Is It Hard For Older Guys To Meet Other Older In-Shape Guys?

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    Jan 21, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    I see a lot online Older In Shape Guys,
    but its always in other cities.
    Is it location, location, location,
    or is it just bad observation?
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    Jan 21, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    Location, location, location.
    Most of the older in-shape guys are in larger metropolitan areas.

    When I was growing up in a small hick town in Arkansas, I thought every guy over 30 was overweight, half-bald, and ugly as fuck.

    Now in South Florida where fitness is the norm, 50 is the new 25.
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    Jan 22, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    How old are you looking?

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    Jan 22, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    Yes. Virtually impossible.
    OMFG. I got a AARP membership packet in the mail today.

    ... I wonder if it's a good place to meet guys?
  • Ironman4U

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    Jan 22, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    The reality is that most guys start to let themselves go as they get older. There are still lots of guys who don't though. This site is proof that there are hot guys at all ages.

    But as the OP said, are they all in different cities? I call it RJ Law (it's like Murphy's Law) but different.

    RJ Law - There is a direct correlation between how hot you think someone is and how far they are from you. (The hotter they are, the further away they will be.)
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    Jan 22, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    "Is It Hard For Older Guys To Meet Other Older In-Shape Guys?"

    Yes
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    Jan 22, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    I have to agree that it seems metropolitan areas have better in shape guys in general. What it seems is that once in the burbs or smaller towns, less walking and more driving adds to the girth.
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    Jan 22, 2011 8:11 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidOMFG. I got a AARP membership packet in the mail today.

    ... I wonder if it's a good place to meet guys?


    No it's not.
    I got an AARP membership packet when I was 24.


    Yes, you should move to a different city with a thriving culture/nightlife. They tend to have a more in shape population. If the general population takes better care of themselves, then you can bet the older gay men do.
    And if you go somewhere warmer, then the older hotties will be running around shirtless for 9 months out of the year.
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    Jan 22, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    i don't really have a specific age group with older men.
    i do know i have a nothing under 25 rule.
    i tend to like guys who know Hall and Oats were
    and the Iran/Contra affair.

    i am 36 years of age, but i noticed online and
    in life, the older you get the harder it is to meet
    older in shape guys without the aid of a computer
    device.

    i just wanted to see what others thought and felt
    within their own place in the world.
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    RJ and metropolitan areas are NOT the only place to meet a mature guy (40 or older?). They are all over the place. Country, city, etc. and not just south of the Ohio River either. icon_lol.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 22, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    I do think that it is harder for older in-shape guys to meet other older in-shape guys because, as you get older, it becomes harder and harder to stay in good shape unless you are truly committed to a healthy diet and workout regimen that keeps you fit. Another reason is that many (not all, but many) older guys who are in in great shape tend to go for younger guys rather than guys their own age --- and, not surprisingly many younger guys go for them.
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidLocation, location, location.
    Most of the older in-shape guys are in larger metropolitan areas.

    When I was growing up in a small hick town in Arkansas, I thought every guy over 30 was overweight, half-bald, and ugly as fuck.

    Now in South Florida where fitness is the norm, 50 is the new 25.

    And what is 60? (If you say the new 80 I'll give you such a pinch!)

    Actually I endorse this view. My overweight partner and I are self-indulgent exceptions, but there are lots of older guys in fairly good shape here in South Florida. As 60 approaches the ratio of good to bad is favoring the bad, but the good still exists.
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    I think it is incredibly difficult. And even in a large urban area like the SF Bay Area. As curiousAZ mentioned above, it gets more and more difficult to stay in shape and more of a commitment....but it can be done.

    But there are fewer and fewer available guys who are willing to make that commitment. So the pool gets smaller and smaller.

    But there are other issues. I know many inshape guys in their 50s and 60s and every single one of them is partnered. I also agree with curious that the other issue is that many, but certainly not all, of the remaining single inshape guys in their 50s and 60s go for much younger guys exclusively....and I mean much, much, much younger, as in their 20s.

    So, masterdefense, I don't believe you made a bad observation.

    Before anyone makes the observation that this means that I (or others who also express this concern) am driven by something superficial as looks...just remember that RJ is a community of active athletes. We congregate here because we want to be fit, we are fit or we admire guys who are fit. It's fair that fitness is part of the "chemistry" that drives our sexual attraction and that fitness also indicates an internal discipline and drive that also contributes to attraction (in my case).
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    fastprof saidBut there are other issues. I know many inshape guys in their 50s and 60s and every single one of them is partnered.

    A very important issue that I overlooked. You're right, a good many of the older in-shape guys I know are partnered. Not all, but that is another factor that reduces the available pool.
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    Yes. It is very hard. And I'm not the picky on physical perfection.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    Hasn't been a problem.
  • CAtoFL

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    Jan 22, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    I think you've made a good observation. Seems as I've aged, the ability to find friends who want to adhere to a healthier lifestyle gets more difficult.

    Palm Springs is known for having an older demographic (about 23% of the population in the 65+ age range) and a very gay community. But it's still quite difficult (among my chronological peers) to get anyone outdoors to do anything - even though we have only two weeks of bad weather per year.

    My theory is that guys 50+ 'give up' easier. They are perhaps a bit jaded (if they're single) and don't think they'll realistically bond with a partner in this lifetime. So, the excesses they enjoy are self-indulgences. Eating too much. Drinking too much. The 'easy way out'.

    Let's face it ... keeping fit involves effort. For a lot of guys 50+, the priorities have shifted. It's not about staying fit for a large majority.

    My buds give me endless sh*t about going for salads instead of steak. But, as for them, it's a personal preference. I don't judge them and hopefully, they don't judge me. However, like you masterdefense, I wish I could find more inshape buds to enjoy an active lifestyle with.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    i live in the country more or less.
    I used to have one very hot fuck buddy but he's finally got himself a new bf, completely monogamous.
    other than that it's pretty much a gay version of the Sahara.

    in the city i see some but they always seem unattainable,

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    Jan 28, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    It sucks. I meet plenty of guys who are younger, but most men my age are either in a relationship or are single for a damn good reason. Trying to find one who is sane, single and works out is next to impossible.
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    Jan 28, 2011 4:48 AM GMT
    Being back in PA after many years in Los Angeles, this is SO true.
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    Jan 28, 2011 4:52 AM GMT
    In the Big Easy where there is no shortage of good food and always a reason to party and over indulge, it is next to impossible. That's why I am drawn to the young ones.
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    Jan 28, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    Maybe we should all just pick up and move to the same town. Think of the possibilities. I vote for San Diego.
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    Jan 28, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    Ok...after all this snow, San Diego sounds like heaven!
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    Jan 28, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    I hang out and run with lots of younger guys, but it hasn't lead to anything intimate. Still it's fun to challenge myself and to be able to run faster and farther than many kids 10-20 years younger. But I would very much like to meet someone over 50 who can keep up with me -- not finding anyone here on RJ who fits the bill.
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    Jan 28, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    It is harder to find guys 40+ who are in good shape. The simple fact is, most guys let themselves go.