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    Jan 29, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    I don't agree with your reasoning, but I kind of feel the same way about dating younger.

    I want someone more mature and who has a real base of friends around them that I can click with. Not a high schooler all about the drama.

    Nothing wrong with dating younger though. I don't mind good looking twenty five year olds or more hitting on me. icon_razz.gif

    P.S. An oild up 18 year old is still legal. Jus' sayin'. lmao.
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    Jan 29, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    It's not uncommon to think about the younger generation like that. Don't beat yourself up about it, it's just a preference, probably rooted in experience.

    how about 23yr olds? ;0
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    Jan 30, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    You are allowed to have your preferences and you DO NOT have to explain them to anyone. They are what they are and you are entitled to them. NO APOLOGIES REQUIRED!

    Settled.

  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 30, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    I believe that when you limit yourself to a certain age range that you miss out on meeting a lot of nice people. Most of my boyfriends have been much younger than myself icon_wink.gif
  • needleninja

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    Jan 30, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    im looking for people around my age, though the way i have it set now, i may want to go up to about 26-28
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    Jan 30, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    Age doesn't always match maturity. Some days I feel 25, but I'll be overlooked because I'm 'young'.

    Although about 18-19, I generally feel they lack the life experience and maturity that I seek in potential friends and lovers. I'm pleasantly surprised when it's not the case though.
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    Jan 30, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    kangourou saidAge doesn't always match maturity. Some days I feel 25, but I'll be overlooked because I'm 'young'.

    Although about 18-19, I generally feel they lack the life experience and maturity that I seek in potential friends and lovers. I'm pleasantly surprised when it's not the case though.


    agreed, ive had many people tell me i act more mature for my age.
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    Jan 30, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    PursueLoveDream saidMy friend Kyra set me up on a couple dates and she hooked me up with a 18 and 20 year old and I was like telling her, I don't wanna date a young person because I feel like they make mistakes too easily.. in general

    and i was wondering if anyone thinks like that or if they think im being rude

    cause i like guys in their mid 20's and older 20's and i'm game with that but not with an 18 year old. what u think?



    if you do not want to date someone in that age range, why do you agree to go on the dates when you know their ages? aren't you just creating unnecessary suffering for yourself?

    if you don't want to date that age range, then don't. why is this complicated?
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    Jan 30, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    I feel the same way. I really don't want to date anyone under 26-27.
  • TrentGrad

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    Jan 30, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    PursueLoveDream saidMy friend Kyra set me up on a couple dates and she hooked me up with a 18 and 20 year old and I was like telling her, I don't wanna date a young person because I feel like they make mistakes too easily.. in general

    and i was wondering if anyone thinks like that or if they think im being rude

    cause i like guys in their mid 20's and older 20's and i'm game with that but not with an 18 year old. what u think?


    I don't think you're being rude...but I don't quite understand what you mean when you say you "feel like they make mistakes too easily." Age is no insulation for mistakes: we make them when we're 18, and we make 'em when we're 80!

    Seeing as how you're 21 years old, you should be able to imagine that there are likely some 18-20 year olds that may well take things as seriously as you do.

    I don't really care for the idea of dating an 18-20 year old myself...but the difference between you and I is, I'm 36. I don't have a whole lot in common with an 18 year old.

    You, on the other hand, likely will have as much in common with an 18-20 year old as you will with someone who is 25-29. I think you're well off if you think someone 25-29 doesn't make many mistakes...indeed, I'd venture to say that finding a truly mature and grounded 18-29 year old gay man is an anomaly. They're out there...but they certainly are in the minority.

    Before anyone picks up on this as hating on young guys, chill! I'm not hating on 18-29 year olds at all...I'm just expressing an opinion that men 18-29 often (but not always) have a charming idealism about them which is very natural. How did that Sex and the City saying go...your 20's are about having fun, your 30's are about learning your lessons, and your 40's are about paying for the drinks...or something like that. LOL
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    Jan 30, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    Being 18, I agree that a lot of people our age are extremely immature both mentally and emotionally. There are very few 18-19 year olds with stable careers, relationship experience (and by that I mean an actual relationship, not a high school/college fling), or any type of goals for the future.

    That being said, some younger people are very mature for their age and are capable of handling serious relationships with someone a few years older than them (or quite a few years older depending on the circumstance).

    I for one have already done the whole "I just want to live life and party" thing. I've experienced different people just for the hell of it. I still like to party and hook up once in a while, but I'm hardly on the same level as the average college student. I grew up very fast, as do a lot of people.

    Basically what I'm saying is there's no harm in getting to know a younger person and maybe going on a date with them. If you find that you like them and they like you in turn, then great. If you don't like them, then you don't have to be with them, it's not that big of a deal. But there's no harm in giving them a chance.
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    Jan 30, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    Judging by the way you type you arent much better than an 18 or 20 y/o.
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    Jan 30, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    PursueLoveDream saidMy friend Kyra set me up on a couple dates and she hooked me up with a 18 and 20 year old and I was like telling her, I don't wanna date a young person because I feel like they make mistakes too easily.. in general

    and i was wondering if anyone thinks like that or if they think im being rude

    cause i like guys in their mid 20's and older 20's and i'm game with that but not with an 18 year old. what u think?
    I think you're absolutely right...but extend the 20 to around 25 and include yourself. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 30, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    ur allowed to set ur own standards, I'm 23 and i will not date any one under 21 mostly because i dont want to feel responsible for them. i feel that 21 yr olds can hold their own
  • matt13226

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    Jan 30, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    i just want to say as a 21yo that some of us do like you older men and some of us like men our own age me personally i find myself attracted to guys in their 30's but yet i tend to date guys my own age due to the fact that i relate to them more so to answer your question i think you should date the 20 yo but not the 18yo. BTW at least you can get a date or a friend can hook you up with one.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 30, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    yeah, like, dude, I'm in my 50's and I date guys in their 20's. What's 3 years? You're still both wet behind the ears from birth.
  • trl_

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    Jan 30, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    My first date was with a kid who I thought was 18 and I was 20. I thought "Okay that's sort of not what I had in mind, but I'll go with it."

    After I got to know him more I found out he was actually 16, not 18. icon_surprised.gif

    He definitely fooled me with his maturity level. He did/does not act, dress, or talk like someone his age so it was actually something that challenged my view of age as a dating factor, because I liked him despite the fact that he was basically a kid.

    ...Just my two cents
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    Jan 30, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    My 3 sons are16, 19 and 26.....in the past several years, I have dated 3 guys that were 22, 24, and 25, respectively. The sex was good, but our relationships were based on shaky ground.....we didn't even like the same music or movies.....I was trying to see how this worked for me and found it doesn't. I have found that I am better matched to guys that are in their 30's to 40's. The commonality of experiences and stages of life, some education and attitudes....nothing against you young guys, but my preference is for 30-something to 40-something guys. Young guys got all that amazing energy,but no focus and no experience to direct their focus....so I like an older guy...icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 30, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    age is nothing but a number.
    maturity (and spontaneity) are the only solid requirements for me.
  • Jericophantom...

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    Jan 30, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidDang, just looked at the OP's profile and discovered that he is only twenty-one. Dating someone at eighteen is a problem? That is only three years difference for you.


    I'm 19 and a single instantance at a young age I had to grow up I still make mistakes but I'm not a walking mess and personally if you feel the way you do you should make a comfort range example for me I go 11 years forward and 2 years back think about and its worked out for me cause I'm dating a 22 y/o man whose stolen my heart and has kept it sense
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    Jan 30, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    closer85 saidage is nothing but a number.
    maturity (and spontaneity) are the only solid requirements for me.


    I agree with this guy to
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    Jan 30, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    For me...i agree, i will love to date someone of my age or older. But not more than 7 years of difference....icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 30, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    kangourou saidAge doesn't always match maturity. Some days I feel 25, but I'll be overlooked because I'm 'young'.

    Although about 18-19, I generally feel they lack the life experience and maturity that I seek in potential friends and lovers. I'm pleasantly surprised when it's not the case though.
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    Jan 30, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    closer85 saidage is nothing but a number.
    maturity (and spontaneity) are the only solid requirements for me.


    I agree.


    Sometimes younger guys tend to be more immature... But different people are different people...

    I dated a 21 year old... Thought he was mature, and all that until it was game time and he flaked... Didn't think he would do that to me... But whatever...