Never wants sex

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    Jan 22, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    I have had a boyfriend for a few months now, and we really like each other. He is my first official boyfriend and we took things slow. We are both young and good looking and we are really good friends too. So with all of this, you would expect there to also be a great sex life. Well there isn't. There is no conflict in roles, and there is mutual attraction, but for some reason he never initiates sex, and almost very rarely advances when I initiate for him. Literally the only time we have sex is when he happens to sort of want to and I've been flirting all night. I really like him, but I have needs he's really just not satisfying right now and its really getting to me. I also find that he only seems to show interest in my when I'm not showing interest in him (you want what you can't have sort of idea) and is always makes excuses. When its in the day, he says that people are around and doesn't want his room mates to hear, but at night he always says its too late or he's too tired. I one time asked him why he so rarely wants sex and he jokingly said because I can get it whenever I want... It really frustrated me because its basically implying I'm at his beck and call whenever he wants sex, but whenever I want it, he's too tired or finds some other excuse.

    I really really like him though and I want things to work out, but part of being in a relationship is sex, otherwise we might as well just be friends. Why is he doing this and what should I do?
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    Jan 22, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    print out your post and let him read it.....seriouslyicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 22, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    liked what keith (vetteset) said since you should just tell him since it's communication that keeps a relationship going on I think

    Anywho sometimes when he says no, just try to get him to say yes. If his roommates are there lock his door, or if there is no lock put the dresser in front of it. Then go up to him and just get him to make out with you then pull away when he starts wanting to kiss you and just leave his room. Give him a piece of his own medicine after a while he'll just start wanting you more and you know hopefully he'll be more into it.

    However chances are that he may be into something that he's worried you might not. Or he could be a guy who wants a relationship and isn't into the whole idea of sex. Or well other possibilities too none that are worth mentioning I think icon_razz.gif