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    Jan 26, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    I used to be a sexual camel before I met my boyfriend, and now that I'm with him, I want it all the time...

    Thing is, he doesn't have the same sex drive as I do. When we do have sex, it's always good, just the right amount of everything. But I want it again and again and again.

    I'm told it's because I'm a top that I can't appreciate what goes into bottoming which is absolutely true and yada yada but my discussion opener I want to put forward is:

    How have you coped with different sex drives in a loving relationship?

    And I know the first answer will always be... well, you know. That. Which I did. 5 times already.

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    Jan 26, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    jprichva saidSimple. Cheat on him.


    I knew there was a reason why I liked you. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    jprichva saidSimple. Cheat on him.


    or rape him. most gay rape victims do not report it. just an FYI.
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    Jan 26, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    Silly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!

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    Jan 26, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin

    OP: my best advice is to find a hobby/ or job (excluding blow/hand) that takes up your time...
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin


    no u!!!
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:17 AM GMT
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin


    no u!!!


    I feel we are wasting this energy arguing, lets just get it over with! icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin


    no u!!!


    I feel we are wasting this energy arguing, lets just get it over with! icon_razz.gif


    of course, ladies first.
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    Jan 26, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    jprichva saidSimple. Cheat on him.


    or rape him. most gay rape victims do not report it. just an FYI.


    lol thumbs up to this

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  • misternick

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    Jan 26, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    When I asked my friends about this very same problem, they told me that's just what happens when you get "married."

    "Ice Jack" masturbation sleeves are only forty bucks on ebay.

    And if it saves you the time and money, buying toys for him doesn't do you any good. Trust me.

    Just bought a bottle of Horny Goat Weed pills, I'll letcha know how that goes.
  • UncleverName

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    Jan 26, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    Maybe try calling Dan Savage and see what he thinks?

    You two may not be sexually compatible.
    If more sex is really important to you, and it's likely that you're going to cheat, prob better to sort this out now and save yourself and him a lot of grief.

    Maybe a slightly open relationship would work?

    Is it the frequency per day that's the issue, or the number of times a week? What would make you happier? If you want to do it say 5 times a night during the work/school week, I can see how that would be difficult to accommodate. If you'd like to do it once a night and five times a day on the weekend, that's a different story. The former, to me, is basically a second job. The latter would be nice though.

    Lastly, I'd suggest switching roles. For some guys, bottoming takes a ton of prep time and if you've never had to do it, you might not be able to understand/relate. And is topping the only way you can get off together? What about having one sided sessions? Do some oral first where you get off, then some frot where you get off, then some anal where you both get off? If the time it takes to prep for anal is what holds him back, mix it up and do other things.
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    Jan 26, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin


    no u!!!


    I feel we are wasting this energy arguing, lets just get it over with! icon_razz.gif


    of course, ladies first.


    I have 0 understanding of what this is about... ever since the first reply I had that :-S
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    Jan 26, 2011 7:20 AM GMT
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    Jan 26, 2011 7:38 AM GMT
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    Jan 26, 2011 11:39 AM GMT
    Pato_Rico said
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin


    no u!!!


    I feel we are wasting this energy arguing, lets just get it over with! icon_razz.gif


    of course, ladies first.


    I have 0 understanding of what this is about... ever since the first reply I had that :-S


    lol cereal/yogurt reference


    also, i <3 you
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    Jan 26, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    Trollin

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    Term used (sometimes) by gay men to show their distatse in the way that Bi or Bicurious men bahave when looking for a sexual partner. (1)

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    So I think the dude who started this needs to chill out. I am sure your a horny guy but having sex 5x a day sure isnt a productive activity.

    a healthy relationship shouldnt be sex sex sex, what happened to the cuddling and quality time with your boyfriend? I guess if he is just a sex toy or something that is all right.......

    Put some of that energy and testosterone into the gym.
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    Jan 26, 2011 12:49 PM GMT

    Other than feeding him oysters and testosterone I have no other suggestions besides an open relationship.
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    Jan 26, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
    Soyfan said
    Pato_Rico said
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Soyfan said
    needleninja said
    Pato_Rico saidSilly faggot!!! Dicks are for chicks!!!



    lol besides the troll, you should probibly just hold back on it then, its not that hard really.


    lolWUT? ubtrollin


    no u!!!


    I feel we are wasting this energy arguing, lets just get it over with! icon_razz.gif


    of course, ladies first.


    I have 0 understanding of what this is about... ever since the first reply I had that :-S


    lol cereal/yogurt reference


    also, i <3 you


    Yeah i know, thats where we got the phrase from.. but I dont get any of this trolling business
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    Jan 26, 2011 4:21 PM GMT
    Save for some mildly hilarious responses, the feedback has been good.

    I believe in monogamy though, and let's not make the mistake that somehow our bodies believe differently than our brains on this subject.

    Our bodies need release, our brains register walking masturbation-aids, our pervert-blongata (I'm pretty sure) thinks of scenarios and positions and some dirty words, and our free-will allows us to choose if we wish to pursue said walking masturbation-aid. This is regardless of whether we are in a committed relationship or not. That's the challenge, that's the choice.
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    Jan 26, 2011 4:31 PM GMT

    OK makavelli, consider that you're blessed to be with someone you can't get enough of. There's a huge happiness to that.

    Things could be much much worse, like finding yourself turned off by sex with your guy.

    Be careful, if you push sex with your man he may become turned off from claustrophobic pressure. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

    I'm always a little puzzled that some men feel that they are at the mercy of their sex drives.

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    Jan 26, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    You'll need to talk to your boyfriend about the apparent discrepancy in your sexual appetites.

    At that point the options are:
    1) Break up. It's too big of an obstacle in your relationship.
    2) Open relationship. Set up some ground rules so that you can get what you need and he isn't jealous.
    3) Take care of business on your own. Just because he doesn't want to have sex as often as you, doesn't mean he can't help you beat off (or watch you beat off if you want) or blow you or talk dirty to you or strip for you.

    The point is that you two need to communicate.
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    Jan 26, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    No one on here is any help.

    Dont cheat. That is a despicable option.

    Talk to him. See how he feels about it.

    You said a loving relationship, there should be sacrifice and compromise from both of you. Tell him that you need more, he can give more, and then sometimes you might have to hold back for him. Its give and take, no matter whos giving and whos taking.

    Best of luck!
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    Jan 26, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    Thank you Doug, Ermine and EvanOnFire, they were quite thoughtful comments, and very heartening to hear.

    The biggest peeve about this is our difference in people we've slept with. As they say, I've had more than the Pope but less than Madonna. Basically, I'm the Pope and he's Madonna.

    So I know he's had lots of sex, but at the same time, he wasn't exactly in a "good" place during his slutty years, and so I know he means it when he says sex isn't important to him and that having only three boyfriends (me being the third) he's looking for something more, something meaningful. This we agree on.

    And I like Doug's advice especially because you raise a great point. Things could be worse. The sex could be bad, at which point it would be over, no mulling or questions asked!icon_smile.gif

    And yes, some men are slaves to their desires, and I trust myself to be first and foremost a rational creature with emotional intelligence, and not someone who foremost wants to stick it in other people.

    Again, thanks for the comments and feedback.
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    Jan 27, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    EvanOnFire saidNo one on here is any help.

    Dont cheat. That is a despicable option.



    Group sex is not cheating so long as the boyfriend attends. icon_idea.gificon_idea.gificon_idea.gif



    Haha, or at least gets the tape after!

    JK...