Just because your gay and fit....

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    Jan 23, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Guys who are gay and physically fit, please keep something in mind. Make sure the mind is as fit as the body, which translates into don't act like a jerk or big-time schmuck when at the gym.

    Just because I ask you about the exercises you are doing or how many times a week you work out, don't take it to mean I am into you. I may be impressed by how well you do your exercises or interested in getting some good advice on how to improve my workout techniques.

    Just saying....
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    Jan 23, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    My gay and fit what
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    Jan 23, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    Sometimes it's not the question, it's the approach and delivery.
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    Jan 23, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    Wha...This is so judgmental.
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    Jan 23, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    chrixx saidWha...This is so judgmental.


    Then he'll fit right in here.
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    Jan 23, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    Not really the best first impression to make on a dating/ networking site.

    I understand you're ranting and frustrated but keep in mind not all guys at the gym or good looking guys for that matter are like this. Maybe you're going to the wrong gym?
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    Jan 23, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    Geez ..... why come down so hard on the Newbie?

    He has a point
    When you talk to a guy doesn't always have to be construed that there is a hidden or "not so" hidden sexual agenda

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    Jan 23, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    GQjock saidGeez ..... why come down so hard on the Newbie?

    He has a point
    When you talk to a guy doesn't always have to be construed that there is a hidden or "not so" hidden sexual agenda



    Well said.
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    Jan 23, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    I guess my delivery or phrasing of my post wasn't clear enough.

    I was not talking about myself being approached by anyone. I was speaking merely of guys who ask other guys about their workouts at the gym and get treated as if they are looking for something more.....

    I have approached guys in the gym I work out at to ask about their fitness routines or how the work on a particular machine, because they seem to know what they are doing and the exercises obviously pay off in their fitness regimen.

    When I use a phrase such as, "My partner and I are trying to do a combination of lifting and cardio".... well, I don't see how that can be misconstrued as anything but a basic question......unless the person who I am asking has issues and thinks I am hitting on them (which I am not).

    I had a guy actually say to me, "I have a boyfriend". I replied with, "That's great...good for you".. I have partner too".....

    Sorry if my post annoyed or ruffled anyone. It wasn't meant to sound arrogant or obnoxious.

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    Jan 23, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    chrixx saidWha...This is so judgmental.


    Then he'll fit right in here.



    He sure will. On his first thread ever he used 'your' instead of 'you're'- just like a real RealJocker!
  • needleninja

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    Jan 23, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
    troll alert.
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    Jan 24, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    needleninja saidtroll alert.


    Ding ding ding ding ding!
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    Jan 24, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    I agree so much with this, troll or not, tbh.

    If I message u and comment on ur physique and ask how long uve been gymming, etc does not mean I want ur dick in my butt.
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    Jan 24, 2011 12:11 AM GMT
    member of a gay gym ? icon_eek.gif *shudders* .

    last year i went to the Nautilus in the Village just to see what it was like.
    it was rather comical : a dozen guys training really well, the rest made of rather delicate princesses in tank tops gossiping and giggling.
    but the serious guys seemed cool and approachable.

    i was glad to be back at my good solid 99.999% straight gym. ( i know of only 2 other gay guys there .. surely there are a few more, but surely very discrete ).

    yes, i can be guilty of gay segregation .
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    Jan 24, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    Yeah man you told it good i agree with you 100%
    And i have meet some great looking guys here and i am pleased to say thy are not acting like jerks but like good friends icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 24, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidMy gay and fit what


    I hope I'm not the only one who finds this funny.
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    Jan 24, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    I think the OP has a valid point. It's just a matter of asking the right guys.
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    Ehanson saidNot really the best first impression to make on a dating/ networking site.

    dating/ networking site???? ... RJ?
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    jscottmahoney saidGuys who are gay and physically fit, please keep something in mind. Make sure the mind is as fit as the body, which translates into don't act like a jerk or big-time schmuck when at the gym.

    Just because I ask you about the exercises you are doing or how many times a week you work out, don't take it to mean I am into you. I may be impressed by how well you do your exercises or interested in getting some good advice on how to improve my workout techniques.

    Just saying....


    lol... fit mind eh? hun, it's you're not your.
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saiddating/ networking site???? ... RJ?


    Like you haven't been sluttin' around here for years. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    jscottmahoney saidGuys who are gay and physically fit, please keep something in mind. Make sure the mind is as fit as the body, which translates into don't act like a jerk or big-time schmuck when at the gym.

    Just because I ask you about the exercises you are doing or how many times a week you work out, don't take it to mean I am into you. I may be impressed by how well you do your exercises or interested in getting some good advice on how to improve my workout techniques.

    Just saying....

    I am not sure what the problem is here? Did someone come on to you? Or act like they thought you were coming on to them?
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    Well, I think it's because there are some people who try to make conversation like that in order to chase after other guys -- not saying you are -- but they're possibly just trying to keep those ones at bay. Obviously the other guy doesn't know you and doesn't know your intentions but they're merely trying to be safe perhaps. Although if they reply with a scowl, then they're obviously a bit of a dick and shouldn't even be spoken to anyway.
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    jrunner25 said
    jscottmahoney saidGuys who are gay and physically fit, please keep something in mind. Make sure the mind is as fit as the body, which translates into don't act like a jerk or big-time schmuck when at the gym.

    Just because I ask you about the exercises you are doing or how many times a week you work out, don't take it to mean I am into you. I may be impressed by how well you do your exercises or interested in getting some good advice on how to improve my workout techniques.

    Just saying....


    lol... fit mind eh? hun, it's you're not your.


    Sorry jrunner but the op used "your" correctly in his posting as an adjective referring to exercises. It would make no sense to say - "I may be impressed by how well you do you are exercises or interested in getting some good advice on how to improve my workout techniques.

    Just saying....
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    Jan 24, 2011 1:54 AM GMT
    jscottmahoney saidGuys who are gay and physically fit, please keep something in mind. Make sure the mind is as fit as the body, which translates into don't act like a jerk or big-time schmuck when at the gym.

    Just because I ask you about the exercises you are doing or how many times a week you work out, don't take it to mean I am into you. I may be impressed by how well you do your exercises or interested in getting some good advice on how to improve my workout techniques.

    Just saying....


    It's "you're" as in "you are", and not "your" as in you possess.

    Tip: Do your own research. Sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder from some experience. Get over it.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 24, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    We'll make sure to keep that in mind.....

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