Living the Questions: The E-mail

  • metta

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    Jan 27, 2011 9:09 PM GMT

    Living the Questions: The E-mail

    One of the main reasons why i have been celibate for so long is because I really don't like the idea of taking risks that could give me some disease, especially (but not only) hiv. (Yes, I know what safer sex is.) Going from one guy to another...the risks just add up each time, especially with something like 40% of the people who are HIV+, don't even know that they are. It would be bad enough if I would have ever messed up and contracted it, but the thought of giving it to someone else...I just don't know how I could live with myself. That would totally go against basic core philosophies that I try to live by in doing my best to not harm others. Casual sex is too stressful.
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    Jan 29, 2011 9:14 AM GMT
    I feel the same way you do. I am also celibate now. And life is so much easier without the stress and worry that I used to endure after every time I had casual sex in my younger days. I make it point to remind myself of the torment and anxiety I used to go through every time I got tested for STI's and HIV. After many years of going through that, over and over again, I finally just told myself that I'd had enough. It took me a few months to become totally celibate, but there is no way I'll go back to casual sex or short-term monogamous relationships.
    The only man I will have sex with will have to be my husband, and we will have to use condoms for the first year.

    I am just amazed that you decided on celibacy at such a young age. It took me years to finally realise the advantages of celibacy. Trust me when I say that you are saving yourself from a lot of unnecessary stress and anxiety.

    Keep it up! There must be others out there who think the same. Where are they?