I want to be versatile. I need serious/truthful advice on how to go from 100% top to 50% top and 50% bottom; fully enjoying bottoming and not feel inadequate.

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    Jan 28, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    I've been a top for decades and recently want to fully experience the utter joy I see bottoms feel from reading stories or watching porn. I heard it's the absolute best feeling a man can feel (when not topping) but i'm very ignorant to it. I have tried it in the past but often feel too tense to enjoy it and often wonder if i'm anatomically NOT built to enjoy it. How does one learn to truly bottom in such a way as to undoubtedly feel ultimate pleasure? I'm very serious and want only serious replies. How does a top ( me ) get over the feeling of feeling unmasculine when i've watch some of the butchest, most muscular men...bottom and make it look strong and sexy...I want that. And again i'm serious. I want to be fully versatile. I've tried some toys but still can't make myself cum from them. What am i doing wrong? Am I just not cut out to a bottom?
  • rnch

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    Jan 28, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    the same way as one gets to carnegie hall:

    "PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!!"

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    *be advised that not all gay men experience the joys of bttming as much as others do.
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    Jan 28, 2011 8:21 PM GMT
    Find a top who knows what to do icon_wink.gif

    I just found one and he made the transition very easy for me. Unlike you, I went from 100% top to 100% bottom.
    I like both but I'll stick to bottoming, this guy really knows what he's doing.

    I felt no pain at all.

    So you just need your man to know how to make you open up for him icon_biggrin.gif

    And being a bottom doesn't make you unmasculine at all. I'm as masculine as I was before icon_wink.gif
  • rnch

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    Jan 28, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    BuckYou saidFind a top who knows what to do icon_wink.gif



    yup!

    i did.

    i waited a LONNGGGGG time to loose "my pearl of great price" (snarf/chuckle/smirk) to the "right" guy.

    glad that i did. i was a unforgetable/night/early morning event.

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    Jan 28, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    BuckYou is right, find a guy who knows how to do it properly.

    BUT, failing that, make him rim you until you feel awesome, find a comfortable position that doesn't require you to use any lower muscles to carry any weight (it'll help you relax) so, laying down sometimes a pillow under your hips will help too.

    use lots of lube and remember to breath.

    Failing that.

    Get drunk!
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    Jan 28, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidBuckYou is right, find a guy who knows how to do it properly.

    BUT, failing that, make him rim you until you feel awesome, find a comfortable position that doesn't require you to use any lower muscles to carry any weight (it'll help you relax) so, laying down sometimes a pillow under your hips will help too.

    use lots of lube and remember to breath.

    Failing that.

    Get drunk!


    Yes. But an experienced top makes all the money. Today, for example, we didn't use lube icon_wink.gif

    I wish you luck Royken73. Bottoming is so awesome, I'm happy I've experienced this side too icon_biggrin.gif

    It is also important to start bottoming for a guy with a small or medium penis
  • jgymnast733

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    Jan 28, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    I wouldnt do the dildo thing though, you need that body weight slammin up against and in your buns.... Try bottoming with a small [penis] top.. then graduate to something a little bigger and so on...
    Good Luck...
  • my8kitso

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    Jan 31, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    I know exactly what you mean. I was a total top but I always wondered what I was missing out on. I know guys love it when I fuck them, so I wanted to figure out how to enjoy it, so I wasn't missing out on 1/2 the fun. I'm currently about 80% top. I made a video on xtube to help you learn how to enjoy anal stimulation.
    Ass Play 101 - How to take a dick up your ass AND enjoy it.
    http://www.xtube.com/play_re.php?v=DqtMu-G540-&c=myv&page=1
    Hope it can help you.
    Hugs!
    Pete
  • rnch

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    Jan 31, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said...I would like to try topping a guy with while I "don" this little apparatus. I bet it will be fun. icon_smile.gif



    if you are ever in New Orleans.... icon_wink.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jan 31, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    Practice, practice, practice! And enjoy the ride! icon_twisted.gif
  • rnch

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    Jan 31, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMy my...an open invitation. icon_razz.gificon_razz.gif



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  • fitdude62

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    Jan 31, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    my8kitso saidI know exactly what you mean. I was a total top but I always wondered what I was missing out on. I know guys love it when I fuck them, so I wanted to figure out how to enjoy it, so I wasn't missing out on 1/2 the fun. I'm currently about 80% top. I made a video on xtube to help you learn how to enjoy anal stimulation.
    Ass Play 101 - How to take a dick up your ass AND enjoy it.
    http://www.xtube.com/play_re.php?v=DqtMu-G540-&c=myv&page=1
    Hope it can help you.
    Hugs!
    Pete


    Very interesting and informative. Great for someone just starting out.
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    Jan 31, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    I think a lot of it's psychological. I think, for me, it's akin to turning my body over to someone I trust for their pleasure (and mine). There is an intimacy that you get with a guy from bottoming that I have found no where else.

    With the right guy it is awesome.

    It's something that so called str8 guys will never truly understand about the full intimate relationship two men can have.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 31, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    moscowmikey saidI think a lot of it's psychological. I think, for me, it's akin to turning my body over to someone I trust for their pleasure (and mine). There is an intimacy that you get with a guy from bottoming that I have found no where else.

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    Very true... part of it is trusting that the other guy has the same appreciation for you as you do him....