17, still a virgin, still in the closet, and still unhappy.

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    Feb 04, 2011 12:00 PM GMT
    So let's start with the dream I had last night.
    I met someone in a store went on a date and we kissed.
    Doesn't seem like a special dream but for me is kinda was a eye opener.
    Sunday I'm becoming 18 and I have never kissed of been kissed, I'm obvious a virgin and no one knows I'm gay.
    So I guess 2011 is gonna be a big year for me.
    First I wanna tell my parents that I'm gay, which I think they wont see it as a big problem and then I can't start to actually live!
    Like go out, make friends, start a relationship and just be me a new and improved happy me!
    (I hope)
    So what do you guys think.
    Is this realistic?
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    Feb 04, 2011 9:04 PM GMT
    It's realistic. But regarding your virginity, it's really no big deal. Do it only when you're ready and comfortable, and with the right person. There really is no age cap.
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    Feb 09, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    Vancouverite2004 saidIt's realistic. But regarding your virginity, it's really no big deal. Do it only when you're ready and comfortable, and with the right person. There really is no age cap.

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    Feb 09, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    messinkje1 saidSo let's start with the dream I had last night.
    I met someone in a store went on a date and we kissed.
    Doesn't seem like a special dream but for me is kinda was a eye opener.
    Sunday I'm becoming 18 and I have never kissed of been kissed, I'm obvious a virgin and no one knows I'm gay.
    So I guess 2011 is gonna be a big year for me.
    First I wanna tell my parents that I'm gay, which I think they wont see it as a big problem and then I can't start to actually live!
    Like go out, make friends, start a relationship and just be me a new and improved happy me!
    (I hope)
    So what do you guys think.
    Is this realistic?


    Yes it is realistic. Just take it slowly. Coming out is never easy. It takes time to adjust.
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    Feb 09, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    well don't worry man you are young.I am a virgin too icon_redface.gif and i am 22
  • starboard5

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    Feb 09, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    Don't create any pressure for yourself. I didn't come out until I was almost 26, and I was still a virgin. Truth is I was glad I waited. I had a much stronger sense of myself and wasn't vulnerable to all the nonsense that can bombard you when you're first out. As anyone here will tell you...Take Your Time.
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    Feb 09, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    May you grow up to be righteous,
    May you grow up to be true,
    May you always know the truth,
    And see the lights surrounding you,
    May you always be courageous,
    Stand upright and be strong,
    May you stay forever young,
    May you stayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy forever young..


    Some good advice from a great man.
    -BD
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    Feb 09, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    I agree with the others. Don't rush is and for sure lose your virginity to someone you care for and wish to remember. After that you can do it with whomever but the first you'll never forget.

    Coming out is always the hardest. Hang in there and Happy Birthday!
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    Feb 09, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    First of all, you live in the Netherlands. Coming out as gay shouldn't cause too many problems.

    Secondly, don't be in a hurry to lose your virginity. Not because you're reaching a certain age, or because your friends have, or because the media tells you you should have lost it by now.

    Other than a little fooling around when I was a young teen, I waited until I was 19 to be with someone. And I waited until I was dating someone I really cared about. When I gave up my virginity, I was in love and although we're not still together, we are still friends. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

    Some people tell you about their first sexual encounter with someone they didn't even know and didn't really care about. I think I would regret it if I'd done that.
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    Feb 09, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Dude, you have nothing to worry about...everything will fall into place. I didn't kiss a guy till I was 20, and it took about a half a year till I finally had sex. If you want to be happy, BE HAPPY! The one thing in the universe that you can control is how you feel.
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    Feb 09, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    Don't loose your virginity to someone you don't love. If you do, that person will stand out in your memory forever as a glaring stupid mistake that you can't forget....not that I'm speaking from experience or anything. Just don't feel rushed.
  • DCEric

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    Feb 09, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    I had my first date at 19, along with my first kiss and lost my virginity. To a woman. Consider yourself more advanced than most that you are directing your energy towards the gender you are actually interested in.
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    Feb 09, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    At 11 or 12 a buddy of mine would dry hump me while stroking my cock. But officially lost my virginity (actual vaginal penetration) at 17. It wasn't until I was 21 that I fucked a guy's ass (and he mine). Moral of the story is that losing ones virginity is a process. A process the steps of which I wouldn't mind leading you through.

    Just play safe.

    Welcome aboard!
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    Feb 09, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    You're in the netherlands and you haven't come out yet? Then again, I suppose with all the Moroccans taking over it'll get harder to do that as time goes by.
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    Feb 10, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    Don't worry it does get better, it will eventually happen for u. Just be patient after you come out too. When I came out I thought I was going to get in a relationship and all that too but it came way later.
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    Feb 10, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    cold saidDon't mean to be a bastard, but I thought the rules of this website prevented 17 year olds from joining.


    I say we vote him off the island- then welcome him back on Sunday.