Married hottie at the gym

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    Jan 31, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    Alright so I go to the gym every weekday around noon. And every once and a while there has been this guy there. He is absolutely hot and fit. Anyways, I usually just pay attention to my workouts, but today me and this guy had several "moments". You know, the awkwardly long eye contact, catching him in the mirror watching me as I lift, also saw in the mirror that after we walked passed each other, he did a turn around to catch a glimpse of me from the back. All of these could be considered "he's gay" signs.

    Now I will first say that I don't hook up. So Fearthefall, I am not cruising and therefore, not losing. I essentially wanted to strike up a conversation with him when we were working out next to each other and see where it goes. And if it goes well, maybe suggest we get a drink sometime. That does not equal cruising btw. Gay men don't have to meet at a club or online, they can meet in everyday places as well.

    So I see my opportunity to strike up a conversation since we were on the benches next to one another and both in between sets. Right before I do, I notice it..the international symbol that he is unavailable: a wedding ring. Now either my gaydar sucks ass, he is one of the weird straight guys that makes long eye contact with other guys and looks at their asses (do those exist?), or he is married but was checking me out. Either way, all of those are a no-go for me. Even if he was interested, he is married and I could never hurt his wife, parner, whatever...I am just not that type of guy.

    So that was my rant, has anyone else come across this situation before? What do you think, was I just looking too hard into what I thought were signs like a lot of gay guys tend to do??
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    Jan 31, 2011 7:20 PM GMT
    Touch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.
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    Jan 31, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidTouch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.


    Why am I not surprised that you would say such thing icon_rolleyes.gif


    Honestly I think he's probably looking at your technique and not giving you the oggling eyes...

    I usually do that to the guys a my gym who seem to do something which is interesting. Usually its a bonus that he would be good looking.

    In any case just strike up a convo akin to personal fitness.Just say that you admire something that he does plus u can ask him to show u as well.

    I'm sure he'd be happy to oblige.....

    Oh and wedding rings don't really have to be for straight people anymore....But the fact is that HE is married and YOU should make him off limits other than friendship.
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    Jan 31, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
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    JAKEBENSON saidTouch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.


    Why am I not surprised that you would say such thing icon_rolleyes.gif


    Honestly I think he's probably looking at your technique and not giving you the oggling eyes...

    I usually do that to the guys a my gym who seem to do something which is interesting. Usually its a bonus that he would be good looking.

    In any case just strike up a convo akin to personal fitness.Just say that you admire something that he does plus u can ask him to show u as well.

    I'm sure he'd be happy to oblige.....

    Oh and wedding rings don't really have to be for straight people anymore....But the fact is that HE is married and YOU should make him off limits other than friendship.


    Yeah that is definitely possible. But this guy's body is banging. He is way bigger and more experienced than I am, so I should be the one looking at his technique. Maybe I was doing something way wrong and he was thinking "wtf is he doing?!" Haha that might have been true a year ago, but I have gotten my form and everything down pat. Plus most of our eye contact was when neither of us were doing anything. I don't know. Just such a shame because he is so damn hot and I was getting excited at what I thought was our "chemistry"

    Oh and I know he could be gay with the wedding ring, that is why I mentioned his wife, partner or whatever in the end of my post. Plus, he is for sure off limits to me. I would never be with anyone who has a wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever. That is why I decided not to talk to him.
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    Jan 31, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidTouch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.


    I guess I have been doing this all wrong. I thought it was touch his penis and see if he gives you his SSN icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 31, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    Sounds like a 'str8' guy who is married but has a wondering eye, and an all too familiar secret desire to test out gay bum-fun (whether he would actually act on this is a totally different matter).

    The most you could probably have here is a one-off hook-up with him, after which he would avoid you at all costs, ignore your existance, you were only an experiemental fantasy, not his 'real-life'. Or you could just talk to him and start a new possible friendship and pine for him in secret ;p.

    Sounds like you wanted to see if there was a possibility for something more than that. I wouldn't get my hopes up, he is unavailable. Truly.
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    Jan 31, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    Reach over and start groping his biceps. If he returns the favor, he's yours. If not, keep groping till you bust a nut, then thank him for his time. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 31, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    KSUOWL saidThat is why I decided not to talk to him.

    Is there something that prohibits you from being friends with the guy?
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    Jan 31, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
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    KSUOWL saidThat is why I decided not to talk to him.

    Is there something that prohibits you from being friends with the guy?


    No, not at all. 99% of my friends are straight. Basically I didn't talk to him because I planned it to be sort of flirty and hopefully for a dating motive, but when that went out the window, I was just like "crap" so I didn't say anything. I will probably speak to him in the future if I get the opportunity, but just to be friendly.
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    Jan 31, 2011 11:52 PM GMT
    If he is next to you working out, just ask, "how's your workout going today?"... and see what he says. That always works for me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 31, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    _Sage_ saidOr you could just talk to him and start a new possible friendship and pine for him in secret


    Oh no, I did that once when I was buried in the closet and we became best friends. But the crush never went away and there was no chance of something more. Not a good situation AT ALL!
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    Feb 01, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidReach over and start groping his biceps. If he returns the favor, he's yours. If not, keep groping till you bust a nut, then thank him for his time. icon_twisted.gif


    You know, I am going to start living my life WWPD. What Would Paul Do? icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 01, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    Ok. Here's what you do. Get some paper mâché, some vinegar and some baking soda. Make a volcano out of the paper mâché. Mix the vinegar and the baking soda in the volcano. If he is too busy sucking a guy's dick to notice the volcano, he's gay.

  • Feb 02, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    you are better off not getting involved. even if he is sexxy and staring at your sweaty ass
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    Feb 02, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
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    KSUOWL said So Fearthefall, I am not cruising and therefore, not losing. I essentially wanted to strike up a conversation with him when we were working out next to each other and see where it goes. And if it goes well, maybe suggest we get a drink sometime.

    You drink brews, you lose.

    You Sin You Win!
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    Feb 02, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidTouch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.


    Jake. Whore!



    Why is he wearing a ring while working out? Doesn't it make it a bit uncomfortable? Why don't you ask him that.
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    Feb 02, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    I would say just enjoy the show at the gym. You don't need to be messing with that, and as you say, you don't want to. icon_smile.gif Eye candy is eye candy.
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    Feb 02, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidTouch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.

    i envisioned him touching the inside of his penis.........painful icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 02, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    jimib saidOk. Here's what you do. Get some paper mâché, some vinegar and some baking soda. Make a volcano out of the paper mâché. Mix the vinegar and the baking soda in the volcano. If he is too busy sucking a guy's dick to notice the volcano, he's gay.


    Dude, you forgot the food colouring. Otherwise, that was priceless icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 02, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidReach over and start groping his biceps. If he returns the favor, he's yours. If not, keep groping till you bust a nut, then thank him for his time. icon_twisted.gif


    Why am I not surprised that's your answer paul icon_biggrin.gif
  • needleninja

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    Feb 02, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    yeah your gaydar probibly does suck ass.

    from what ive observed when im in the gym is that guys just generally look to see what your doing. But never have i seen a guy eye me in such a way, and trust me i have pretty good gaydar.

    however if there was by any chance a guy who was eyeballing me for the whole time in the gym, then i would be like icon_eek.gif.

    it would be nice though to hook up with someone at the gym.

    good luck :3

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    Feb 02, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    JAKEBENSON saidTouch him in the penis and see if he gives you his number.


    Jake. Whore!



    Why is he wearing a ring while working out? Doesn't it make it a bit uncomfortable? Why don't you ask him that.


    That's a good idea! Maybe he would say "eh I just wear this so girls don't hit on me because I am gay. wanna marry me?"

    A little too far-fetched??? icon_confused.gif


    But really guys. I ALWAYS do this. There have been two other guys that I have started to check out in different scenarios. The most recent besides the gym guy is a guy in my classes this semester. I have been wondering if he is gay but had only made small talk with him. After two weeks I FINALLY notice a wedding ring. Dammit I need to start looking at these things!
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    Feb 02, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    For some reason the first thing I look at with people in general is their hand to see if they have a wedding ring. And it is not because I am interested in them, just something my eyes goes to right away.
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    Feb 02, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
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    Feb 02, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    If he is married don't even think of flirting or going out with him; you don't want to be that guy who broke up his marriage. And then have his wife come after you.

    Stay away from curious married men, you'll thank yourself later. There's plenty of available gay guys looking for someone like you anyway.

    Or maybe you're over analyzing how he was looking at you and he could been looking at you because you're looking at him. Don't mistake the "why does that guy keep looking at me" look for the "he's a cutie, I wonder if he's single..." look.icon_wink.gif