I took some RJ advice...

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    Mar 31, 2008 2:35 AM GMT
    ...and actually had a conversation with a very attractive guy at my gym today.

    A while back, I had asked him about some wrist strap things he uses when lifting (they take the strain off your hands and fingers...good for guys like me with potential carpal tunnel). That was about it...just a quick question.

    Anyway, he was there today. BUT, instead of staring at the floor like I usually do, I made eye contact a few times and said hi. He came up to me and asked how my wrists were feeling (so he must have remembered when I talked to him before - that's a good sign, right? lol). We made a little small talk, and each went back to working out.

    We were both leaving at the same time, so I decided to take a bold step and just ask his name (it's a bold step for me, ok?). Again more small talk...a few smiles.

    Anyway, I'm not sure even if he's gay or not. I'm just proud of myself for actually talking to him. Seriously...I'm REALLY shy when it comes to stuff like that.

    Just wanted to share.

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    Mar 31, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    Way to be bold!
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:39 AM GMT
    good luck....it does take guts to talk to a guy pretty much cold.
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    Mar 31, 2008 3:51 AM GMT
    Congratulations on talking to the guy... Good luck on the next move!
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:18 AM GMT
    Hey, way to get out of your shell! Even if he's not gay, you might just get a friend!
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:19 AM GMT
    Yeah, thats impressive. I think this a valuable tip too. If you can share something in common, even just wrist straps, it is easier to talk with someone.
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:20 AM GMT
    YaY, good for you! Making new friends is fun!
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    Mar 31, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    Each time you talk to a new guy -- even if nothing happens with him -- makes it easier to talk to the next one. Good job.
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    Mar 31, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    YAY!
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    Mar 31, 2008 6:04 AM GMT
    Ah! Love is in the air. LOL
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    Mar 31, 2008 9:41 AM GMT
    Very cool! Way to go!

    Kev
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    Mar 31, 2008 9:44 AM GMT
    Congrats man. Someone on here is bound to be right once you sift through all the nonsense.

  • Timbales

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    Mar 31, 2008 10:49 AM GMT
    Good for you. It can feel really good to step outside your comfort zone.
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    Mar 31, 2008 1:18 PM GMT
    "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." -Lao Tsu

    Congratulations on starting your new journey.
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    Mar 31, 2008 7:53 PM GMT
    Thanks guys! I think "stepping outside of my comfort zone" has officially (and unintentionally) become my New Year's resolution. icon_biggrin.gif

  • drakutis

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    Mar 31, 2008 8:03 PM GMT
    If anything you could have made a new friend today.
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    Mar 31, 2008 9:17 PM GMT
    Well done man icon_smile.gif

    I wish I had the courage!
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    Apr 01, 2008 2:34 PM GMT
    That does take guts, but when you do it, you see it's not so bad. And if the guy does turn out to be a snobby jerk, you might now see that it's really not all that hurtful, because after all it would be some random guy you know nothing about who chose not to socialize with whatever reason.

    Of course, this is much easier said than done, but it helps the rational to overcome the emotional when it is being too irrational and hopefully encourage you to do this more often. Apologies for the nerdy philosophical statements.
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    Apr 01, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    dr_jackl saidApologies for the nerdy philosophical statements.


    Don't apologize! I [heart] nerdy!
  • dhinkansas

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    Apr 01, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    Very cool story. Way to go!!! Per an earlier forum, when you cook dinner for him, don't wear a shirt under your apron icon_smile.gif

    It is hard not to be shy, so you get today's gold star.
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    Apr 01, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    OH, NO. I see another ongoing drama in 45 episode installments, a la Trocks. Please, keep us updated.