Getting back together?

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    Jan 28, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
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    Jan 29, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    No.

    *Edit: I mean no as in it's never better. If you break a vase you can glue it back together but it's never as sturdy and you can still see the cracks.
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    Jan 29, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    No.

    I ended up finding someone else who pleases me. icon_smile.gif

    Best,
    Mike
  • mybud

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    Jan 29, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    Dude...sometimes separation forces growth...your insights change...he may find out that things were so much better with you in his life...But until that happens...grow without him...be open to new relationships...hobbies and passions...Don't stop your life for mights.....BUD
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    Jan 29, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    No. Once I'm broken up, I'm done.
    I can still remain friends with my exes. I can still appreciate the great qualities that first drew me towards the man.
    The relationship part of my brain gets switched off and I just don't see the guy in the same light anymore.
    There was one guy who I still fooled around with after our relationship was over. Every time we did, I'd think, "Wow our chemistry is intense" and "There is no way that we'd ever start dating again."

    I think most people would have a hard time of making it work the second time around. It's human nature to fall back into old patterns, including whatever it was that caused you two to break up in the first place.
    Unless one or both of you work on those issues how do you expect things to turn out any differently?
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    Jan 29, 2011 3:53 AM GMT
    Yes. I’m my previous and first serious relationship we broke up 3 times. Similarly, like you after the final breakup we both discussed the hope of getting back together in the future because it was so hard to let go. After a couple of weeks my attitudes and perceptions on what transpired changed and I was happy the relationship was over. I started to see personal growth, I saw strength I didn't know I had, and I reconnected with myself leaving me to see that the relationship in which we both tried so hard to make "work" just wasn't meant to be.

    In my experience, after we reunited it was never the same. We were only successful at prolonging the inevitable, because no matter how hard you try you just can't fit a square into a circle.
  • prime02

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    Jan 29, 2011 3:57 AM GMT
    no. sounds like he's just not into it or just wants his freedom to sleep with whoever he wants

    may be the case of "he's just not that into you"
  • needleninja

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    Jan 29, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    hmmm lets see, i got back twice with two exs, and then it failed again, talk about getting back never.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 29, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    Never worked for me...something just was not there anymore icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 29, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    if its meant to be itll happen later on in life, unlikely, but who knows, my ex and i left it at "maybe one day" held on to that hope for like 2 months.. and learned. lol.
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    My ex wants me back badly. Even though I know he's desperate for it... I know things haven't actually changed.

    I may want someone to sleep next to, cuddle with and love... but I don't want something that didn't work out for specific reasons in the first place.
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    Jan 29, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    That's why they are called 'exes' Learn and move on

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  • cityguy39

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    Jan 29, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
    My last BF and current ex, broke up and got back together 3 times. This last and final breakup we both finally got that we were just not the right guys for eachother.
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
    No

    No...

    and No
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    Jan 29, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    It makes me sad when people aren't open to the "mights" in life.... not to say they always work out.
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    Jan 29, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
    theeticketmaster saidRecently my b/f just broke up with me and mentioned that if things worked out we might see each other again someday. I have learned I can't hold onto that hope, but wondered how often it is true...

    Has anyone broke up with someone before and gotten back together to find out things were better?

    In my case I'm not sure that it will ever happen b/c of things we both said to each other after it ended. Just curious...


    If you still have feeling for each other, getting back together is still possible no matter what things you have said.

    If I'd love somebody, I would forget about what he said because he was probably mad that time knowing that everything might fall apart.
  • liljay

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    Mar 25, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    visualrevenge saidIt makes me sad when people aren't open to the "mights" in life.... not to say they always work out.

    agree! never say never, whatu thought when you are 3 years old wouldn't be the same when you are 13. so i totally agree that we should open to the mights
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    Mar 25, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    as a general rule, no. even if you do, it's not the same. which doesn't mean it can't be good, just that you won't be starting with a fresh slate, even if you let the past be the past.

    a similar situation is if you have a friend who is very slutty for a long time, and then changes, and later wants to seriously date you. you can do it, and they may have changed, but you'll never NOT know firsthand what they were like when they were getting nailed by a new guy each day. and you have to live with that (or not)
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 25, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    no when i am done. i am done.