People you see that make you SO ANGRY, but at the same time, are also attractive.

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    Jan 30, 2011 10:06 AM GMT
    So there's this one guy on my college campus I see from time to time. We'll call him...Garrett. Openly gay man on campus, seems rather popular, but from my meeting him, seemed very dislike-able. He seemed to not like me for whatever reason, even as just a mere acquaintance. But another guy I was crushing on, who eventually got into a relationship with Garrett (though they've since broken up), testified that he was truly a sweet and nice guy.

    Garrett's sheer existence just makes me soooooo fucking angry!!! My blood boils with the heat of my rage at the mere thought that he lurks around on campus. I went tonight to a drag show and had a good time, but I saw him there, wearing a tank top like it wasn't even winter. And it made me even angrier!!! It made him look like such a douchebag! Seeing him makes me feel like all that effort, all that exercise and trying to eat right and losing the 55 pounds meant absolutely nothing, because there he'll be, ready to plunder the spotlight and any guys I might be interested in away from me! Even now, in my frustration, I'm digging away little by little at some light neapolitan ice cream!

    But yet...at the same time...I'm attracted to him. Yes, the tank top looked sooooo fucking douche-y, but he could pull it off, he looked like a hot douche. And maybe he really is a sweet guy, but I just can't get myself to approach him and actually get to really know him.

    Anyone else have someone like this that they know?
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    Jan 30, 2011 10:27 AM GMT
    Deep down inside, you know you want it, so just fuck him already.
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    Jan 30, 2011 10:41 AM GMT
    Sounds like a severe case of insecurity + jealousy.
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    Jan 30, 2011 10:51 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidSounds like a severe case of insecurity + jealousy.


    I am NOT jealous of him. I just don't like him, he seems like a total jerkoff!
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    Jan 30, 2011 10:54 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 said
    paulflexes saidSounds like a severe case of insecurity + jealousy.


    I am NOT jealous of him. I just don't like him, he seems like a total jerkoff!
    Jealousy can be subconscious.
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    Jan 30, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    Bad boys always gey yum-yum!
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    Jan 30, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    This is what came to mind from your post:

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    Jan 30, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    Many times what we dislike in another person ...is the exact thing inside of US we have to work on.

    Thin line between love and hate. Go up to him, tell him you despise him but want to fuck him. Can't be any worse off than you are now...
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 30, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    No I don't have anybody that I think or feel about in that way.

    But when I was 22 years old, I'm sure I resented a few guys who I felt had something I didn't....but not very many. I was pretty lucky when I was 22 and I knew it.

    I think you would better be served on remembering the things about yourself that are really awesome and not sizing yourself up with someone that you resent. What bothers me is the angst you seem to hold this dude.. the anger you seem to have. Think about why you feel that way and get it in check..... if he had treated you in a rude or inappropriate way, I could understand your dislike of him, but to have these feelings based on perceptions .. its more your issue. Work through it...
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    Jan 30, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSometimes I walk into a room and upon first seeing me men do not like me for whatever reason and they make it a point to make it obvious. I never understood that about people. The interesting dynamic is that people who do this have no idea what type of person I am. Then when they learn about me they usually warm up. But because of their first reaction toward me (which I think was childish and uncalled for) I tend to not like them.


    I couldn't have said it better. Plus you cant judge someone off one meeting, apparently most people think i'm a cunt or that i'm intimidating when i first meet people but thats cause i'm stand offish at first, trying to figure out if its worth actually engaging the person i'm meeting in a real conversation. Regardless, this sounds like a classic case of someone who got shot down and is frustrated so its manifesting in your anger. Another thing, we may all be gay, but it doesn't mean we will all get along, or need to all be friends. I hate going to parties and having people casually introduce me to "another gay" that i have nothing in common with, thus conversation is normally laboured and awkward. People may want to believe that all humans can get along and live in harmony, but the truth is not so.
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    Jan 30, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    Soyfan saidThis is what came to mind from your post:



    oh my god yes Hey Arnold so yes
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    Jan 30, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Szchatt89 said[/cite] Seeing him makes me feel like all that effort, all that exercise and trying to eat right and losing the 55 pounds meant absolutely nothing, because there he'll be, ready to plunder the spotlight and any guys I might be interested in away from me! /quote]

    Yeah, You might not realise it, but saying this statement, shows the level of jealousy you are experiencing and trying to deny.

    I think you should force yourself to get to know him. From what you've said sounds like he's a nice guy, and the only thing you dont like about him is that he's popular.
    To convince me otherwise, youd' hvae to come up with something more solid than dressing inappropriately for the weather...
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    Jan 30, 2011 7:19 PM GMT
    You need to learn that self worth comes from within, and you don't need validation from a douche.
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    Jan 30, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    Oops, forgot to add this... and HE needs to learn that he can be friends with, or at least friendly to, people he may not want to have sex with.

    He's an A-lister, and will probably be walking around circuit parties when he's 50 and on dialysis from years of steroid abuse.
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    look at all the hate and abuse I receive here because I may seem to see things differently to another and they feel because of their issues it gives them the right to hate on me, just too make themselves feel better, and ignoring the fact, it is they in fact the ones with the issues, and anger management issues too.

    Oh they are full of hate for me, not my problem it's theirs and they need to own it as you do, then deal with it too.
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    It's called the "Matthew Mcconaughey Effect" I'm pretty sure...
  • mybud

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    Jan 30, 2011 8:19 PM GMT
    Some of it is jealous...some is lust...but at the end of the day you're goin through these emotions while he lives his life without givin you another thought...Whose livin a more full filling life...????? BUD
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:21 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Szchatt89 said
    paulflexes saidSounds like a severe case of insecurity + jealousy.


    I am NOT jealous of him. I just don't like him, he seems like a total jerkoff!
    Jealousy can be subconscious.


    ++++1
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do.
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    So, what does it say about some of the guys here who dislike JakeBenson and FeartheFall? They both piss alot of you off!
    Y'all gotta admit, they're very goodlooking. MMM!!! icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    theres this guy on this website who has the username of CaliBoySwag who is such an asshole. like i swear i borderline hate him just from the things he's posted. he is really crude and rude with what he says sometimes, but he is really attractive and as much as i hate to admit this i sometimes agree with his posts as raw as they maybe. he is hot and i hate myself for finding him attractive. haha i hope he doesn't read this. lol
  • mybud

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    Jan 30, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    I laugh at the guys that somehow feel guilty about crushing on an asshole...Welcome to the gay lifestyle...a lot of decent ...sweet..guys can't get laid cause most are attracted to superficial...assholes...Some guys feel that if they're not treated badly....if they don't do the chasing...they're not worth it....Tell ya what....if your attracted by these fuckers...do some esteem work on yourselves...In the mean while I'll stick to the sweet guys who got their shit together.....BUD says bye-bye
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    Jan 30, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidlike a hot douche.


    Hot douches are the worst! As if that area wasn't sensitive enough as it is- the last you want is to be scalded down there.

    Stay away.

    Far away.
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    Jan 30, 2011 9:15 PM GMT
    mybud saidI laugh at the guys that somehow feel guilty about crushing on an asshole...Welcome to the gay lifestyle...a lot of decent ...sweet..guys can't get laid cause most are attracted to superficial...assholes...Some guys feel that if they're not treated badly....if they don't do the chasing...they're not worth it....Tell ya what....if your attracted by these fuckers...do some esteem work on yourselves...In the mean while I'll stick to the sweet guys who got their shit together.....BUD says bye-bye

    so i take it your the superficial asshole? well i hope no sweet guy is going after you, well not after reading this i hope.
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    Jan 30, 2011 9:15 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidSounds like you have a lot of growing up to do.


    Hit the nail on the head.