Guy I am working with/client is insistent that we hang out.

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    Jan 24, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    So, I was recently assigned a guy who is my age to work with on general fitness. When I scheduled the client interview made the remark he has a girlfriend or was married. We have been working together for over a week now, and he is really interested in working in the field so he has been really persistent about asking me questions and being inquisitive.

    This last friday, he made the reference that we should hang out. I kind of ignored that first comment and he brought it up again when i ran into him a 2nd time later that day.

    I would almost say he is interested in knowing me and as a client, i dont know that i am quite ready to hang out with a client that I dont really know. I dont get any signs that he is gay but clearly there is something he likes about me.

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  • needleninja

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    Jan 24, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    he probibly sees you as being sucessful and profitable,
  • Jericophantom...

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    Jan 24, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    Its very questionable tread lightly though don't be afraid of something new
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    Jan 24, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    It is possible to like someone and want to get to know them and hang out without being sexually interested.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 24, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    I have clients who are friends, "like" aside, I always, always keep my responsibilities separate from the friendship... and I don't ever slack on my professional responsibilities.

    No reason you can't be friends, he may just like being around you. It doesn't mean you will be buds, but that he just wants to visit with you a little deeper. So long as the guy is polite and reasonable, I don't see the problem.
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    Jan 24, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    no.. he may just be looking for friends.. I hang out with 3 of the dudes that work at my gym.. and met them by just going to the gym!

    Their all straight.. single, but straight.... I am not looking to get in their pants or anything.. it's just nice to have friends that have similar goals as you!

  • needleninja

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    Jan 24, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    networking is very important :^
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    Jan 24, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    needleninja saidhe probibly sees you as being sucessful and profitable,

    I might agree that studying me, he might learn if he likes the profession but he isnt wanting to job shadow. He suggested hot wings with some other guys, and is intrigued by my life philosophy and knowing things about my personal life.

    I have never had a client show interest in my personal life right after meeting him. we have discussed my interests, that I moved from the west coast to a rural area (like him) and that i lean far more liberal on the political scale. Sometimes being liberal clashes with my peers because they are not even 21 and think they know everything.....

    It was kind of funny, when I first met with him, we were a few minutes into the client consolation and he stopped and asked how old I was (as if that would determine my credibility).


    I dont know if he knows I am gay. I keep that away from work because it doesnt really belong there.

    I agree with the whole hanging out with clients, but this is two weeks into working with him which is why i am suspicious about what exactly to get out of this. Besides, as I stated, the first time he suggested it I brushed the comment aside and he brought it up again.