentioned it the first time before the email and yea I have watched it since. Sometimes I think I am going to write back or respond and it just slips my mind. I get pretty busy and between this inbox, my schools, and my personal one it can get kinda crazy. I didn't mean to ignore you, that was not my intention.

    But thank you for recommending this documentary, I found it pretty cool! All the best
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    Jan 21, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    Sylas said Its unfortunate that you can't deliver justice, to someone who deserves it, without the threat of legal action taken against you....I would really love to just punch his face out. One punch. It would feel so good. I would just walk away after that. And smile.

    You'd stop smiling when they came to arrest you for assault.
    If someone doesn't care about you, the best karmic payback is to show you could care less about him. Instead of giving him the ego boost of testifying all about your love-crazed attack at your jury trial.
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    Jan 21, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    Sylas saidsocialfitness,
    I Do remember getting this email a while ago. I think in one of the forum posts you had mentioned it the first time before the email and yea I have watched it since. Sometimes I think I am going to write back or respond and it just slips my mind. I get pretty busy and between this inbox, my schools, and my personal one it can get kinda crazy. I didn't mean to ignore you, that was not my intention.

    But thank you for recommending this documentary, I found it pretty cool! All the best

    No problem at all sylas. I thought that was a possibility so I tried to make my comment in this thread pretty mild to not inflame. I'm glad your reaction was also moderate. Too many fights start by guys being hotheaded. Much better to have a friend than an enemy.
    As to this thread, nothing wrong with blowing off some steam here among friends. But cooling off and ignoring that guy is the best response, as the message above mentions. Karma will visit him too. Knowing he'd treat you the way he did probably says much about his own self-image. Stay above it, and all the best to you.
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    Jan 21, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    JAKEBENSONI hope you yell at him, scream in his face, maybe throw napkins at him, film it, put it up on YouTube.


    hahaha
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    Jan 21, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    Being ignored by someone who you've developed feelings for can feel a bit overwhelming at times. All the "he's not worth your time" advice feels hollow, as something about the guy made you feel like he was worth your time. Then those romantic feelings make the transition to anger and disappointment. It can feel suffocating. That's been my experience, anyway.

    Some of the advice around here reminds me of Jake Benson's thread about platitudes and cliched advice.
  • Springer70

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    Jan 22, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    Do not fight with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
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    Jan 22, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    Don't do anything physical- let karma do the job. He will have this happen to him by another guy he cares about a lot and then he can know what it feels like.

    He's not worth your time and energy to get worked up about when he's the one with commitment issues. Move on to better men.
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    Jan 22, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    Little advice- this is probably 90% of gay boys... you're going to be dealing with it for the rest of your life. Keep calm and carry on. and then get over it.
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    Jan 22, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    Dang, someone's got their panties in a wad! there's nothing worse than a guy who just blows you off after leaving you think they care. I get that but I'm with the others, you should take the high road. He'll get his just reward when someone dumps his ass and he's left wondering WTF. Don't waste your time on him, move on, be happy.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:33 AM GMT
    switch and take his friend.

    erase.

    replace.

    embrace.

    new face.

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    anyways happend to me lately.. im glad i didnt sleep with em. its too much energy caring. i got my friends thats all that matters.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    Sylas saidThis dude did me so wrong....
    Im gonna see him in the club again, I know it, and when I do, i'm gonna put him in his place. What a motherfucker.


    I have a better idea. icon_idea.gif Write down a brief summary of events about this guy and when you see him at the club, walk up to him, give him a big hug and tape it to his back like a "Kick Me" note. And then let him know that whatever his reasoning, it's ok. Then walk away.

    Attacking his reputation will give you more justice than physically attacking him.