Dating Expectations..

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    Jan 26, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    I recently was talking to a friend about tricking... I said its ok to trick with someone who has a bf, as long as the bf is in the know and is ok with it... He told me that was putting too many hang-ups on sex...

    (for the record, the people here use the word trick to denote a sex buddy)

    Now in my mind I have basic rules and expectations I apply to having sexual relations, namely:

    1)
    If you are in an open relationship, be clear about that to your partner AND to your tricks...if you are monogomous, stick to that and dont lie to a partner... be honest about everything you do,...

    2)
    Be respectful of one another... if you want to date someone else, or want to stop dating someone... tell the person... dont just not return calls or messages, because ignoring someone is rude, and thats disrespectful...


    These two rules... honesty and respect...are my rules for everyone... so i always expected the same back

    What do you guys think? Am I complicating things too much? Should I lower my expectations from people? Isnt that giving up self-respect and integrity though?

    Your thoughts?

  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Jan 26, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    I am in an open relationship but do not "trick". I always tell men that I meet or chat with that I'm attached, open, and not into NSA sex. And yes, I agree with your expectations and have the same. However, people often don't meet those expectations. Those are people I won't see again.
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    Jan 26, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    Tennisjock70 saidI am in an open relationship but do not "trick". I always tell men that I meet or chat with that I'm attached, open, and not into NSA sex. And yes, I agree with your expectations and have the same. However, people often don't meet those expectations. Those are people I won't see again.


    A you dont call that tricking? To me, a trick is like a fb kind of situation... like a friend you may have sex with.. Or do you call that NSA? i mean to say sex with someone who you are friends with... rather than sex with someone you never talk to or see otherwise.. which is just a hook-up
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    Jan 26, 2011 4:28 AM GMT
    Pato_Rico saidI recently was talking to a friend about tricking... I said its ok to trick with someone who has a bf, as long as the bf is in the know and is ok with it... He told me that was putting too many hang-ups on sex...

    I can understand you would just have sex and nothing else, when its clear to both its NSA and you will not be dealing with each other.. but when its people you deal with regurlarly and whose lives involve each other.. shouldnt we keep basic rules and expectations ? Such as...

    1)
    If you are in an open relationship, be clear about that to your partner AND to your tricks...if you are monogomous, stick to that and dont lie to a partner... be honest about everything you do,...

    2)
    Be respectful of one another... if you want to date someone else, or want to stop dating someone... tell the person... dont just not return calls or messages, because ignoring someone is rude, and thats disrespectful...


    These two rules... honesty and respect...are my rules for everyone... so i always expected the same back

    What do you guys think? Am I complicating things too much? Should I lower my expectations from people? Isnt that giving up self-respect and integrity though?

    Your thoughts?

    ok apparently, you all have tricking confused with a sex buddy. a trick is person who turn tricks in the bedroom for money and does not just have one partner he or she has multiple partners.
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    ok apparently, you all have tricking confused with a sex buddy. a trick is person who turn tricks in the bedroom for money and does not just have one partner he or she has multiple partners.


    ehm yeah ok, fine, Ive not heard it be used that way, I used it here the way Ive heard it used before..

    but do you get the point of my question though? regardless of what it is called from one person to the next?
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    Jan 26, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    Up here a trick is a total stranger for a one-time and first experience. It's not a fb. (an fb?) ..at least it was . Slang meanings change over time.
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    Jan 26, 2011 7:20 PM GMT
    I agree that people should be open and honest.

    Some people do/will lie and they should be sent to relationship prison to pay for their crimes .


    And I've heard trick referred to both a one-night stand and a whore