Having a sex buddy or a friend with benefits.

  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 25, 2011 4:23 AM GMT
    I just want to know if anyone has ever had a successful friends with benefits or just a sex buddy? if so, how long did it last? did it turn into anything? if not, what happen?

    I have never had one. They all end badly because eventually they want more than i am willing to give. what is your story or take on sex buddies or FWB?
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    Jan 25, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    Love my fb. I crush on him frm time to time.
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    Jan 25, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    I've had the same one for over 5 years.
    I had a few others who lasted a 2-3 years, but our lives went different directions (they moved).
    There's a new guy coming over tomorrow night. Hopefully a new spark will ignite.

    PS. It's much more difficult to find "quality" FWB's when you have specific fetishes and only interested in non-standard sex (frottage). We tend to stick together when we find each other.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Jan 26, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidI just want to know if anyone has ever had a successful friends with benefits or just a sex buddy? if so, how long did it last? did it turn into anything? if not, what happen?

    I have never had one. They all end badly because eventually they want more than i am willing to give. what is your story or take on sex buddies or FWB?


    I've never had a FWB though I've been looking unsuccessfully for almost 2 years since my partner and I opened up our relationship.
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    I had one for 4 yrs but I dumped him new year eve
  • chameleon

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    Jan 26, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    FWB are great!
    i hook up with a couple from time to time
    we have dinner and fool around
    cool guys
    they have no expectations and i have no expectations
    works beautifully
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    Fb's are great icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Have one now for 11 years and counting...icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    MarriedAdam saidHave one now for 11 years and counting...icon_cool.gif


    He must be old now. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    Had a FWB that lasted for the space of a few months, then crashed and burned horribly.

    Feelings (mine) got in the way. We still talk from time to time, but the friendship is not what it used to be.
  • MarvelClimber

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    Jan 26, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Emotions do tend to get in the way from what I've seen of others. For me, a fuck buddy is a temporary thing, so one way or another, someone is going to move on to a deeper relationship.
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've had the same one for over 5 years.
    I had a few others who lasted a 2-3 years, but our lives went different directions (they moved).
    There's a new guy coming over tomorrow night. Hopefully a new spark will ignite.

    PS. It's much more difficult to find "quality" FWB's when you have specific fetishes and only interested in non-standard sex (frottage). We tend to stick together when we find each other.


    I understand Paul. I too enjoy dressing up in animal costumes, listening to the snow white soundtrack and having the brady bunch blaring on all TV sets in the house while with a dude..


    ;)
  • joarky123

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    Jan 26, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidI just want to know if anyone has ever had a successful friends with benefits or just a sex buddy? if so, how long did it last? did it turn into anything? if not, what happen?

    I have never had one. They all end badly because eventually they want more than i am willing to give. what is your story or take on sex buddies or FWB?


    i have a few going on (3 women, 1 man) strong for the past 4 years. i've also had 2 (1 man, 1 woman) that ended after a year each, quite horribly a few months ago.

    The key to the successful ones is to lay it out upfront about expectations. so that no one gets hurt. both parties should know what the other is expecting so that they know what they're getting into.

    i failed to clarify the state of things with the two that recently failed.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 26, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    I had several. We had great fun, but didn't invade each other's lives. Their wives had no clue, which is always beneficial.
  • allatonce

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    Jan 26, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    Yes best sex I ever had in my life. But then I found out he had a boyfriend that did not know about the situation so I ended it and told him to sort his life out. Do miss the sex though (very much).
  • Karnage

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    Jan 26, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    paganurse saidFWB are great!
    i hook up with a couple from time to time
    we have dinner and fool around
    cool guys
    they have no expectations and i have no expectations
    works beautifully


    I used to be FWB with a couple too. I lived out of state and every time I was home we would have lots of fun together icon_smile.gif

    Then they started dating a third guy, he moved in with them, and I couldn't fool around with them any more. Now the three of them have moved across the country and are still together after a year! Interesting situation, but kudos to them
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 26, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidI had several. We had great fun, but didn't invade each other's lives. Their wives had no clue, which is always beneficial.
    ok, i do not fool around with married people that is just so wrong
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 26, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    Karnage said
    paganurse saidFWB are great!
    i hook up with a couple from time to time
    we have dinner and fool around
    cool guys
    they have no expectations and i have no expectations
    works beautifully


    I used to be FWB with a couple too. I lived out of state and every time I was home we would have lots of fun together icon_smile.gif

    Then they started dating a third guy, he moved in with them, and I couldn't fool around with them any more. Now the three of them have moved across the country and are still together after a year! Interesting situation, but kudos to them
    wow, that is weird.
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    Jan 26, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    Its quite hard to find fuck buddies where i live.
    I've had a few before but never worked out, which is too bad 'cause the sex was hot. Oh well...
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 26, 2011 3:39 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidIts quite hard to find fuck buddies where i live.
    I've had a few before but never worked out, which is too bad 'cause the sex was hot. Oh well...
    gigolo, move to dc and they are a dime a dozen
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    Jan 26, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    I want a fuck buddy! They sound fun!
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    Jan 26, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
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    MarriedAdam saidHave one now for 11 years and counting...icon_cool.gif


    He must be old now. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Nah, I'm the old one; he's still alive.icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    GigoloAssassin saidIts quite hard to find fuck buddies where i live.
    I've had a few before but never worked out, which is too bad 'cause the sex was hot. Oh well...
    gigolo, move to dc and they are a dime a dozen


    I'D SOOOO LOVE TO!!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Moishendlishu...

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    Jan 26, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Despite my best efforts...not really...usually it ends up a one time thing...I'm also friends with a lot of people I'm not physically attracted to so that doesn't help...sure they want to be....but I have no interest.
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    Jan 26, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    Don't ever expect more than just sex or you're setting yourself up for disappointment. It can be fun but they can also drop you like a bad habit for no reason and you've got to just accept it. I personally didn't find it to be a good thing for me even if it was fun while it lasted.