How Long Do You Wait to Set Up a Date After You Make Contact Online?

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    Jan 22, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    This is a question I think a lot of guys are wondering also. How long do you wait to set up a first date with someone who contacted you/ you contacted on a dating site?

    If you wait too long they might not think you're interested but if you set something up too fast they might think you're clingy. A couple of days? One week?
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    Jan 22, 2011 7:19 PM GMT
    I wish I knew, never had that much success with guys online. Maybe after a few days of chatting, at most a week, but typically I find that guys online I met well the ones from manhunt are liars and it ended with me thinking shouldn't have met him.
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    Jan 23, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    I keep hearing guys are using Manhunt and Adam4Adam but there's a lot of great alternatives out there like Connexion, Planetout and Match.com

    I think you're right about a week, that sounds about right.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Jan 23, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Ehanson saidI keep hearing guys are using Manhunt and Adam4Adam but there's a lot of great alternatives out there like Connexion, Planetout and Match.com

    I think you're right about a week, that sounds about right.


    Thanks...Manhunt and A4A doesn't seem to work for me either. I'll give these a try!

    As for your question, I tend to move quicker and rather than label anything a date, I just ask a guy out for a coffee. To be honest though, I get very poor results with this approach!
  • bri248

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    Jan 23, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    I say 3 to 4 days (honestly - there is no correct number, it's a personal choice). I like having casual pre-dates with guys. You simply set up a coffee or brunch something that is short and brief early on. This way it allows you to see if he's worth going on true date with. Thus, you do not to create some fantasy of the guy in your head by extending the meeting time out and you just get it over with by actually meet him in person.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 23, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    15 to 20 days to make sure our schedules coincide and to give us time to get to know each other a little better to remove any awkward moments so that when we do meet....we are not asking ourselves..."Should I...or Shouldn't I?"..but that's just me. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 23, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    If it's "manhunt," you'd better make it within 20 minutes, or they'll find somebody else.
    If it's RJ, why not meet for a mutual sport, whenever you would normally do it next?