Pato_Rico said" I dont let my sexuality define me "
this is something that puzzles me and perturbs me... its like saying "I dont let my gender, race, ethnicity, etc etc define me"
But who on earth would say such a thing?
I know its our personalities that make us who we are.. but how is it that we say our religion and culture "defines us" (which is impossible it is not genetic" whereas our sexuality and gender (which is genetic) does not?
What it means is your sexuality doesn't define you in all situations in life (and I don't think it should).
Depending on the situation, place or time, we adopt different definitions of ourselves (or identities).
In the widest sense I define myself as a human being, narrower definitions are decided by my position in a certain situation.
I can define myself,
-geographically/ethnicity : European, Danish, ...and so on, all the way down to my local neighborhood.
- By Interests
- Physical attributes.... and sometimes by sexuality, but far from all the time.
Most of the time I'm just a judo coach or a sports fan or a pedestrian or whatever. I don't have to/want to put the adjective GAY in front of everything I am.
To the OP... Your family just don't know much about gay people except the stereotypes they've seen on tv. What a great opportunity for you to show them that gay people don't always fit the stereotype.