Have you not messaged a hot guy cause you may feel that ur not his type?

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    Jan 22, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    Sometimes it happens to me haha, i dont do it cause i think that i wont be his type.. perhaps will not respond to my message..
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    Yes. But...I'm not really looking for anything. It's more that I don't know how to start a conversation other than saying what's up? Maybe that's enough...
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    closer85 saidYes. But...I'm not really looking for anything. It's more that I don't know how to start a conversation other than saying what's up? Maybe that's enough...


    Best way to start a conversation.. pick something from their profile icon_smile.gif if they have nothing but pictures.. just compliment =)
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    yesterr saidBest way to start a conversation.. pick something from their profile icon_smile.gif if they have nothing but pictures.. just compliment =)


    Did you read that here in the forums, or are you wise beyond your years?
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    yesterr saidBest way to start a conversation.. pick something from their profile icon_smile.gif if they have nothing but pictures.. just compliment =)


    Did you read that here in the forums, or are you wise beyond your years?


    i would take wise beyond my days of being in this site icon_smile.gif
    Most people would message me with a "Hi" or "Sup" and i didn't know what to answer.. so i rather take something from their profile so they don't feel the same way i do when i get those messages hahaha icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 22, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    yesterr said
    unfounded7 said
    yesterr saidBest way to start a conversation.. pick something from their profile icon_smile.gif if they have nothing but pictures.. just compliment =)


    Did you read that here in the forums, or are you wise beyond your years?


    i would take wise beyond my days of being in this site icon_smile.gif
    Most people would message me with a "Hi" or "Sup" and i didn't know what to answer.. so i rather take something from their profile so they don't feel the same way i do when i get those messages hahaha icon_smile.gif


    I've been messaged with just a hi but yeah, you're right - it's better when they pick out something from my profile.

    Maybe that will be my New Year's resolution - find good conversation starters icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 22, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Yes, especially when he is much younger than me.
  • CarbGoggles

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    Jan 22, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    All the time.
  • errol88

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    Jan 22, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    Yep, all the time. Which is like. . .80% of this site, haha.
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    Jan 22, 2011 3:09 PM GMT
    60isthenew40 saidYes, especially when he is much younger than me.


    You dont need to feel that way.. I talk a lot with guys older than me.. and let me tell you.. i like talking to older guys cause of their experience.. but yea theres no need to think that just because he's younger then he wont answer =]

    Don't judge a book by its cover ~ you may be surprised =]
  • bossanova

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    Jan 22, 2011 3:24 PM GMT
    I always reply if I like ou don't. I just can't be rude.
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    Jan 22, 2011 3:30 PM GMT
    yesterr said
    60isthenew40 saidYes, especially when he is much younger than me.


    You dont need to feel that way.. I talk a lot with guys older than me.. and let me tell you.. i like talking to older guys cause of their experience.. but yea theres no need to think that just because he's younger then he wont answer =]

    Don't judge a book by its cover ~ you may be surprised =]


    Agreed!
    I talk to anyone as long as they have a picture - doesn't matter if I'm initially attracted or not. I mean, who knows what could happen in the future? Personalities totally make someone's attractiveness rise in my eyes...
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    Jan 22, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    Yes but not so much because I figure I'm not their type. I've had hot guys come on to me in the real world enough to know that I am the type of a few, sometimes smoking, hot guys. I feel however that hot younger men living in a large metro area have an illusion that there is an endless supply of potential suitors. I, myself, distinctly remembering the feeling of the pickings rapidly shrinking. So I would rather focus on men who have the same level of appreciation for how hard it is to find a mutual attraction than chase after the guys everyone wants.

    Another point is that I find smoking hot looks to be a distraction when you really want to get to know someone. If you become smitten by his looks you will likely paint him into someone he is not. To make matters worse, some guys overplay the "I'm Hot" card by cultivating an image they feel will attract the most potential suitors. By doing this, they are making it even harder to know who the real person behind the scene is.

    I've never liked the term "he's out of my league" because it implies a ranking of the more desirable and the less desirable. The person making such a term is implying they accept that they must settle for less. Perhaps a better term would be "we are in different states or on different channels or more broadly different worlds". This implies that our perceptions of the world around us is very different. We also are offering our potential mates a different experience.


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    Jan 22, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    i feel that way all the time on this site
  • BeNiHiKoU

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    Jan 22, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    .. *smile*...I can't help but feel impressed by men that I find hot, handsome and attractive... And so, yeah, I'm a repeat offender - for having countlessly decided against messaging them, always rationalizing that "he's probably not going to respond, anyway".. Thought, paradoxically, I find it easier to make sassy, witty comments on one of their pictures than to message them out of the blue... unless I have a specific question to ask them...
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    Lol -- friendormate -- is right, saying "out of my league" is wrong cause no one is better than anybody, we all have our own talents.. that something that make us special. We just have to be confident of ourselves and show it, there's nothing better than someone that is confident, and knows what and who they are, make their points clear and is not molded by society. Me personally, love that. icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    Jan 22, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    How do you know your not his type if you never chat with him??????????????
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    mybud saidHow do you know your not his type if you never chat with him??????????????


    Again.. "out of my league" plays the role, so people are shy and just think "He's not going to answer cause im not as attractive as he is" which is wrong (and sometimes it happens to me) ~~~~ personality is what makes someone attractive ~~~~ you could be the hottest guy on earth, but if you're such an asshole then you could find your way back home, or you could be the ugliest one, but if you're such nice, sweet, and caring, or just what you're looking for in a guy, then most probably that you would take him icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    Its not the fact ur not their type. Its just the fact you just feel like as hot as they are why would they be interested in you. You find it hard to believe becausw honestly who wouldnt want to have a hot guy who u like in your corner. Then also there are guys who are just hot. And u cant really strike up a convo with someone who is just hot. You cant stare at them for the rest of yoyr.life.
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    mybud saidHow do you know your not his type if you never chat with him??????????????


    I'm wondering this also. Don't judge someone until you've talked a little with them, get to know them a bit and then you might get a better feel of who they are.

    Num1Passion saidIts not the fact ur not their type. Its just the fact you just feel like as hot as they are why would they be interested in you. You find it hard to believe because honestly who wouldn't want to have a hot guy who u like in your corner.


    Well said.

    You're good looking enough to be a lot of guys types, you need to work on your confidence a bit though. Something I learned is there are a lot of guys who are really good looking who lack confidence and think they're ugly (if you can believe that) There's no reason why you should box yourself into the type mentality. There's two types of attractiveness: looks and personality. Good looking nice guys are highly sought after.

    Just message them and if they don't respond don't worry a lot of single guys here are pretty shy and are looking for the same thing as everyone else (a happy relationship) You might be surprised of who you find it with.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    yesterr said
    mybud saidHow do you know your not his type if you never chat with him??????????????


    Again.. "out of my league" plays the role, so people are shy and just think "He's not going to answer cause im not as attractive as he is" which is wrong (and sometimes it happens to me) ~~~~ personality is what makes someone attractive ~~~~ you could be the hottest guy on earth, but if you're such an asshole then you could find your way back home, or you could be the ugliest one, but if you're such nice, sweet, and caring, or just what you're looking for in a guy, then most probably that you would take him icon_biggrin.gif


    Dude ..let your good qualities on the outside and most importantly on the inside remain in the darkness...Don't don't hold back your awesomeness from others.....It's not fair to you.... or them.....BUD
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Nothing ventured nothing gained.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:05 PM GMT
    If a really hot guy messaged you by just saying "Hi" or "what's up" I can guarantee you would still answer it. Oh the irony of this thread.
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    Jan 22, 2011 6:17 PM GMT
    funboi222 saidIf a really hot guy messaged you by just saying "Hi" or "what's up" I can guarantee you would still answer it. Oh the irony of this thread.


    Dude.. its totally different.. first he's the one who took the first step by messaging me.. now if it's the other way around is waay different.

    BTW I just created this thread to see what people would think about and maybe help others out, and even myself. Now if you dont mind what others may feel then i think you're in the wrong thread. Sometimes people won't post things up that may help others that are shy, and just creating threads of "rate the guy w.e..." i know its cool, but dont judge other threads just because they're not as i think u would say "interesting".