Gay Marine’s husband surprised at respect shown by Naval Academy

  • metta

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    Jan 30, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    Gay Marine’s husband surprised at respect shown by Naval Academy

    "A marriage certificate was the key..."
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    The memorial coordinator asked about his relationship to the deceased. Ketterson said that John Fliszar was his husband.

    “They were always polite, but there was this moment of hesitation,” Ketterson recalled. “They said they’re going to need something in writing from a blood relative. They asked, ‘Are you listed on the death certificate?’ ‘Do you have a marriage license?’ ”

    He was and they did, the couple having been married in Des Moines when gay marriage became legal in Iowa two years ago.

    Ketterson sent a copy of the marriage license. That changed everything.

    “I was respected,” he said. “From that moment on, I was next of kin. They were amazing.”
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    http://www.suntimes.com/3526027-417/ketterson-academy-naval-usna-husband.html
  • coolarmydude

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    Jan 30, 2011 7:32 AM GMT
    “They did the standard military funeral, a wonderful service,” said Ketterson. “Since I was the designated next of kin, they were going to present the flag to me, but I deferred to his mom. She gave it to me.”
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    Jan 30, 2011 9:01 AM GMT
    Very cool news to hear
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    Jan 30, 2011 10:02 AM GMT
    Nice story.
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    Jan 30, 2011 11:13 AM GMT
    This is why I believe gay marriage is needed. People--though it should not matter--look at us differently when they see we are treated equally in the eye of the law.
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    Jan 30, 2011 11:24 AM GMT
    ....with liberty and justice for ALL!
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    Jan 30, 2011 12:03 PM GMT
    Maybe...just, maybe in my life time.
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    Jan 30, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    Great story, thanks for posting it. Be sure John McCain gets a copy!!
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    Jan 30, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    Thank you so much for posting that story!
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    Jan 30, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    60isthenew40 saidGreat story, thanks for posting it. Be sure John McCain gets a copy!!
    Better yet.. shove a copy right up his ass!
  • monet

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    Jan 30, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidThis is why I believe gay marriage is needed. People--though it should not matter--look at us differently when they see we are treated equally in the eye of the law.


    So true. Think of the rights and respect that a married straight couple receive as opposed to a straight couple who are "living in sin". Without legal marriage gay couples can never progress from "living in sin" to "legally married".
  • OutdoorsJock

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    Jan 30, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
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    John "Rip" Fliszar was quite a stud in his time. He played four years on the Naval Academy Football team, was commissioned as Second Lieutenant in the US Marine Corps, and after flight training in Pensacola, Florida, he was stationed in the Western Pacific at the end of the Vietnam War. His bio/obit is posted at http://usnaout.org/rip-fliszar

    As far as we (the gay alumni of USNA) know, his is the first known openly gay funeral and internment at the US Naval Academy.

    There is more to Mark Ketterson's reaction on the USNA Out site at http://usnaout.org/1101fliszar

    What is sad to us Alumni (as also stated by Mark in his note to us) is that we never had the opportunity to meet RIp.
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    Aug 18, 2013 9:06 AM GMT
    Wow I wish the military was like this more. Accepting tugged at my heart string when the mother gave the flag back to him.