Long Distance Relationships

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    Jan 24, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
  • DanOmatic

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    Jan 24, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    I went through a period where I had a few long-distance relationships: San Francisco, Austin TX, Washington, DC. I was in my late 20s and early 30s, so I guess at the time I was convinced each time that it was the real deal, and the fact they were far away made each trip out to visit feel kind of like an adventure.

    However, the magic wore off pretty quickly--travel back and forth became a hassle, and each in its own time devolved into a sort of not-real-life weekend relationship where real feelings were never broached, nor were any issues of substance. Sure, the sex was fun, and the excitement to be together again after a few weeks of separation was always very intense.

    But as I got older, I realized that I wasn't cut out for the rigor of an LDR, and I really doubt that I could be convinced to try again. If I were seriously involved with someone who had to relocate, then I would consider it as a temporary arrangement until we could both be together, but I think that starting out, LDRs seldom work out.
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    Jan 24, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    Been looking for the exact same thing, in my line of work i work 20 days on, and 10 days off where I can travel. I believe I can more then handle a LDR, I'm very independent and have my "work" side of my "non work side" not interested in cheating or messing around, not my style so I know thats not a issue. Someone I can call after a long day of work then cant wait to see on my days off, etc

    hope ya find it!

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    Jan 24, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    Been there, did that. Big fat NO.
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    Jan 24, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    the initial first contact, the infatuation stage for 3 months, now moving to next level which involves calls, cards, letters, emails and exposure of oneself for bounding.

    expressing how the daily adventure with it's challenge affects attitude about having a partner without the physical intimacy of sharing.

    communication,trust, dedication to develop a life lasting companionship.

    taking love to another level beyond public level.
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    Jan 24, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    A few hours, probably. Across the country, only on a temporary basis - at some point someone has to relocate.
  • alby

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    Jan 24, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    everyone is different when it comes to this topic. For me I can handle it but it will be hard if its a prolonged amount of time.
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    Jan 24, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    Buffalo isn't that small of a town, cold perhaps but not small. As for long distance, I tried it too but found that I needed someone nearby on a regular basis, not just when they could get into town. Even a 35 mile distance is tough. Perhaps I'm just needy but I like being able to meet my bf at a moment's notice or on the weekends rather than planning on a trip. I couldn't do the long distance thing.
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    Jan 24, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    theeticketmaster saidI used to live in Buffalo, now I moved back to my hometown which is in the foothills of the Adirondacks. I am over an hour from Albany and people there think it's too far.
    Ah, yeah that makes a difference. I use to live in northern PA, 90 miles south of Buffalo and I know how rural those areas can be. Closest gay bar there is 25 miles away. Ever consider relocating? If nothing else than for the COLD! LOL
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 24, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    Yes I would date someone a few hours away, mostly because I'm willing to relocate anyway. I've tried it once, and yes it takes a lot of communication and planning, but there are many positives to it, such as the time you spend together will be extra special, and theoretically you won't take each other for granted. Also for me personally I can't keep my apartment clean at all, so if someone was here all the time I'd feel mentally embarassed, but if he was only there once a month or so, I can always clean it before he comes. Mine did not work like yours because he said "he needed time to work on himself" when I think he just wanted to sleep with others or thought he could find better. But I wish you the best of luck, if you and your guy are willing to make certain sacrifices and if it's important for the both of you, then it will work.
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    Jan 25, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    currently in a LD relationship, he lives 2k miles away. hes a wonderful man and i could only be happier if he lives 2 miles away lol. But plans are in motion to change that, its just a time consuming process, but to me its totally worth it.