After how many dates do you expect sex?

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    Jan 26, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    Q: After how many dates do you expect to have sex and what would you do if you dont get it?

    I've been dating this guy for about a month and we've been in like 6 dates already. he drives me absolutly crazy and he's taking me to a gay club on saturday, this is huge for me, this would be the first time I go to a gay club, not only do I have expectations about what will happen in there (who will I meet there, how will I feel like) but about what will happen after. I guess he is probably expecting sex after.

    Dont get me wrong I would love to do it with him, its just it would be my first with a guy and I dont want it to be a drunken event, I dont want a trail of petals leading to the bed, but I would like to be on my full senses (him also for that matter) when I do it, does that sounds stupid? I think Im ready, I just dont know when it will actually happen, I find it cheassy as hell to plan for it, its like coming out I guess, you know when you are ready and just wait for the right moment.
  • prime02

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    Jan 26, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    depends on how you meet the guy.. but I would say 3 dates is how I run it.. for like oral sex.. but "all the way", there is no time limit for me on dates, it's whenever you both feel comfortable, you should never rush into that.. I take that as more intimate level
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    You haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.


    i think we've gone on three dates now right? so.....
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    prime02 saiddepends on how you meet the guy.. but I would say 3 dates is how I run it.. for like oral sex.. but "all the way", there is no time limit for me on dates, it's whenever you both feel comfortable, you should never rush into that.. I take that as more intimate level

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    This. Even oral I hold off on sometimes.
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    oh i just realized i've gone over 1000 post! what does that make me?
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    AvadaKedavra saidoh i just realized i've gone over 1000 post! what does that make me?

    A Realjock posting god!!!

    Welcome to the kingdom. We're now recognizable. I think our ranks just went up too. Gain 5 stat points? Roll a 24? Instant critical hit? Point in our skill tree?

    Awe fuck it. We've just been here awhile and now people know us by name. lmao.
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.


    i think we've gone on three dates now right? so.....


    so.....you're a cock tease.
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    AvadaKedavra said
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.


    i think we've gone on three dates now right? so.....


    so.....you're a cock tease.


    hilarious!
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:45 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.


    you mean given up as ...you would have dump me Or you would have done it already?
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    AvadaKedavra said
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.


    i think we've gone on three dates now right? so.....


    so.....you're a cock tease.


    Aren't you also a cock tease? icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    Writrboi said
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.

    you mean given up as ...you would have dump me Or you would have done it already?

    I'm not saying I'd dump you but I'd definitely be asking what you were waiting for if nothing had happened by the third date.




    chrixx saidAren't you also a cock tease? icon_twisted.gif

    And how did you come to that conclusion?
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    Jan 26, 2011 6:20 AM GMT
    Writrboi saidQ: After how many dates do you expect to have sex and what would you do if you dont get it?
    I expect sex before the first date, and go to the next guy if I don't get it.
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    Jan 26, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
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    AvadaKedavra saidoh i just realized i've gone over 1000 post! what does that make me?

    Nice! Congrats! I'm getting close myself.

    As I understand it, you're now "allowed" to talk directly to Caslon...pretty sure that's the only thing that happens after 1000 posts.

    So it's not much of a reward. icon_cry.gif

    I'm gonna slow down posting I think.

    I've talked to that beast since post 20. XD


    Now that I think about it... I came onto here ballsy as hell. Hahahaha.
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    Jan 26, 2011 6:29 AM GMT
    My theory is to have sex at the beginning of the first date. That way if its no good you dont have to waste your time and money on dinner and a movie.
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    Jan 26, 2011 12:49 PM GMT
    Ruffian , are you economist?icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 12:52 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidYou haven't done anything after 6 dates? I'd have given up after the third.


    Hence you're single!

    Sorry but it's true, there are so many guys out there that moan about being single but would drop someone after 3 dates who did "come up with the goods"
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    Jan 26, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Writrboi saidQ: After how many dates do you expect to have sex and what would you do if you dont get it?
    I expect sex before the first date, and go to the next guy if I don't get it.


    Same to you, and do you wonder why you are single?

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    Jan 26, 2011 12:55 PM GMT


    I think hes probably a decent guy already if he's waited until now. I think if you are honest with him and say you don't want the first time together (never mind your first time) to be a drunken fumble, then he should understand. If things don't work out that way, and you do end up doing, you can have a pretend first time the next time you meet up!
  • Glorfindel

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    Jan 26, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    I don't expect sex after any number of dates. If it happens, then it happens. icon_smile.gif I've had sex on a first date because there was a ton of chemistry or I've gone 10+ dates.
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    Jan 26, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    Glorfindel saidI don't expect sex after any number of dates. If it happens, then it happens. icon_smile.gif I've had sex on a first date because there was a ton of chemistry or I've gone 10+ dates.


    That is how I feel!!!
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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 26, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    When I go out on a date, it's understood that with a snap of my finger they better allow for it............icon_evil.gif


    LOL.. I just love saying that, actually I don't have dates since I'm involved with someone and I'd never "expect" anything as some of the guys said above.
    I think if you are getting irritated about the fact it hasn't happened..... but what has happened? Have you kissed him, have you made out? Have you kissed to the point, you could seduce him. I always love that moment. Have you let your hands wander over his body? We need more information.. LOL

    If you've already made out, but just haven't done the rest, have a conversation and make sure your on the same page.

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    Jan 26, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    uhm,,what's a date?.......................icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 26, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    stilsurchin saiduhm,,what's a date?.......................icon_rolleyes.gif


    that's the spirit :-)