Would you date a guy with a disability? Or is it too much?

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    Feb 03, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    I had a boyfriend who was deaf. I learned sign language in a week(quick study) to learn to better communicate. I mean it wasn't all that challenging to me except he get fustrated when he wouldn't understand somethings. But for the most part it was ok we lasted 3 years. I would date a deaf guy again but other disablilities..i don't know. Guess it depends. How about you guys?
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    Feb 03, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Do you mean like ADHD disabled or like South Park Timmy!! in wheelchair disabled?
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    As long is not erectile dysfunction....or assburger...... :]
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    yes. y wouldn't u?
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    If you mean physical disability, of course.
  • d_1M

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    Feb 03, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    Sylas saidDo you mean like ADHD disabled or like South Park Timmy!! in wheelchair disabled?


    i have the same question........lol
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    Sure.
  • owen19832006

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    Feb 03, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    dont see why not...
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    darksaiyan saidI had a boyfriend who was deaf. I learned sign language in a week(quick study) to learn to better communicate. I mean it wasn't all that challenging to me except he get fustrated when he wouldn't understand somethings. But for the most part it was ok we lasted 3 years. I would date a deaf guy again but other disablilities..i don't know. Guess it depends. How about you guys?


    I personally don't consider many things to be disabilities, such as being deaf, or let's say soldiers coming home from wars, that have very unfortunately lost limbs. I haven't ever met someone who has endured a traumatic experience from war, or was even born differently who wasn't one of the strongest and most positive people I've ever met. In a way it makes me jealously happy for them. I think of it more as a unique quality, and if they're able to take what life has given them and become a positive force and grow stronger from it, then more power to them!!

    Everyone is unique and has different paths and hurdles in life to overcome, and all that matters if you are there to support them, and love them for the way they are. So props to you for lasting 3 years!! icon_wink.gif It proves that you're a person open to the different things that life throws at ya, and you stand behind the ones you love!
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    Why not? I would love to date a deaf guy, I always wonder what it would be like lol
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    Feb 03, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    iVan90 saidAs long is not erectile dysfunction....or assburger...... :]



    witty remark......i kinda like it.icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 04, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    dating someone with a split personality would be interesting. Getting someone new every night lol
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    Feb 04, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    How would you feel about dating a guy in a wheelchair? My friend, whos straight, was paralyzed in high school during a car accident. He has had difficulty getting into the dating scene. From what I have read online, even though he cannot feel very well below his level of injury, sexual organs still function.
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    Feb 04, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    Inability to walk? No prob.

    Inability to be empathetic, decent and honest, that's one retard I ain't touching. Some disabilities are beyond repair.
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    Feb 04, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    darksaiyan saidI had a boyfriend who was deaf. I learned sign language in a week(quick study) to learn to better communicate. I mean it wasn't all that challenging to me except he get fustrated when he wouldn't understand somethings. But for the most part it was ok we lasted 3 years. I would date a deaf guy again but other disablilities..i don't know. Guess it depends. How about you guys?


    I think it would depend on the guy, and on the disability as well. I mean, I tried dating a sweet guy who was a little schizophrenic...to the point that it would be regarded as a disability...and although I adored him, it just couldn't work because I never knew what to expect with him.

    Although seeing as how I've got Asperger's Syndrome, and I'm most comfortable when I can read people a little easier in person, it's entirely possible that it was just a lack of compatibility. We were friends for a long time after, but have kind of fallen out of touch lately.

    I can't imagine I'd have an issue dating a guy who was hearing or vision impaired...they are, after all, just one of the five senses we usually possess, right?

    Does "asshole" count as a disability? ;) I'm no good dating them. LOL
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    Feb 04, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    Am currently dating a guy who some would call disabled. A car accident when he was a small child left him with some brain damage, so he stutters when he talks and can have a temper sometimes. But he is the most caring person i know and someone i love very dearly. He was also hurt at work last year and has been rehabing like mad to walk unaided again, so i suppose im dating someone with two different types of disabilities, but i wouldnt trade it for anything.
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    Feb 04, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    I would no problem at all its complicated for me but I'm learning again sign language for a guy I really like I want us to meet half way and thus things are working out at least for the most part at least he doesnt have to hear me sing in the shower Lol
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    Feb 04, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    Both my late and current partners had/have disabilities. Every morning I put my husband's socks and shoes on for him, and tie them, like I did today. It's my pleasure to do that for him.

    Why would I not, and how could that be "too much" for the man I love? And send him off to do more good for our gay community than any 20 other guys would ever do, though he should have begun enjoying his retirement over 10 years ago. Yet he loves to do it, so I don't mind when he pokes me awake, and says he needs his socks and shoes put on before going to his office.

    Plus he does things for me, too, when my own disabilities act up. He drives me around in the car, cause I rarely drive now, helps me out of bed when I need it. And on our really bad days, one or the other will help out in the shower -- which actually is a kind of bonus. icon_wink.gif

    I suppose when you're young & fit, a disability is a more significant issue, because you may not want that Albatross around your neck. When you become disabled yourself, it becomes a way of bonding with another disabled guy. And you help each other out.

    For a younger guy, your love for him is gonna hafta see past whatever that disability is. And that decision will have to be yours, I can't make that one for you. But to quote an old saying: "Love conquers all."
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    Feb 04, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    I have never dated or went out with anyone with physical disability so can't say am 100% sure I will. But theoretically speaking it shouldn't be an issue.
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    Feb 04, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    Yeah , I had a string of them last year.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 04, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    I've encountered 2 or 3 deaf gay men on the internet, and my heart goes out to them. One was mentally challenged. Like how many times does God or whoever have to club you like a baby seal before you give up? Deaf, gay, and mentally challenged, and he was on the internet in northern fucking Ontario chat rooms looking for strokes, looking for someone to validate him. I was appalled (sp?) by the insults that were hurled at him in the "gay" chat room.
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    Feb 04, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidInability to walk? No prob.

    Inability to be empathetic, decent and honest, that's one retard I ain't touching. Some disabilities are beyond repair.


    Agreed! That hits the nail on the head!
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    Feb 04, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    i dated a deaf guy

    but i met some one with a mental & physical imparement, i thought he was ok, but y'know what Disabled or not they are often just like oter guys he just wanted sex and he cheated like WOW
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 04, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    yes, i would. i would not have a problem with it.
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    Feb 04, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    buffcollegeguy21 saidHow would you feel about dating a guy in a wheelchair? My friend, whos straight, was paralyzed in high school during a car accident. He has had difficulty getting into the dating scene. From what I have read online, even though he cannot feel very well below his level of injury, sexual organs still function.


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