What's a guy to do?

  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 25, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    WHat's up guys. I have decided to throw in the towel on finding a relationship. i mean if they are damaged trust me they will find me. I blame it on myself though because i always want to fix them. I always think that I can make them see that there are good guys out there. But in the end I end up frustrated and I just leave them alone.
    Should I give up and just get a dog or keep hope alive. I mean it just seems like there are not a lot of quality guys out there. What do you guys think?
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    Jan 25, 2011 11:52 PM GMT
    i can't disagree in some ways, but you're only 37 brother and the advice i get and give is: start with a friendship first and then let the winds take over...you're a nice guy from my experience, one day i hope the right guy comes....but keep on chuggin until that day.......all my best.......Keithicon_wink.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    stilsurchin saidi can't disagree in some ways, but you're only 37 brother and the advice i get and give is: start with a friendship first and then let the winds take over...you're a nice guy from my experience, one day i hope the right guy comes....but keep on chuggin until that day.......all my best.......Keithicon_wink.gif
    thanks buddy i really appreciate the advice. i will take your kind words and try to use them
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI personally just don't like the venues to meet guys.

    I'm amazed how many straight people I know who met their partners at work. It got me wondering if, when you get older, you just want to "see someone in action" doing normal things, since that's what most relationships are...time spent doing 'normal' things. So, I wish there were more project oriented venues to meet guys.....sort of a "gay barn-raising day."

    Anyway, there are the bars and a few 'hiking' or 'skiing' type gay events in my neck of the woods, but nothing like the events I'm talking about. And it's got me thinking about starting such a group....maybe start by just building a park bench at at bus stop or community garden in an empty lot.

    Anyway, that's my two bits....maybe as we get older, the current venues just aren't meeting our needs. God knows drinking over-priced beers with throbbing music and the stink of D&G and failure certainly isn't doing it for me.

    ha ha ha ha i agree. i just do not find going to a gay bar with with bad music a great way to hangout
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    Jan 27, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    ive given up too, im tired of being two-night standed icon_razz.gif I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since icon_cool.gif

    note how I've used every spelling of /tu:/ in the english language in this post!!!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    Pato_Rico saidive given up too, im tired of being two-night standed icon_razz.gif I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since icon_cool.gif

    note how I've used every spelling of /tu:/ in the english language in this post!!!
    ha ha ha good for you. i gave up whoring in college.
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    Jan 27, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    Pato_Rico saidive given up too, im tired of being two-night standed icon_razz.gif I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since icon_cool.gif

    note how I've used every spelling of /tu:/ in the english language in this post!!!
    ha ha ha good for you. i gave up whoring in college.


    haha, I never whored in college, i was a really good boy, guess we did it the other way around icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 27, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    I've pretty much given up. I think the old saying rings pretty true, gay or straight: "Men are pigs."

    Signed,

    Sick of the Gay Head Games...
  • Jessie_Lee

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    Jan 27, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    Best why to find relationships? Stop looking.

    If you're always looking for a relationship, you'll end up having expectations.

    When you're not looking, you won't be having any expectations and enjoy life as it is.

    Just enjoy hanging out with friends, and leave it as is. Hang out with them at bars, house parties, dinner parties, poker games, playing football, playing basketball, board game nights, dungeons and dragons, Rock Band competitions, bridge night, office parties, Happy Hour with co-workers, workout buddies at the gym, etc. You're allowed to have random hook-ups, just make sure they know that as well and be safe. Maybe the next person you end up in a relationship with will be a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a another friend.

    Enjoy being single, because once you're in a relationship, you won't be able to do that. But you will get to enjoy being in a relationship then. And this is NOT "throwing in the towel".
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Pato_Rico saidive given up too, im tired of being two-night standed icon_razz.gif I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since icon_cool.gif

    note how I've used every spelling of /tu:/ in the english language in this post!!!

    It would make a great lesson in a school! "Class...today we're gonna learn about two-too-to. Please read this sentence carefully: "I've given up too, I'm tired of being two-night standed; I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since." "

    It's learning English the gay way. :-)
    lol thank you for the lesson on the english language.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    Jessie_Lee saidBest why to find relationships? Stop looking.

    If you're always looking for a relationship, you'll end up having expectations.

    When you're not looking, you won't be having any expectations and enjoy life as it is.

    Just enjoy hanging out with friends, and leave it as is. Hang out with them at bars, house parties, dinner parties, poker games, playing football, playing basketball, board game nights, dungeons and dragons, Rock Band competitions, bridge night, office parties, Happy Hour with co-workers, workout buddies at the gym, etc. You're allowed to have random hook-ups, just make sure they know that as well and be safe. Maybe the next person you end up in a relationship with will be a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a another friend.

    Enjoy being single, because once you're in a relationship, you won't be able to do that. But you will get to enjoy being in a relationship then. And this is NOT "throwing in the towel".
    wow, jessie, i really appreciate your kind words. i will definitely learn to enjoy what i have right now and not what worry about this miner issue
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    Jan 27, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    Don't give up finding your man! I disagree. There are a ton of good guys out there but this f'in internet web community w/it's anonymity brings out the worse in everyone sometimes. To a certain extent I shared the "fix it" thing with you(thanks Mom). It makes us vulnerable. Also makes you a really decent guy although misguided. We can't fix someone else only they can fix themselves.
    You're in DC which is pretty big compared to Portland or Seattle. There are several gay oriented sports and recreation groups here and are an awesome way to meet folks. Shit, there's a couple gay chuches too (I am pagan/Druid/not really). One would assume there's the same in DC. If not consider relocating when the job market and economy improves to points more gay friendly and gay populous? Good luck man.
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    Jan 27, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    yourname2000 said
    Pato_Rico saidive given up too, im tired of being two-night standed icon_razz.gif I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since icon_cool.gif

    note how I've used every spelling of /tu:/ in the english language in this post!!!

    It would make a great lesson in a school! "Class...today we're gonna learn about two-too-to. Please read this sentence carefully: "I've given up too, I'm tired of being two-night standed; I've been whoring myself out to tourists ever since." "

    It's learning English the gay way. :-)
    lol thank you for the lesson on the english language.


    HAHAHAHA, i am actually a certified English language teacher for foreigners icon_razz.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    Kev1962 saidDon't give up finding your man! I disagree. There are a ton of good guys out there but this f'in internet web community w/it's anonymity brings out the worse in everyone sometimes. To a certain extent I shared the "fix it" thing with you(thanks Mom). It makes us vulnerable. Also makes you a really decent guy although misguided. We can't fix someone else only they can fix themselves.
    You're in DC which is pretty big compared to Portland or Seattle. There are several gay oriented sports and recreation groups here and are an awesome way to meet folks. Shit, there's a couple gay chuches too (I am pagan/Druid/not really). One would assume there's the same in DC. If not consider relocating when the job market and economy improves to points more gay friendly and gay populous? Good luck man.
    kev, i will keep that in mind. i try to stay out of the all gay category. i like diversity and you do not get that when you are apart of gay clubs
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    Jan 27, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Gay clubs in my opinion are one of the worst places to go to look for a relationship, I understand why guys go there though- it's what they know. There's more places to meet guys than at the clubs and bars, we're everywhere.

    I agree with the other advice go to gay oriented sports and recreation groups in DC. There's a big gay population in that city so you'll come across a like minded guy. If not you can make a friend. who may have a single friend. You'll find your guy when you start doing the things you love.

    Don't give up though, missing out on meeting a great guy who you'll be in a great relationship with is a heck of a price to pay.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2011 8:13 AM GMT
    Ehanson saidGay clubs in my opinion are one of the worst places to go to look for a relationship, I understand why guys go there though- it's what they know. There's more places to meet guys than at the clubs and bars, we're everywhere.

    I agree with the other advice go to gay oriented sports and recreation groups in DC. There's a big gay population in that city so you'll come across a like minded guy. If not you can make a friend. who may have a single friend. You'll find your guy when you start doing the things you love.

    Don't give up though, missing out on meeting a great guy who you'll be in a great relationship with is a heck of a price to pay.
    thanks buddy, i really appreciate comment. i will take your advice to heart