How can i become comfortable with hooking up with guys?

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    Jan 28, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    Okies, so i've just come out of a two year relationship... And i really wanna get out there n move on... N get some experience n stuff, n i always hear about guys hooking up n stuff, however.. it sounds so scary.. some random guy coming into my home, fucking me. then leaving, only to never speak to him again.. how werid? However it sounds soo hot! So i do wanna do this.. just dont know how to become comfortable with it.. any tips or ideas?
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    Jan 28, 2011 3:21 PM GMT

    I would suggest you just do it. You'll never know how it feels until you actually experienced it. It may not be all that you think it is...and never do it again.
    But at least your learned something from the experience.
  • prime02

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    Jan 29, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    Beneim saidOkies, so i've just come out of a two year relationship... And i really wanna get out there n move on... N get some experience n stuff, n i always hear about guys hooking up n stuff, however.. it sounds so scary.. some random guy coming into my home, fucking me. then leaving, only to never speak to him again.. how werid? However it sounds soo hot! So i do wanna do this.. just dont know how to become comfortable with it.. any tips or ideas?


    don't do it. that's how you get STDs. you gonna go on adam4adam or craigslist or something and invite a random person to have sex with you? don't lower your standards to that...
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    Jan 29, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    I agree with prime02. I don't recommend having sex with a random person.

    I can understand that you're feeling lonely/horny. What you could try is find a regular fuck buddy you can trust and even then you should be safe. Maybe you could have your fuck buddy come over on a whim and realize your fantasy (just pretend in your head it's a random guy; i know it might be kinda lame lol).
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    Jan 29, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    I kind of feel this way too. Correct me if I'm wrong but it's like you want the hotness of hooking up without the whole "no strings attached i don't know who you are" sex...

    Still, a good reliable fuckbuddy who I actually LIKE as a person would remedy that. How DO you find one of those?
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    Jan 29, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    prime02 said
    Beneim saidOkies, so i've just come out of a two year relationship... And i really wanna get out there n move on... N get some experience n stuff, n i always hear about guys hooking up n stuff, however.. it sounds so scary.. some random guy coming into my home, fucking me. then leaving, only to never speak to him again.. how werid? However it sounds soo hot! So i do wanna do this.. just dont know how to become comfortable with it.. any tips or ideas?


    don't do it. that's how you get STDs. you gonna go on adam4adam or craigslist or something and invite a random person to have sex with you? don't lower your standards to that...


    Listen to this!
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    Jan 29, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    prime02 said
    Beneim saidOkies, so i've just come out of a two year relationship... And i really wanna get out there n move on... N get some experience n stuff, n i always hear about guys hooking up n stuff, however.. it sounds so scary.. some random guy coming into my home, fucking me. then leaving, only to never speak to him again.. how werid? However it sounds soo hot! So i do wanna do this.. just dont know how to become comfortable with it.. any tips or ideas?


    don't do it. that's how you get STDs. you gonna go on adam4adam or craigslist or something and invite a random person to have sex with you? don't lower your standards to that...


    Actually, you get STDs from having unprotected sex with someone with STDs. If you have unprotected sex with someone who does not have any STDs you probably won't get any STDs. If you have protected sex with someone who has STDs you probably won't get any STDs. And what standards would he be lowering?
  • Anto

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    Jan 29, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    avadakedavra,

    Except with random people you never know, just having close contact can spread a disease that a person may not even know they are carrying. Sometimes people can be infected with no symptoms and still be contagious.
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    Anto saidavadakedavra,

    Except with random people you never know, just having close contact can spread a disease that a person may not even know they are carrying. Sometimes people can be infected with no symptoms and still be contagious.


    ummm name the STDs you can catch just having close contact?
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    You can get STDs and crap like that even if you have protected sex. Warts and the herp only need skin contact and there is definitely ball to ass contact even with a condom. Plus crabs. Just sayin...
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:24 AM GMT
    Yes, you have sex with another man (or woman) and can get STD's
    It's a risk you take, the same risk as driving on I-95 here in FL. You can minimize your risks or you can sit home and jack off to the internet the rest of your life.

    My advice is if you do decide to hook up, don't give out your address on the internet or Grindr. Meet someplace in public first and decide if you are comfortable with going further. Your 'gut' instinct and horniness factor will let you know.

    Play safe and have fun.. Don't live a life of shoulda done that before I died
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidYou can get STDs and crap like that even if you have protected sex. Warts and the herp only need skin contact and there is definitely ball to ass contact even with a condom. Plus crabs. Just sayin...


    Then check their balls to see if there are any lesions. You can't get it by just touching an infected person's skin. Crabs can be killed with shampoo you buy at the supermarket. come on now.
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    KSUOWL saidYou can get STDs and crap like that even if you have protected sex. Warts and the herp only need skin contact and there is definitely ball to ass contact even with a condom. Plus crabs. Just sayin...


    Then check their balls to see if there are any lesions. You can't get it by just touching an infected person's skin. Crabs can be killed with shampoo you buy at the supermarket. come on now.


    I just wanted to make sure the OP doesn't think that condoms 100% protect you. Everyone needs to know the risk before you accept it. Too many people in this thread are saying to go ahead and do it, I wanted to be the other side of the argument.

    And a friend of mine actually got anal warts and he always used a condom. He said he didn't see anything on the guy's junk, but still got them. I just don't think its responsible to act like "go ahead and do it, nothing bad will happen if you use a condom"
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:51 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    Anto saidavadakedavra,

    Except with random people you never know, just having close contact can spread a disease that a person may not even know they are carrying. Sometimes people can be infected with no symptoms and still be contagious.


    ummm name the STDs you can catch just having close contact?


    herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, molluscum...etc etc etc.....but here's the thing....you get those from someone you DO know too....or when you start dating, become boyfriends, whatever.

    Fact is, std's are prevalent, not just hiv which is much much harder to get...so you can either be celibate or accept the risks.

    To the original poster...try it a few times...if you don't like it, don't do it...simple enough. But if this really is something you wanna try than don't regret not doing it later.
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:56 AM GMT
    Moishendlishus said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Anto saidavadakedavra,

    Except with random people you never know, just having close contact can spread a disease that a person may not even know they are carrying. Sometimes people can be infected with no symptoms and still be contagious.


    ummm name the STDs you can catch just having close contact?


    herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, molluscum...etc etc etc.....but here's the thing....you get those from someone you DO know too....or when you start dating, become boyfriends, whatever.

    Fact is, std's are prevalent, not just hiv which is much much harder to get...so you can either be celibate or accept the risks.

    To the original poster...try it a few times...if you don't like it, don't do it...simple enough. But if this really is something you wanna try than don't regret not doing it later.


    I agree! If you are going to have sex protected or unprotected (although I recommend protected), with a random partner or in a monogamous relationship, you have to be willing to accept the risks cause there are always risks. And make sure you are completely ok with it and don't have regrets. And don't go inviting randoms into your house, especially if you share it with roommates or family. And with this, I am out! Goodnight!
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:00 AM GMT
    KSUOWL said
    AvadaKedavra said
    KSUOWL saidYou can get STDs and crap like that even if you have protected sex. Warts and the herp only need skin contact and there is definitely ball to ass contact even with a condom. Plus crabs. Just sayin...


    Then check their balls to see if there are any lesions. You can't get it by just touching an infected person's skin. Crabs can be killed with shampoo you buy at the supermarket. come on now.


    I just wanted to make sure the OP doesn't think that condoms 100% protect you. Everyone needs to know the risk before you accept it. Too many people in this thread are saying to go ahead and do it, I wanted to be the other side of the argument.

    And a friend of mine actually got anal warts and he always used a condom. He said he didn't see anything on the guy's junk, but still got them. I just don't think its responsible to act like "go ahead and do it, nothing bad will happen if you use a condom"


    actually, friendsrbetter is the only person who said go ahead and do it. I didn't even tell him to do go ahead and do it. I didn't even answer his question. I was just toning down all of the scare tatics you guys are using on him(i.e. the guy who said you can get diseases from close contact. like what? the cold? flu? go live in a fucking bubble). Of course there is a risk of getting an STD even with condom use but the only way to eliminate the risk all together is by not having any sex. Lets be practical here. Condoms significantly reduces the risk of STD infections to the point where you do not have to resort to abstinence.
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
    Get your HPV vaccine at least that will protect from 90% of genital warts! icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    Moishendlishus said
    AvadaKedavra said
    Anto saidavadakedavra,

    Except with random people you never know, just having close contact can spread a disease that a person may not even know they are carrying. Sometimes people can be infected with no symptoms and still be contagious.


    ummm name the STDs you can catch just having close contact?


    herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, molluscum...etc etc etc.....but here's the thing....you get those from someone you DO know too....or when you start dating, become boyfriends, whatever.

    Fact is, std's are prevalent, not just hiv which is much much harder to get...so you can either be celibate or accept the risks.

    To the original poster...try it a few times...if you don't like it, don't do it...simple enough. But if this really is something you wanna try than don't regret not doing it later.


    you dont get these through merely close contact. you get them through sex and potentially through kissing. except for maybe molluscum which you can also get from something like an infected towel but nice try trying to take credit for that. remember the guy said "just close contact" and what the hell is etc etc etc, your way of adding weight? Be practical, not paranoid.
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    KSUOWL saidYou can get STDs and crap like that even if you have protected sex. Warts and the herp only need skin contact and there is definitely ball to ass contact even with a condom. Plus crabs. Just sayin...


    Then check their balls to see if there are any lesions. You can't get it by just touching an infected person's skin. Crabs can be killed with shampoo you buy at the supermarket. come on now.


    There can be no visible signs of infection with common diseases like genital warts or herpes and still be contagious.
    Also gay men are at higher risk for certain types of parasites like entameoba histolytica. Most people infected with them don't have any symptoms and are still contagious to others. A person can be a carrier for a long time with no symptoms and then develop an invasion infection later on from it. The infectious cysts are microscopic and can be spread to other people through shared objects, surfaces, or food in the environment if the person is not careful/hygienic, besides through sexual contact.
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:31 AM GMT
    Anto said
    AvadaKedavra said
    KSUOWL saidYou can get STDs and crap like that even if you have protected sex. Warts and the herp only need skin contact and there is definitely ball to ass contact even with a condom. Plus crabs. Just sayin...


    Then check their balls to see if there are any lesions. You can't get it by just touching an infected person's skin. Crabs can be killed with shampoo you buy at the supermarket. come on now.


    There can be no visible signs of infection with common diseases like genital warts or herpes and still be contagious.
    Also gay men are at higher risk for certain types of parasites like entameoba histolytica. Most people infected with them don't have any symptoms and are still contagious to others. A person can be a carrier for a long time with no symptoms and then develop an invasion infection later on from it. The infectious cysts are microscopic and can be spread to other people through shared objects, surfaces, or food in the environment if the person is not careful/hygienic, besides through sexual contact.


    Ok buddy, you're reaching a little too far there, entameoba histolytica? I googled it: Amebiasis is a disease caused by the parasite Entamoeba histolytica. It can affect anyone, although it is more common in people who live in tropical areas with poor sanitary conditions.

    Yeah, he should totally be concerned with that. Thats not even borderline cautious, that is straight up paranoia.
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    If you want hook with someone go and do it. Why not? Sex is natural and fun. I've had lots of good times with guys I met off the internet or in saunas. And I've never caught anything, I use condoms and get myself checked out every six months or so. (and i'm quite old and have been doing it for a long time).

    If you don't try it you'll never know. I would suggest going to a bathhouse/sauna rather than meeting someone off the internet. They're more fun and you have more choice of men.

    Take sensible precautions like use condoms if you're going to do anal, don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with and remember you can always walk out of something if you don't like it.
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    Jan 29, 2011 8:03 AM GMT
    plain and simple

    some people r relationship only types

    some are hookup only types

    and some can easily balance both.

    I'm thinking you're the relationship type only

    embrace it
  • helios01

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    Jan 29, 2011 8:31 AM GMT
    if it doesnt feel right dont force it... i tried it after my ex dumped me.... i couldnt do it.... i ended up talkin to the guy for 3 hrs about my made up job as a med assitant... then pretending i got a text frm my brother that he needed help with hoemwork..... sigh.... ur cute u can find sum1 one to role play it with u icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 29, 2011 8:53 AM GMT
    Beneim said however.. it sounds so scary.. some random guy coming into my home, fucking me. then leaving, only to never speak to him again.. how werid? However it sounds soo hot!


    There is a certain, self-aware yet self-deprecating irony amidst the flotsam of grammar in your post. Almost as if you are about to embrace a moment of integral clarity, only to be sidetracked by LOLZ YEAH SEXZ!

    Oh the human comedy.
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    Jan 29, 2011 9:26 AM GMT
    WHO WANTS TO E-MAIL ME THEIR PENIS PICTURES?!?!
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