Your RJ Hot List and Buddy List

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    Mar 30, 2008 11:30 PM GMT
    So what makes you add someone to your hot list or buddy listicon_question.gif

    I have met a couple guys who want to be on my buddy list because we chatted a little. I never added them and they kind of threw a small fit over it.

    I have my own rules. If I talk to a guy and he seems cool and sexy then they get the hot list. Then if we continue to chat he gets a spot on my buddy list. Those are my rules. I have also used my hot list for marking one guy that has the body I am trying to build for myself (wassupunk, shh).

    I have made out with a guy on my hot list who has never even added me to his hot list (If I was Margaret Cho right now I would have my arms spread out wide with that look of disgust and WTF). I guess he told me I was hot in person just so he could kiss me.

    Do you have any funny stories you would like to share about a person from either list (please don't state their name)icon_question.gif
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    Mar 30, 2008 11:36 PM GMT
    I don't really like adding guys to a hot list. It seems sort of degrading to them if I'm viewing them as a piece of meat. I'll add as a buddy and see if he returns the favor. Then I'll know if I have someone interested enough to talk to me.

    Don't get me wrong, there are TONS of great looking guys, but I think I can afford them a bit more respect than throwing them in a jar labeled "Hot Junk"...

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    Mar 30, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    I've never really gotten into those lists.

    Dunno why...maybe I should start.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 30, 2008 11:39 PM GMT

    Well first, just know everyone has ideas about both the buddy and hotlists. Some don't even pay much attention to them or what they mean.

    If someone adds you to their hotlist, be honored (I am).. I don't think that means you have to add them automatically nor should they expect it.

    A buddy list to me are those people in which you enjoy chatting and have done so. It has nothing to do with anything "hot" or physical attraction. It should mean something important however... a degree of trust and apprecation. Mine means that and those on it I personally like and enjoy chatting.

    The hotlist just means you find something about that person thats hot. Simple.
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    Mar 30, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    One time a really hot guy added me to his hot list. I thought "OMG yes!" I felt honored. Then I looked at his profile and it said he marked like 800 guys hot (Again, If I was Margaret Cho right now I would have my arms spread out wide with that look of disgust and WTF)
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    Mar 30, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    Personally, I think buddy & hotlists are more trouble than they are worth. I had problems with them in the past. I really have no idea what to do with them on this site. Since I don't get to talk with many people here, there hasn't been any drama (Hooray? ... icon_cry.gif )
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 30, 2008 11:52 PM GMT
    urbanappeal saidI don't really like adding guys to a hot list. It seems sort of degrading to them if I'm viewing them as a piece of meat. I'll add as a buddy and see if he returns the favor. Then I'll know if I have someone interested enough to talk to me.

    Don't get me wrong, there are TONS of great looking guys, but I think I can afford them a bit more respect than throwing them in a jar labeled "Hot Junk"...

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    Geeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssss, I hope none of the guys on my hot list think I view them as a piece of meat icon_question.gif

    I hot list guys that have done or said something that I really liked, so I put them there to remember that. But, I also hot list guys that hot list me, as a thank you. I respect all that guys in my hot list.

    My buddy list are all cool guys, that I have chatted with and I respect them all.

    Mike
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    Mar 31, 2008 12:02 AM GMT
    Mike,

    I never said thine opinion was omnipotent! icon_eek.gif Take the humor in how I worded it. icon_wink.gif

    Haha, I just think that way. I would rather find a guy with substance on here that I think I'd like talking to, and, casually, add him to my buddy list so he can act on his opinion of me.

    I find that messaging someone often seems too awkward, or people feel required to reply back; I don't like someone to feel obligated.

    I'm just here to make friends, not to pick favorites.

    It's all cool, whatever floats your boat. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 12:19 AM GMT
    urbanappeal saidI don't really like adding guys to a hot list. It seems sort of degrading to them if I'm viewing them as a piece of meat. I'll add as a buddy and see if he returns the favor. Then I'll know if I have someone interested enough to talk to me.


    I'm kind of the opposite. If I admire a guy from afar, I'll add him to my hot list because something about him interests me, and not necessarily his body pics. It could be what he wrote in his profile. It could be because he had an adorable picture of him and his dog (nods to gigman).

    But, I agree with gigman about buddies. I wouldn't feel right about adding someone as a buddy until I'd actually had some kind of a conversation with him or had frequent exchanges with him on the forums.
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    Mar 31, 2008 12:26 AM GMT
    Aww thanks Global Citizen. I am glad that you like the picture of me and my dog.

    I should also add that I add guys if I want to stalk them...
  • EricLA

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    Mar 31, 2008 12:29 AM GMT
    My definition of "hot" is kind of broad and can depend on several factors. Sometimes I will add a guy merely for being hot to me, but it usually has to be more than that -- something in their profile, etc.
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    Mar 31, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    Gigman your on my hot list. We emailed each other some time back, and I thought you were a nice guy, plus you look good. I know I don't talk to guys for sometimes long periods but it doesn't mean I don't care for them. I'm usually taking care of things around my home or at the gym not to mention work. I'm one of those guys that does it all himself. So if any of you hit me up I promise to at least give an answer.
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  • MattyC0709

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    Mar 31, 2008 12:34 AM GMT
    MikePhil saidI respect all that guys in my hot list.

    My buddy list are all cool guys, that I have chatted with and I respect them all.

    Mike


    Awww, thanks, so I'm respected x 2! (Buddy and hottie, haha)

    I generally add to buddy list if they are cool guys who take a good interest in talking/e-mailing me.

    I don't intend on adding people to my hot-list (I'm straight), but if I were obligated to do so, I'd only add people whose bodies I admire and wish mine would look like.

    Maybe they should add a role model list, hmmm... icon_biggrin.gificon_lol.gificon_razz.gificon_wink.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 12:48 AM GMT
    my buddy list typically consists of people that I feel like I know in some way (from forum postings) or writing back and forth. I would save it for people I actually met, but I have never met anyone from RJ so I could also say it would be people I would like hanging out with.

    The hot list are people that I feel have some characteristic that I think is special from either their profile or forum postings. Sometimes I will list them just from hot pics but I try not to cause then my list would fill up too quickly. I usually wait a while before I hot list someone. There are probably 10 guys I have been thinking of putting on my list that I have not yet. Sometimes I just do it to give someone a thumbs up because I think they are a nice person.
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    Mar 31, 2008 2:04 AM GMT
    I'm not big on the hotlist/buddylist system. I'd disable it if I could. I mostly just get annoyed because alot of people never read profiles and are too quick to click those buttons prematurely. I would enjoy it more if people respected certain things and were capable of following instructions. I got a nasty email from some bitter dude the other day who called me rude and unapproachable. The first email he sent had his pix unlocked and then he just randomly put me on his hotlist without even asking me. I replied back and I sacrastically thanked him for having great reading skills. He got all bent of shape and I told him if he bothered reading my profile he would've realized that there is a way that I like to be approached. In short, I got the last word and ended up blocking him and several others because of the hotlist/buddylist thing.

    How hard is it to talk to someone first before just clicking those buttons on a whim? I only have one person on both lists because he's the only one came at me correctly.

    Hotness is more then just a physical thing for me. I see lots of hot people daily. Big whoop. Maybe I'm being difficult but I just feel if you can't talk to me then I don't want to be anyones list regardless of how complimentary it might be.
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:04 AM GMT
    I also once had a guy become angry with me when I took him off of my hot list. We had exchanged a few emails, but I still barley even talked to him. I couldn't do much more then laugh at him. I had no idea some people took it so personal.
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:06 AM GMT
    well, gig...I'd be upset if I fell off your hotlist...

    wait, am I on your hotlist?
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:09 AM GMT
    To be on my buddy list, I have to have gotten to know the person and feel like we have made a personal connection, like a buddy in real life.

    I dont think I hotlist guy...Seems like pornoing them....let me run and take a quick look.


    ...oh, ok...one guy on my hotlist. But you cant see his face. I thought his ass in his briefs was hot. So I was right, I do think it is like porno. tee hee hee ... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:18 AM GMT
    I think instead of hot list, it should be "I like list" or favorites or something.
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidI think instead of hot list, it should be "I like list" or favorites or something.

    ....Wank Bookmarks? .... icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:28 AM GMT
    I know it sounds degrading but if I add somebody to my hotlist, it's kind of my way of inviting them to talk to me a little more. I guess I should change my system cause it doesn;t seem to work lol.....
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:32 AM GMT
    don't have one and probably will not create one...I'm not there yet (in terms of my comfort level)
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:55 AM GMT

    If I see anyones picture in the forum or just browsing and I automatically say "damn!" or spring a woodie, I add them to my hotlist ASAP. Guys on my buddy list all give me the warm and fuzzies whenever they message me.
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:03 AM GMT
    Caslon said....Wank Bookmarks? .... icon_wink.gif
    icon_eek.gif For a man with no testosterone you sure are a horn dog!!
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:05 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    If I see anyones picture in the forum or just browsing and I automatically say "damn!" or spring a woodie, I add them to my hotlist ASAP. Guys on my buddy list all give me the warm and fuzzies whenever they message me.

    Bingo.

    I'll probably get flamed for revealing my ulterior motive, but my hotlist is all about bookmarking profiles that make me say "wow" out loud. I guess my profile headline kind of says it all. I very much enjoy all of the amazing photos you guys post, and my hotlist is a convenient way to find your profiles, again.