ALEZANDAR saidI enjoy how you mix wisdom with humor; it is very entertaining and thought provoking at the same time! but you know LilTanker someone have to give and just let go off the unnessary drama that is so typical of a break-up! I personally have no issues if a guy who I am dating all of the sudden decides to dump or leave me, and regardless of the reason; personally he most certainly is giving me a huge favor. I hate wasting people's time because they sure waste my time for others who may well appreciate my time with them! life is too short and full of better things to wasted with people who are only living it for themselves, right!
I'm in agreement with you. BUT, if you dump someone and they get pissed at you they do have every right to be pissed at you and I think many of us are forgetting that.
Just because your fine with breaking up with someone and will handle it well it doesn't mean the other person will. They are getting hurt from the other persons actions and trying to put "I was just being honest" is absolutely no way in hell an excuse or reason for the other person to not feel upset and or angry over what's taken place.
We are all entitled to our feelings and reactions and just because you or I might react or behave differently doesn't mean the other person will or has to.
I think it's a sign of respect for people as a whole when you allow them to express what ever feelings they have without judging them for it like the individual who started this thread especially when it is something that by natural design an intensely emotional experience for everyone.
You are absolutely right as always, and I mean it, really! but what is one to do my dear LilTanker? what is one to do?? do you honestly think that if you feel right about something that you would apologize for feeling so!? in the end wouldn't it be better to just let go in the now, then to remain in a relationship and in the process feel as if you are just in it because your other half doesn't want to hurt your feelings? or worse yet the awful feeling of being rejected? can you just imagine how much more damaging either way it could do to one's own self worth not to mention image!?
Don't think I don't understand what you are saying My LilTanker, unfortunately having "consideration for other's feelings", in my honest opinion seems to be a lost virtue or quality of the past. Nowadays lovers are living in the fast lane, and the sad part is that everyone seems to be traveling in the same direction and at the same speed!
I am, unfortunately, not much with the times, as I consider myself an old-fashioned kind of guy with an open mind; so you just can imagine how out of place sometimes I feel in a world where everyone is out for themselves! although I have learned to take things slow and be very very cautious before I commit to someone, and even then it doesn't garantee that tomorrow my new found "Prince Charming" will leave me so he could continue kissing more frogs, to only later realize they all turned into the "human monster" he only sees and deserves, ending him up in an endless cycle of failed and half relationships. Meanwhile you and I whom he left for someone better in the process will become a better man as we let our Prince Charming go, giving ourselves a chance for someone to appreciate us for what we are, and not what Prince Charming think we should be.